How Much Time in Dating Before You Decide It's a Relationship?

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Then just be there

if you not getting the commitment you want ...then you know what to do. Can't hold on to someone who don't want what you want ...but give a bit more time to cook you clearly like her and she has to be *very* smart about her decisions as she has a kid

You see how hard the single mothers get trashed and played she may have heard all that commitment bs before

Just wait it out a bit and see. If you made it known youre down for her....you did your part
She disclosed about her previous relationship and whatnot. I don't want to jump the gun but i feel she's afraid and hesitant of allowing herself to fall for me so quick for the things you've mentioned.
 
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She knows except me entertaining other women. She disclosed she's exclusively dating me but she's a busy and active parent outside of working. So, our time to kick it is rare. To not become upset, i entertain different chicks or did prior to us having sex.

well she might have thought the baby's father was the one and they were going to be together forever, I've seen it happen like that and it's difficult for a woman to want to rush and invest so much in the next person but like others have said if u feel this strongly tell her..

U gotta remember tho it's just a month breh. My last long term relationship I dated this chick for 8 months and it wasn't until 6 months gone by that I started seeing other sides to her. People can hide a lot, it will eventually come out but a month is a short span to see everything, u don't know her THAT well yet
 

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well she might have thought the baby's father was the one and they were going to be together forever, I've seen it happen like that and it's difficult for a woman to want to rush and invest so much in the next person but like others have said if u feel this strongly tell her..

U gotta remember tho it's just a month breh. My last long term relationship I dated this chick for 8 months and it wasn't until 6 months gone by that I started seeing other sides to her. People can hide a lot, it will eventually come out but a month is a short span to see everything, u don't know her THAT well yet
True and the kid's father actually died not long after his kid's birth. It wasn't a violent death or terminal illness. Freak accident and this is over 5 years ago.
 
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I don't get the hate for single mothers really. I've never discussed it on here, I've never dated a single mother but I wouldn't be dead set against it. If she wants me to take care of the kid(s) then obviously I ain't doin all that but if she got her own and don't need my help to do it then there's no issue. and there's some BAD mom's out there

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There's no set timeframe homie, it's circumstantial. So it varies on the situation and people involved.

Don't listen to the "it's too early or late" coli dudes who probably never even been in a 'just talking stage' with a female in real life...

Just follow your heart and communicate the feelings. Personally, I'd say it's time to lock her down if you truly vibing with her like that.
 
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There's no set timeframe homie, it's circumstantial. So it varies on the situation and people involved.

Don't listen to the "it's too early or late" coli dudes who probably never even been in a 'just talking stage' with a female in real life...

Just follow you're heart and communicate the feelings. Personally, I'd say it's time to lock her down if you truly vibing with her like that.
Im voicing that and she saif she's on board but eventually. I want to ask her in person what will change from now to when it's official.
 

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The title is self-explanatory but I want to know from the brehs. Honestly, I've never dated until recently. Tomorrow, the woman I am feeling with everything in me, will make a month since we met, had sex in week 4 and talked continuously minus the flu she's getting over.

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Follow your heart

My parents spent exactly 5 months from meeting date to wedding date

Still married almost 30 years later

Don't let these bitter non relationship having fishing for dap ass nikkas give you bad advice

What about all those other relationships that began because of "love" and ultimately ended in bitter divorce?

Never base a relationship such as marriage solely on love.
 

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What about all those other relationships that began because of "love" and ultimately ended in bitter divorce?

Never base a relationship such as marriage solely on love.
My feelings for her aren't merely infatuation.
 
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