how early into the courtship phase do you start asking uncomfortable or personal questions and probe for the dealbreakers

[Thavoiceofthevoiceless]

That is also blunt, and also a question that's almost guaranteed a false answer.

Not necessarily if you ask when and what happened? If you're vibing well and having good convo, then most will answer the question.

It's all about the comfort level you establish before you ask those type of questions. Most dudes are good at conversing so they'll ask the question right off the bat and get a false answer or turnoff altogether.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

My wife and I discussed a lot of these things on our first date. Keep in mind, we were both 36. I’ve always asked important questions early, because I don’t like wasting time, or money.

 

[Shadow King]

Not necessarily if you ask when and what happened? If you're vibing well and having good convo, then most will answer the question.

It's all about the comfort level you establish before you ask those type of questions. Most dudes are good at conversing so they'll ask the question right off the bat and get a false answer or turnoff altogether.

Agree to disagree

 

[Lamar Givens]

I get answers to the questions I need to know within a month.

Then I sit back and watch how they move.

I might even put them in certain situations just to see how they respond to it.

This is chess not checkers!

 

[The God Poster]

eh, i'm not gonna wait for some chick to invite me to some religious service or event to find out i'm vehemently opposed to participating in any such activity. better they know from the jump.

Simply playing the game they built...

Everything is a game with y’all lol

My point was if you are having a genuine good convo/time & learning about each other certain convos will come up.

A lot of times without even having to ask. If shorty knows you not religious because you’ve been actually communicating lol

She won’t ask you to come. Y’all make it harder than it is.

 

[The God Poster]

I get answers to the questions I need to know within a month.

Then I sit back and watch how they move.

I might even put them in certain situations just to see how they respond to it.

This is chess not checkers!

It’s neither lol

Unless you have a mental disability you can typically tell if someone is compatible usually after a few convos.

 

[Lurkio]

after I beat…

 

[Paper Boi]

I would ask them before we even go on our first date






on my podcast

 

[Shadow King]

Everything is a game with y’all lol

My point was if you are having a genuine good convo/time & learning about each other certain convos will come up.

A lot of times without even having to ask. If shorty knows you not religious because you’ve been actually communicating lol

She won’t ask you to come. Y’all make it harder than it is.

It actually isn't, which is why I don't play. But it's called "the game" for a reason...

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

Yall nikkas asking women about religion and politics and shyt smh. Man what the fukk

 

[The ADD]

Heating up

 

[Ohene]

personally i dont try to force it, i wait for these things to come up naturally over the first 2,3 dates

 

[Jalether]

eh, i'm not gonna wait for some chick to invite me to some religious service or event to find out i'm vehemently opposed to participating in any such activity. better they know from the jump.

If you date African chicks, this is bound to happen and religion is a massive dealbreaker for most of them. they would never seriously date an atheist

It's also very common for Nigerian millenial women (and older generation) to refer to their preacher as "daddy" (I kid you not) and also involve them in all key aspect of the relationship

 

[WIA20XX]

Good question.

Rule#1, a dude shouldn't be thinking about long-term situations until he's mastered the short term situation.

If you ain't got a gaggle of hoes coming into your bedroom, then you not in position to really do anything long-term. You haven't seen enough of female nature. And you haven't proven to yourself to be able to replace a scalawag.

Most guys get stuck in relationships with bad women because they do not have the faith in themselves to replace that bad woman. "Maybe it will go back to how it was ..."

In terms of screening,

I say, get that info BEFORE you smash. She might have a snapper that will cloud your judgement.

Everybody is gonna tell you to look out for this and that, but you should also have your own independent criteria.

I don't date girls that have pets, for my own reasons, mainly that I'm allergic....to the BS that comes with her "baby". For you younger dudes, it's really in Vogue for a baddie to have a cat or a purse dog. I pray for y'all

If a chick like to talk during a movie... Etc

 

[Lamar Givens]

It’s neither lol

Unless you have a mental disability you can typically tell if someone is compatible usually after a few convos.

I’m happily married, 10+ years. My playbook never failed!

But good luck out there!