How to go to a bar alone with confidence

[O.Red]

That's insane 2 me.

Once you become an adult and leave the nest of your folks you're spending a lot of time dolo.


I don't get it. But if you say this is a lane; and this guy is taking his time to make videos on it maybe there is.

I think you're playing dumb, or really are oblivious about this. Either way I can't speak for your life experience

Most people are not comfortable doing things alone in public, and even when they do them in groups they often need alcohol to be baseline social. This is a common occurrence nightly

You're delusional if you think most people can walk into a bar alone and sit comfortably

 

[BmoreGorilla]

I agree about getting cool with the bartender. You fukk around and get some free drinks doing that

 

[re'up]

Why does everything on the coli revolve around p*ssy.

I was in that if you could be "cyclops or wolverine for a day" and every response but mine was about I'd be this X-man because of their roster.

yall some straight up sexual deviants.

This is coming from a stone cold p*ssy hound 2. You guys even have a guy like me shocked. thats hard 2 do.

people are generally going to a bar for some form of connection, that's kind of the hook for bars/clubs/lounges it's about connection plus alcohol, but people kind of pretend it's just about the drink, but it is mostly to connect/engage with people.

I roll by myself A LOT of the time, but it took me awhile to feel comfortable walking into a local place, and now I'm confident to walk right into some spot in Notting Hill and sit down, order the 10 course. but, most people aren't comfortable being by themselves. I was in Cipriani on Rodeo last month. That's a spot you could see Megan Markle walking out of the bar, I was just chilling by myself.

it's pretty stigmatized in society. think of something like the way going to movies by yourself was looked at like weirdo shyt. when it's really not. or traveling alone. eating alone all pretty stigmatized. but are actually very rewarding.

 

[Standing on business]

Dude in the op in a genius

 

[richaveli83]

people are generally going to a bar for some form of connection, that's kind of the hook for bars/clubs/lounges it's about connection plus alcohol, but people kind of pretend it's just about the drink, but it is mostly to connect/engage with people.

I roll by myself A LOT of the time, but it took me awhile to feel comfortable walking into a local place, and now I'm confident to walk right into some spot in Notting Hill and sit down, order the 10 course. but, most people aren't comfortable being by themselves.

it's pretty stigmatized in society. think of something like the way going to movies by yourself was looked at like weirdo shyt. when it's really not. or traveling alone. eating alone all pretty stigmatized. but are actually very rewarding.

This. When I went to Costa Rica last year, people were shocked that I went alone. The last girl I was talking to used to call me brave for taking trips alone.

 

[Shadow King]

to be fair, a lot of people don't have the confidence to go to a bar alone

my advice, have a purpose. go to eat. esp. if it's a a dope restaraunt with a bar. have 2 drinks. don't go to just sit and be that guy for hours, talking to the bartender, drinking too much, thinking the bartender will go out with you like some of my boys lol

women will always check the guy alone, and wonder what his deal is.

I don't even understand how hitting any place alone requires a boatload of confidence, at least at a certain age anyway. Just go.

And women will always check that guy if he looks the part...

Edit: I'll concede that my mind taking me as far as a violent situation in a bar has hindered me from visiting them alone, but not the social aspect.

 

[Buckeye Fever]

I always go to the bar dolo. Before I even sit down, the bartender is makin' my drink

 

[ViShawn]

Thanks for plugging your content OP

 

[coldcall]

A lot of you need this but keep laughing

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

I would recommend going during a less busy time. This is my best time to go solo not really out of confidence but more so cuz usually if I'm going solo, I'm going just because I want drink or food so fast service and convenience are factors. But I can see it being a more relaxed atmosphere for people who do lack confidence.

Funny part about it is now that a lot of people work from home a lot of my neighborhood spots be packed even during the day time lol.

Tried to go get a slice of pizza and a beer at like 3pm one day every bar seat was filled, I'm like damn don't yall work!?

 

[TRBM]

I think breh from the ig is threadstarter tbh.

Which is cool, plug your stuff but this push is a bit blatant.

I'm just gonna keep it a buck tho.... your haircut makes you look like a child, so it lessens the odds of anyone listening to what you're putting out.

You peep it

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

what is this? is this aimed toward handicapped people?

we need videos how to go to a bar

I’m sitting here like breh is way over complicating this, but I guess there are a lot of weirdos who don’t know how to go out solo and be social


I met people every single time I went to the bar solo - men and women

 

[Marc Spector]

The problem with all of these gentlemen blogs is all of their advice assumes the world is still the way it was during the 1960s .

like dog That bartender ain’t trying to talk to you either, they just want to get their tips

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

women will always check the guy alone, and wonder what his deal is.

No we won’t. Now a woman alone, she’s gonna get hella play because she ain’t flanked in potential haters. Best advice my older bro gave me as a teen - make sure to separate yourself from your girls for a bit every time you go out if you want to be approached or holler at a dude

 

[re'up]

No we won’t. Now a woman alone, she’s gonna get hella play because she ain’t flanked in potential haters. Best advice my older bro gave me as a teen - make sure to separate yourself from your girls for a bit every time you go out if you want to be approached or holler at a dude

check is maybe the wrong word - notice is maybe the better phrase. Everyone notices everyone in a bar, one way or another. And yeah, if you are alone, it's easier, approaching anyone more than 2 is kind of a headache.

this is just my experience, I rarely say a word to anyone, they will just strike up the conversation, esp. if we are sitting next to each other or close.