I think men mostly give advice on what they wish would happen to them if they were the man in the situation. That's why their opinion is not trustworthy.
Men don't give women advice with the woman they're talking to in mind. They give advice like the man in situation she's describing and what they'd want, with little regard to preservation for the woman.
For instance all the men in here telling women to have sex on the first date and it doesn't matter, would pretty much tell women in their lives that they care about the exact opposite. They'd be quoting what many of the women in here are saying if not encouraging their relatives to be even more conservative.
I can go along with that.
My feeling is that men typically don't smash and dash on women that they are truly attracted to on a physical, mental, and emotional level.
A lot of women have sex with a man because of his status/looks/confidence/style etc. but what about how he feels about you?
Men used to have to truly prove how much they wanted a woman, but now it's simping/thirsty behavior. I hear women cry about why men aren't chivalrous, but they just want the top tier dudes that's pumping and dumping them to behave that way. The guys who are truly infatuated with them enough to do all that, aren't attractive enough to them, so they end up choosing the highest value dude that shows them some interest. More times than not, he smashes for a minute, gets bored, and move on.
A lot of women want men to behave like women, and for their attraction to "grow" (especially after sex). But that's not how we operate. We need to think you are the baddest thing walking the street from the first time we see you, to ever even consider being a life partner. We need be excited to see you and at least have the desire to talk to you fairly often. If a man is non-chalant, women are drawn to that, but that's the exact opposite of how a man would feel about a woman he'd consider wifing. Yeah, some dudes fake it because they know girls like it, but it is very risky for a girl to go after a dude that doesn't seem hella interested. You just have to know is that interest only sexual or is feeling you as a person. That is the tough part, but part of the dating process is figuring that out.
