How many of y’all think it’s wrong to shower with your child

[invalid]

You call that man daddy

I don’t have a daddy, I have a father.

 

[SNG]

I knew someone who showered with her son (he was about 2).. I didn’t find that to be weird BUT she used to let him shower with her friend (female) was living with her at the time…that child used to be super excited to go in the shower with her…idk maybe I was reading too much into it…but it was odd as hell to me

Nah my kid ain’t showering with other people breh. Especially if lil nikka gettin excited. Once they old enough and start asking questions that is the cut off.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

When I was little, like 3-4, mom used to bathe with me and my little brother. Was just easier/efficient to do it like that.​

Later on I found out she did it also to protect us from bullets.​

 

[old pig]

Nah my kid ain’t showering with other people breh. Especially if lil nikka gettin excited. Once they old enough and start asking questions that is the cut off.

preaching to the choir!

 

[old pig]

When I was little, like 3-4, mom used to bathe with me and my little brother. Was just easier/efficient to do it like that.​

Later on I found out she did also it to protect us from bullets.​

damn.

 

[IvyLane]

I sometimes shower with my 2-year-old daughter. It is faster, and I can get us both clean at the same time. I am female. I don’t shower with my sons. That would be inappropriate.

 

[MarrieGotBandzzz]

Untill 4/5 years old but you should teach how to shower solo as soon as possible

 

[SupaDupaFresh]

The fact you immediately take it sexual says a lot about you.

Its not about how he takes it. Hes a grown ass man that had the opportunity to learn and understand all the dynamics and nuances of nudity at his own pace--enough that he understands the impact of how you introduce it to a child with a still developing mind and worldview.

Because of either the weirdo self centered narcissism of their parents, who clearly cared more about their own entitlement than the mental growth of their children, or some sort of archaic cultural custom, a child who associates nudity with being around and seving his fat, big footed demanding mother rather than with his own hwalthy privacy, independence, comfort and intimacy, is a child who is going to grow up with inevitable sexual confusion, self esteem, and developmental issues.

Young men especially are mentally hardwired, even at a young age, whether they realize it yet or not, to associate the female body--its shape, its form, its parts, the genatalia--with sex and reproduction.

Imagine when a young man hits puberty, naturally begins to feel curious about the opposite sex and the female body and because of the self centered behavior of his parents he cant even explore this comfortably without feeling reminded of his fukking mother.

You have got to be some type of extreme narcissist of a parent with no regard whatsoever for the independence and self esteem of your child to impose (sometimes even demand) your nudity on them rather than giving them the opportunity to discover it through healthy, independent lives and their own comfortable privacy. Thats the level of confusion that produces serial killers, rapists and pedophiles. People whos sexual comfort, confidence and esteem was psychologically damaged by their own selfish and intrusive parents.

Parent's who's authoritative mentality that they own "their kids" like property with no entitlement to respect or privacy couldn't even stop at the child's right to healthy independent sexual growth

Disgusting and sad. For the record i had a very narcisstic Uncle who felt entitled to walk around "his home" in front of "his kids" completely whenever he came out the shower. He sometimes even had his daughters do shyt for him like pull out his ingrown hairs or put lotion on his back. It was sick, selfish and of course those daughters are all sexually confused, socially awkward, perpetual virgins in their late 20s completely uncomfortable with boys or sex and addled with anxiety and depression. Dont do this shyt to your children

 

[SupaDupaFresh]

A lot of these chics be waaaay too comfortable showing their naked bodies to their children.

My mom never did no mess like that.

But I was listening to this lil young chic last night talking about how her 2 year old son (who isn't breastfeeding no more) gets into bed with her and just pops a titty in his mouth, or he kisses all over them, or randomly grabs on them.

My mama would have slapped me doing some mess like that. After she finished breastfeeding me, I was done.

Also, there's this other chic I used to mess with who would get butt naked in front of her son. (He's 2, but still....)

That would legit have me like cause I wasn't used to nothing like that.


Then, I heard about this other chic (I know her but a mutual friend told me this happened) who gets butt naked around her 7 or 8 year old son. Lil homie would go around other ppl talking about "I seen my mom's breasts, she has huge areolas they're really big"






That foolishness had me like

These are narcisstic parents who feel so entitled over control and intrusion of their children they won't even allow them the opportunity to discover nudity and sexuality through their own independent live and through a healthy, loving relationship with a sex partner. It really is a passive form of abuse and control. Some mothers (and fathers), because of their own pathetic self esteem issues, feel so entitled over their kids and so threatened by their independence, they don't even want them to discover nudity on their own. They impose themselves on them in every way and I feel so sorry for all the children you just mentioned. They are growing to grow into such poor self esteem and developmental issues especially when it comes on to their own sexual health, which was taken away from them.

 

[Numpsay]

I think it's ok at the baby age, but once a kid is potty trained they should be given a bath separately. I suspect this showering together is likely out of laziness in most cases, and I guess it saves time. But some of it is questionable and there are women out here that are some sexual deviants.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

How much of a lazy piece of shyt parent are u that u cant bathe you child separate from yourself

Like shyt is that time consuming

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

These are narcisstic parents who feel so entitled over control and intrusion of their children they won't even allow them the opportunity to discover nudity and sexuality through their own independent live and through a healthy, loving relationship with a sex partner. It really is a passive form of abuse and control. Some mothers (and fathers), because of their own pathetic self esteem issues, feel so entitled over their kids and so threatened by their independence, they don't even want them to discover nudity on their own. They impose themselves on them in every way and I feel so sorry for all the children you just mentioned. They are growing to grow into such poor self esteem and developmental issues especially when it comes on to their own sexual health, which was taken away from them.

I get what you're saying but I think you may be thinking a lil too much into this, bro

 

[SupaDupaFresh]

I get what you're saying but I think you may be thinking a lil too much into this, bro

Maybe I am, but sit down with any mental health expert and theyll tell you the same shyt. Parents that get naked or bathe in front of "their kids" in "their house" when its not necessary, who breast feed their children even as toddlers, who still kiss their child on the lips (and sometimes demand it) well into even their middle school years, shyt like that. Its all passive forms of entitlement and even abuse towards a child--clouded under the guise of affection and close connection-that inhibits their log term self esteem and sexual confidence.

Once a child becomes self aware at all (past age 2) thats when a parent should begin taking those steps to give their kids healthy space and boundaries to discover their independence and grow into their own. Parents that insist on doing shyt like bathing with their kids, being naked in front their kids, kissing their lips, breast feeding them well past infancy, sleeping in bed with them or inviting the child to sleep with them in their bed for no reason...these parents are passively abusing their kids and doing tremendous damage to their growth.

I've never once seen a man or woman who had this sort of overly affectionate relationship with their family/mother/father/siblings that did not end up becoming a woefully socially underdeveloped, anxiety ridden adult with issues. I do think about these things a lot tho.