HopeKillCure
Banned
Did he say white friends?
How the hell do grown people make friends?
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the bossman
Superstar
You have to put yourself out there. No other way around it. America has a very anti-social culture once you graduate from school. You will have to make a genuine effort even when folks might not seem receptive off-rip
1. join a sports league (e.g. flag football league, bball, etc.) You end up seeing these folks every week and normally will end up at some type of bar after the game
2. take some dance classes. I actually met a few cool people going consistently. Try kizomba. it's a partner dance that originated from angola in Africa and you will most likely be outnumbered by women. If you can actually get good at it, then you will
3. do random meet ups on shyt that you are actually interested in (language learning, dancing, running, etc.)
4. gym
5. after you start making a few friends, become the dude who organizes/hosts events. these people will start bring their friends and after 2 or 3 times you now have a full fledge social circle. you'll be known as the dude who knows all these people hosting parties and shyt.
1. join a sports league (e.g. flag football league, bball, etc.) You end up seeing these folks every week and normally will end up at some type of bar after the game
2. take some dance classes. I actually met a few cool people going consistently. Try kizomba. it's a partner dance that originated from angola in Africa and you will most likely be outnumbered by women. If you can actually get good at it, then you will
3. do random meet ups on shyt that you are actually interested in (language learning, dancing, running, etc.)
4. gym
5. after you start making a few friends, become the dude who organizes/hosts events. these people will start bring their friends and after 2 or 3 times you now have a full fledge social circle. you'll be known as the dude who knows all these people hosting parties and shyt.
Jparker
Innocence lost in the EAST
Jparker
Innocence lost in the EAST
being a grown ass man going to the club to make friends
Kyle C. Barker
Migos VERZUZ Mahalia Jackson
What gym y'all go to?
Everybody including me is rocking headphones in that piece and doing their own thing.
Everybody including me is rocking headphones in that piece and doing their own thing.
dora_da_destroyer
Master Baker
- co workers
- when I moved cross country, I had a few friends in dc already, started hanging with their friends and stole some
- joined my alumni club
- made two friends off of Craigslist
- join clubs, activities, meet ups - professional clubs, rec activities, the gym (if you go to a smaller independent facility - I've made good friends at my gym), poker club, frat/sorority, civic engagement, family dinner, book club etc
- ask people if they know people in the city you're moving to and have them connect you
- hitting up the bar alone, pretty much every time I sit in the bar area of a restaurant alone I meet someone, about 1/4 of those could actually become acquaintances if I cared to make it that
Edit: neighbors, especially if you live in a big apartment complex
You probably won't find new BFF's as an adult, but it's pretty easy to find people you can at least count on to hang with or do social things together.
- when I moved cross country, I had a few friends in dc already, started hanging with their friends and stole some
- joined my alumni club
- made two friends off of Craigslist
- join clubs, activities, meet ups - professional clubs, rec activities, the gym (if you go to a smaller independent facility - I've made good friends at my gym), poker club, frat/sorority, civic engagement, family dinner, book club etc
- ask people if they know people in the city you're moving to and have them connect you
- hitting up the bar alone, pretty much every time I sit in the bar area of a restaurant alone I meet someone, about 1/4 of those could actually become acquaintances if I cared to make it that
Edit: neighbors, especially if you live in a big apartment complex
You probably won't find new BFF's as an adult, but it's pretty easy to find people you can at least count on to hang with or do social things together.
FoolinLikeABitvh
Slim Stupid (Was JohnsonGhetto) | DAFOOL|
being a grown ass man going to the club to make friends
nikka nobody hits da club to "make friends"
mfs come to u & one thing leads to anotha
Op aint got nobody to rock wit so he/she might as well hit da club/party to find mfs
GodsPerspective
Superstar
Are you interested in sports? Join a rec team and ask your teammates for a beer after practices/games
Are you interested in music? Go to your local music bars and mingle with people who have similar music tastes to yourself.
Are you interested in tech? Go to conventions in your city and strike up convos with folks you see that are looking at interesting new devices.
With interest in any activity, there is always a group of people with similar interests, and I can guarantee a group has been formed.
If you notice, for each event you go to I always mention YOU STEPPING UP AND ASKING TO HANG.
People often wait until others invite/ask. But you have to put yourself out there. It's similar to approaching a girl, but much easier because it's a group and not a one on one thing.
Practice practice practice! It'll come like second nature to you eventually.
Are you interested in music? Go to your local music bars and mingle with people who have similar music tastes to yourself.
Are you interested in tech? Go to conventions in your city and strike up convos with folks you see that are looking at interesting new devices.
With interest in any activity, there is always a group of people with similar interests, and I can guarantee a group has been formed.
If you notice, for each event you go to I always mention YOU STEPPING UP AND ASKING TO HANG.
People often wait until others invite/ask. But you have to put yourself out there. It's similar to approaching a girl, but much easier because it's a group and not a one on one thing.
Practice practice practice! It'll come like second nature to you eventually.
Inability to create adult relationships is a social deviancy.
It's actually a fukkin weird concept to me to be frank.
We're social creatures yet you can't open your mouth, turn on your phone and exchange contact info and meet up to do activities?
Excuses lamer than Drake's outfits and Trump's tans.
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It's actually a fukkin weird concept to me to be frank.
We're social creatures yet you can't open your mouth, turn on your phone and exchange contact info and meet up to do activities?
Excuses lamer than Drake's outfits and Trump's tans.
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dora_da_destroyer
Master Baker
Even before going to a small facility, I made friends at the gym 1) because I kept a concrete schedule and started seeing the same people all the time 2) group classes, again, you see each other all the time, have time to chat before after class, you're in an environment where people usually are supportive of each other so you already have a common ground of "being invested" in them at least from a fitness standpoint
Well first of all join club activitie like what do you enjoy do. Go places that there is alot of people like clubs, gym, chariy events. Some time even when walking you can find interest things to talk with people around you. Just search for types of club near you
Iceson Beckford
Rich In Spirit.
This scares tf out of me.
You mean when Im older Im going to have to be friends with Co workers??
At school shyt is so easy so the thought of having to do this is depressing asf
You mean when Im older Im going to have to be friends with Co workers??
At school shyt is so easy so the thought of having to do this is depressing asf