How do you weekend dads do it?

[LastEmperor2k2]

idk its really hard to do it with this bytch

Yea i think that concept works on a smaller level

I dunno how great it is for co-parenting

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

Don’t engage in the fights. Women feed off u when u lose it. When she hang up don’t call back. She say u can’t see the kids ok I’ll wait.
My bm was hell tho. She knew how to push my buttons.
I understand each situation is different.

yeah i definitely engage and probably shouldnt

how did u get through the torture? how many years was it like this? and what happened at the end?

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

You gotta love women's advice. It always sounds good to the ear even if it's not based in reality.

As if nikkas have unlimited funds to keep a roof over his own head, bills paid, contributing to another household, and to keep "paying lawyers until he wins"

Then when he's broke and financially ruined, the courts will say he doesn't have the proper structure to raise the child and he gotta start all over again. $$$$$$$

And people wonder why the legal system always sides with the women.

O I'm sorry I didn't know you needed a lawyer...

O that's right you don't.

I personally KNOW men who are going to court withOUT lawyers...

Guess that didn't cross your mind.

Sure you have court fees but what else is the man to do...

Obviously if her stupid ass can't be an adult and solve the issues outside of it he'll have to go that route.

Don't take your personal frustrations out on me.

 

[Dad]

by the record, im not on any kind of legal thing. i may have misguided people

we are just an "on and off" family.

i can see my child more if i "behave"

i see my child less it seems when me and her mom "fight"

thats probably not healthy and no we dont live together

WTF?!

 

[cheek100]

yeah i definitely engage and probably shouldnt

how did u get through the torture? how many years was it like this? and what happened at the end?

10 years. It wasn’t easy I got dragged like never before.
In the end I got custody of the youngest bc by 12 yrs old she didn’t want to live with her mom anymore. BM didn’t want to be a real mom anyway.
Hell I was the one taking them school shopping, planning/paying for bdays, showing up for school functions. All that paid off.
Now guess who they want to see during holidays, bdays, when they need advice etc

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

WTF?!

@ your screen name

but for real, what u wanna know?

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Yeah, I could only imagine you’d have to have that fight mentality.

 

[FSP]

this might be harsh but its worst when you thought u didnt want the child and u got hooked once the baby came out

its truly like that scene from "Big Daddy" at the end

That's it maybe

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

10 years. It wasn’t easy I got dragged like never before.
In the end I got custody of the youngest bc by 12 yrs old she didn’t want to live with her mom anymore. BM didn’t want to be a real mom anyway.
Hell I was the one taking them school shopping, planning/paying for bdays, showing up for school functions. All that paid off.
Now guess who they want to see during holidays, bdays, when they need advice etc

salute my dude

real dads stand up

i guess i should look at it as a marathon, not a sprint.

 

[Dad]

@ your screen name

but for real, what u wanna know?

How the fukk did you get yourself in this situatuation? It sounds like she got you by the balls ().

I can’t put all the blame on her cuz you had to have known this broad was crazy before you knocked her up.

 

[Apollo Creed]

You gotta love women's advice. It always sounds good to the ear even if it's not based in reality.

As if nikkas have unlimited funds to keep a roof over his own head, bills paid, contributing to another household, and to keep "paying lawyers until he wins"

Then when he's broke and financially ruined, the courts will say he doesn't have the proper structure to raise the child and he gotta start all over again. $$$$$$$

And people wonder why the legal system always sides with the women.

Lmfao.

 

[HellRell804]

O I'm sorry I didn't know you needed a lawyer...

O that's right you don't.

I personally KNOW men who are going to court withOUT lawyers...

Guess that didn't cross your mind.

Sure you have court fees but what else is the man to do...

Obviously if her stupid ass can't be an adult and solve the issues outside of it he'll have to go that route.

Don't take your personal frustrations out on me.

No personal frustrations here. I actually have custody of my son but it didn't come from a damn court. I'm just nice with my mouth piece and convinced my bm that my son needed me for those crucial teen years. (That sounds good, but in reality she had finally moved on and got a new dude to help out so she didn't need to rely on the kid for financial support. My son not being around helped their relationship flourish. I can be downright machiavellian sometimes)

And even if you dont have a lawyer you still have to pay court costs, and each time you go the court basically tells you your bm gotta be Halle berry in losing Isiah for you to get custody. So then u have to undergo compliance checks for joint custody which costs money, meet with arbitrators to hash out the agreement which costs more money, and if she ever backs out on the agreement, you gotta take her to court again to get the original agreement enforced which costs more money. All this on top of keeping current with child support.

I know this the coil full of 6 figure 6 cert nikkas, but 4-500 dollars a pop to sit in front of a judge for you to still only get your kid on weekends ain't the wave

 

[Diondon]

If they're a lil older
Give em a phone and tell em to hide it from their momma
It's not perfect but its something
Unless you wanna get direct and go to court

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

How the fukk did you get yourself in this situatuation? It sounds like she got you by the balls ().

I can’t put all the blame on her cuz you had to have known this broad was crazy before you knocked her up.

yeah that was bad choice of words to say "behave" like im some slave but i'm not. She just has her most of the time obviously being the mom and all.

on good terms she likely thinks...

She is = 1a parent
I am = 1b parent

bad terms
She is = #1 parent
I am = #2 parent

that formula is bad and makes everyone confused

 

[Dad]

yeah that was bad choice of words to say "behave" like im some slave but i'm not. She just has her most of the time obviously being the mom and all.

on good terms she likely thinks...

She is = 1a parent
I am = 1b parent

bad terms
She is = #1 parent
I am = #2 parent

that formula is bad and makes everyone confused

You’re gonna have a lot of work on your hands as your daughter gets older.

Good luck, breh - I really hope things work out for you and your daughter