how early into the courtship phase do you start asking uncomfortable or personal questions and probe for the dealbreakers

[Jalether]

For me if you are planning to have a meaningful relationship with a woman, it's counter productive to discover the dealbreakers and redflags months into
the relationship.

I want to know the nitty gritty as soon as possible so we don't waste each others time. I say 2nd date is when I really start tactfully probing for answers

For example,My homeboy unknowingly maintained a relationship with a girl that didn't want kids and that was a dealbreaker for him so He essentially wasted 11 months with her.

 

[bnew]

yeah, got to find out their stance of religion early and makes yours known early as well.

 

[Jalether]

yeah, got to find out their stance of religion early and makes yours known early as well.

politics,culinary skills,upbringing-single/two parent household etc are not off the table either

You fukk around and wife up a candace owens

 

[The ADD]

Asking about courtship on the Coli

This should be fun

 

[MikelArteta]

politics,culinary skills,upbringing-single/two parent household etc are not off the table either

You fukk around and wife up a candace owens

Africa

 

[The God Poster]

There really shouldn’t be a set time

If y’all vibing certain convos will come up. Scripting everything is why a lot of y’all scare off women

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

Me: "you ever have a train ran on you?"

"What's your bodycount?"

"You ever fukk with cacs?"

"Do you have a dog?"

 

[AllHolosEve]

-I start asking these questions immediately on the phone before I take her anywhere. I'll tell a woman what I'm looking for overall & see where her mind's at. I'm about compatibility so we need to figure out if we're just gonna be friends with benefits right away.

 

[Thavoiceofthevoiceless]

There really shouldn’t be a set time

If y’all vibing certain convos will come up. Scripting everything is why a lot of y’all scare off women

This is the correct answer. Don't be so blunt about it when you ask either.

 

[Shadow King]

How many posts already talking about "she'll spill everything cause of real niqqa pheromones without you asking"...

 

[Sterling Archer]

If you’re courting then you are looking for a relationship. So as soon as possible really. These types of questions can be asked early if done right. It’s not a timestamp, more of a vibe you can create to ask this stuff. And that can happen before the first official date.

 

[bnew]

There really shouldn’t be a set time

If y’all vibing certain convos will come up. Scripting everything is why a lot of y’all scare off women

eh, i'm not gonna wait for some chick to invite me to some religious service or event to find out i'm vehemently opposed to participating in any such activity. better they know from the jump.

 

[Shadow King]

There really shouldn’t be a set time

If y’all vibing certain convos will come up. Scripting everything is why a lot of y’all scare off women

Simply playing the game they built...

 

[Thavoiceofthevoiceless]

Simply playing the game they built...

Not necessarily as coming off too blunt to early can definitely be a turnoff and that goes for both men and women.

Personally for me, I like asking pretty early when was the last time a chick had sex because it lets know beforehand if someone else is still in the picture, so I’ll ask while sneakily adding in the emotional aspect to it.

 

[Shadow King]

Not necessarily as coming off too blunt to early can definitely be a turnoff and that goes for both men and women.

Personally for me, I like asking pretty early when was the last time a chick had sex because it lets know beforehand if someone else is still in the picture, so I’ll ask while sneakily adding in the emotional aspect to it.

That is also blunt, and also a question that's almost guaranteed a false answer.