How do you weekend dads do it?

[Elle Seven]

yeah thats what im banking on. Someone else told me that too. I got my own shyt i gotta work on but its so obvious that when me and her are cool, we do alot of lil family time89 activities (even if we are putting on a happy front)

but

if we get mad at each other, the phone calls she normally allows our child to make to me dont happen in the week, Facetime is dead, she tries to get the child mentally on her side in-directly, etc

makes me feel like i gotta walk on eggshells with the mom to have constant contact with our child

This is disgusting. Barring you being an abusive parent and her taking those measures to protect your child, restricting your contact with your child, down to a personal phone call, because she has beef with you is dead ass wrong. Seems like parents that do this see the child as an extension of themselves and their problems, not as individuals who have real needs for emotional development that depend on parental contact.

The thought alone of not being able to see my child because someone else had imposed restrictions on our contact sickens me. I've honestly never understood how so many brehs seem to do it.

Is your visitation ordered thru the court? Is there no way they can be made to enforce her to comply or penalize her if she does not?

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

No personal frustrations here. I actually have custody of my son but it didn't come from a damn court. I'm just nice with my mouth piece and convinced my bm that my son needed me for those crucial teen years. (That sounds good, but in reality she had finally moved on and got a new dude to help out so she didn't need to rely on the kid for financial support. My son not being around helped their relationship flourish. I can be downright machiavellian sometimes)

And even if you dont have a lawyer you still have to pay court costs, and each time you go the court basically tells you your bm gotta be Halle berry in losing Isiah for you to get custody. So then u have to undergo compliance checks for joint custody which costs money, meet with arbitrators to hash out the agreement which costs more money, and if she ever backs out on the agreement, you gotta take her to court again to get the original agreement enforced which costs more money. All this on top of keeping current with child support.

I know this the coil full of 6 figure 6 cert nikkas, but 4-500 dollars a pop to sit in front of a judge for you to still only get your kid on weekends ain't the wave

And I'm not disagreeing...

I feel for you men. I feel for my son I don't even have yet...

Society in general just don't respect men...especially black men.

Women see no value in you guys..but that's THEIR mistake.

 

[HellRell804]

And I'm not disagreeing...

I feel for you men. I feel for my son I don't even have yet...

Society in general just don't respect men...especially black men.

Women see no value in you guys..but that's THEIR mistake.

It's all by design. We were the test run, then they used the media to emasculate Asian men, now white men on deck. After white men they'll start working on toxic macho straight latino Male culture.

The goal is to increase the power of the government and to keep people dependent. Can't do that with strong men around and they know women will always vote for "free" shyt for themselves but what people fail to realize is..

 

[HellRell804]

If men got custody of kids visitation would go like this: "pick them up whenever you want, just remember they have school tomorrow, so if it's too late just take them in the morning"

Child support would go like this: "Hey the kids need some school clothes, you got half on it? Meet me at the mall I'll give you my half and u can take them shopping."

No courts, no lawyers, All that petty vindictive stuff women do keeps courts rolling in cash.

 

[Rockstar Mom]

Men need to stop being afraid of court. Contrary to popular Coli belief, most courts are doing the 50/50 route now. As long as there’s no crazy distance between y’all residences, and y’all are working normal hours, you’re definitely in favor of of joint custody

 

[Crizzy]

On some real shyt tho... Someone else said document everything. Do that. I took the advice of my sister's and shyt and copied text from my sons phone and the ones my BM would send me...had records of payments to her from my bank n shyt. Long story short went to court for joint custody...i get him Thursday through Monday and we switch holidays every year along with fall break spring break. Rotate his summer where he's with me a month and her a month. Reduced my CS and i claim him every other year on taxes. BM was on some cash grab shyt and wasnt allowing me to spend time with him like i should since i have an ole lady but karma a bytch tho

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

Have kids with random women brehs

I mean with all these mufukkas repping RAW gang, its bound to happen to some unlucky few

 

[Colonel Sanders]

I feel like the most blessed breh in the entire universe when i heard these horrors stories, i can visit my kids and take them whenever i want

 

[Balla]

Yall some good men bruhs. Most nikkas don't give a shyt about they kids and would love for the baby mom to take the kid most of the time.

I salute yall