How Many Of You Find Life Difficult?

[Daniel.]

I won't say hard or easy, but feels like a persistent balancing act of highs and lows, particularly the last 4 years for me. There have been very few good things I've experienced that were not soon balanced out by bad and vice versa.

For a more tangible illustration, I'm currently in a waiting room as my wife is being checked to see if she is going into labor or not - if so, I'll experience the birth of my first child today.

Last week to the day, I put my oldest dog to sleep after she was diagnosed with cancer 3 months ago.

Balance. Constantly consistent balance. Do with it what you can.

 

[Koba St]

I’ve found it easier now that I’ve discovered my purpose and working everyday towards it. The journey is hard but if you know what you’re working towards, it allows you to withstand all the difficulties, humiliations, etc that comes with it.

I think it’s harder for those who are lost because they’ve got no goal, no ambition, nothing.

 

[dizzy4111]

I make it difficult

 

[number21]

Someone's sig I believe @number21 says, "life is simple, but hard" or something to that effect. I identify with that. I'm doing better than most in demographics bracket (age/race/etc), but I'm a largely unhappy person but I stay away from others and work through it alone as opposed to spreading misery or looking to pull others into misery for the sake of company.

At the moment I live more out of obligation then genuine desire, it is what it is.

Yeah, the quote is life isn't easy but very simple.

If cats are willing to accept how monotonous life can be.

The things that can make it hard you wil be able to compartmentalize those things and make it more simpler to deal with.

Also, if you're really are miserable like you're describing, I do suggest on working that because it can be unhealthy.

But if you're more stern and realistic about how the world works and people view as that being miserable..it's nothing wrong imo.

As, most men should have that mindset to keep them from getting caught up in nonsense and being able to lead their life and the lives of others.

 

[Bossino]

shyt would have me

Ironically as popular/well liked as handsome men are a lot of y'all don't have a fraction of the fortitude/mental/internal strength regular men do, and it's no diss/not your fault, you just don't know or regularly encounter the everyman's challenges. But that to the point of the thread is life.

 

[getmoney310cpt]

I don’t think it’s hard but it’s certainly not easy but I think the best way to put it is that life is exciting, beautiful, mysterious, and fun but can bring moments or years of extreme pain and sometimes due to circumstances that’s out of ones control which then brings the question of why do some get a fate like that which is something only God can answer

 

[Raw Lyrics]

It's difficult, I have a special needs 4 year old. First 18 months of his life he was hospitalized, far from where we lived. My wife and I drove 2 hours every other day after work from Brooklyn to Westchester to see him. Some very low moments, but we thugged it out and leaned on each other. All this while I lost my mom (cancer), my wife's stepfather caught a bad stroke that basically turned him to a vegetable where my mother-in-law has to take care of him.

We didn't dwell too much on the Ls we took, we just kept it moving. Fortunately, our workplaces were very supportive and so was our family and friends. I close on a house tomorrow, which is huge for us. So we enjoy our Ws, but we try not to get too high and when we take Ls we try not to get to low about it either (easier said than done, but doable).

 

[Lord_nikon]

 

[Bossino]

Yeah, the quote is life isn't easy but very simple.

If cats are willing to accept how monotonous life can be.

The things that can make it hard you wil be able to compartmentalize those things and make it more simpler to deal with.

Also, if you're really are miserable like you're describing, I do suggest on working that because it can be unhealthy.

But if you're more stern and realistic about how the world works and people view as that being miserable..it's nothing wrong imo.

As, most men should have that mindset to keep them from getting caught up in nonsense and being able to lead their life and the lives of others.

It's like 75% the bolded. When you see life for what is objectively/logically/pragmatically as a black man there's a whole lot of type shyt. I know how to maneuver and as stated it can be monotonous but that beats something more lively driven by instability, drama, and conflict. The thing is when you're more grounded than your peers you're an old man, a pessimist, etc. to them, so eventually you just keep to yourself more. After I move in the top of the year, and transfer I expect things to get better, but life is life and you always got to

 

[Bossino]

It's difficult, I have a special needs 4 year old. First 18 months of his life he was hospitalized, far from where we lived. My wife and I drove 2 hours every other day after work from Brooklyn to Westchester to see him. Some very low moments, but we thugged it out and leaned on each other. All this while I lost my mom (cancer), my wife's stepfather caught a bad stroke that basically turned him to a vegetable where my mother-in-law has to take care of him.

We didn't dwell too much on the Ls we took, we just kept it moving. Fortunately, our workplaces were very supportive and so was our family and friends. I close on a house tomorrow, which is huge for us. So we enjoy our Ws, but we try not to get too high and when we take Ls we try not to get to low about it either (easier said than done, but doable).

Much respect breh, post like these are guidelines on how to move through life, repped

 

[Magic Mulatto]

Easy or hard… All I know is, it’ll be over some day…

 

[QuintessentialMan]

You gotta have goals delusional or not. Then just chase them, envision the life you think you want and take 1 step towards it at a time and have fun discovering yourself and how far you will go, how much your parents or lack there of moulded you, take drugs or dont but discover yourself through your actions try to enjoy it. Its difficult but i found my coping mechanisms and have my support groups and a bit of money, its more than maneagble 70% of the time. 20% of the time amazing. 10% terryfying.

 

[buzzkill]

there's hard times like losing people but im single with no kids in my late 20s with a great career.

life is good

 

[old pig]

putting myself in other ppl’s shoes or at least trying to I’d say it’s probably harder/more difficult for most…if I didn’t have the starting point/parents who persevered thru the hard times that I had, it would’ve definitely been more difficult for me

 

[Prince.Skeletor]

For a more tangible illustration, I'm currently in a waiting room as my wife is being checked to see if she is going into labor or not - if so, I'll experience the birth of my first child today.

Congrats man!!
I can tell you one thing, be there for the woman & baby at very first, if you don't, she will never forget it lol

But big congrats, it's the first day of your new life.
In a few years you won't even remember being childless.