I'mma get flamed for this post. I can feel it. Whatever I don't give a damn.
I don't do casual sex. I only fukk a man if I'm deeply in love with him and in a committed relationship. It's just not something I'm willing to compromise on.
I don't like the idea of having a gazillion dycks in me. Personally I don't care what weird ass social trend bullshyt men tell women to convince them to fukk and I don't give a damn about what lame ass feminist bullshyt women tell themselves to justify trying to compete with men.
Male and female sexuality and biology is different. And since I actually enjoy being a woman, I'm not out here trying to fukk like a man. So while I'm passionate and I love sex, I'm not trying to fukk a whole entire stranger. And I'm sorry but sex without an emotional connection is fukking worthless to me. I need more than random physical attraction to get me off. I need context, intensity, raw emotional passion that a lotta coward ass nikkas and hoes keep running from these days.
I'm not going to settle on a technical sexual experience with a nikka that doesn't even give a damn if I'm alive tomorrow. I don't judge if that's ur truth but I'm not built that way and I'm not interested in pretending like it.
However, I'm usually upfront with dudes about this type of thing. Sex usually comes up pretty quick in a conversation and I'm comfortable talking about it. I let men know that I'm looking for a steady companion and not just a new sexual encounter and we talk about it. Most dudes laugh and we enjoy the rest of the night. Most I never hear back from.
A few keep trying to date me to try me. After they decide to stop wasting their time, they fade out.
But some stick around. I've had dudes go fukk other chicks and then come chill with me. Lol! I'm always pleasantly surprised by the ones who genuinely enjoy getting to know me and vice versa.
Regardless I don't date looking to give up p*ssy for food or gifts b/c that's prostitution. I date to make a genuine connection with a good person that I can trust. Otherwise, I can wet my own sheets cumming from the tip of my finger on my clit. I'd prefer that to being a fukk buddy, or just fukking randoms. Tbh it literally doesn't benefit women to fukk outside of loving committed relationships. The risks (stds, pregnancy or pump hormones through ur blood via bc) the low quality of sex (can't fukk raw and condoms suck), the mind games (wanting something meaningful but lying to urself pretending u okay with him just gettin a nut and u maybe getting a nut and that's it), all that nonsense. It's crazy.
But people get lonely so it is what it is. Think what you will. But this has worked for me as a woman.
No sex, no blur. If you're not exclusive there is really no need to have sex.
May GOD bless you. One of these days its going to be a man that is willing to do anything for you cause you just want to stay in a women place. I believe good things come to women who understand their role. From me to you there is nothing wrong with a women who just wants to play her role and he be the king that respects you as queen and understands your role fully.