I can't support anyone on here who is "pro-black community" but anti-marriage

[Ashley Banks]

do you need that business contract to have a strong identifiable father IN the home?

Idk Marcuz, I wouldn't be too trusting of a man that's like "I'll get you pregnant multiple times but I refuse to marry you". Just sounds like he's planning to leave to me.

 

[marcuz]

Idk Marcuz, I wouldn't be too trusting of a man that's like "I'll get you pregnant multiple times but I refuse to marry you". Just sounds like he's planning to leave to me.

i feel the same way about marriage. i think women want it to be legally binding so they can divorce you and tax your pockets royally. if you truly love your partner, you dont need that piece of paper.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

if you truly love your partner, you dont need that piece of paper.

If you truly graduated high school/college, you don't need that piece of paper.

If you truly own that land, you don't need that piece of paper.

If that child is truly yours, you don't need that piece of paper.


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[LadySimone]

So you're basing this off the opinion that everyone wants to have kids? In a day in age where over 50% of marriages end in divorce. There is no reason to rush into marriage, whatsoever.

50%of marriages don't end In divorce. There are some demographics that have low rates of divorce. Older and college educated. White men and Asain women. White me and black women.

 

[LadySimone]

are you rich now? do you have some grand estate that you're trying to protect her from getting half of?
what imaginary treasure are you protecting against the big, bad court system besides $1,016,385 in coli cash

you're more worried about your pockets than your seed, the honor of your woman or the effects this has on your community. our marriage statistics makes us look promiscuous and irresponsible to outsiders AND ourselves. knowing that you'll be in the same place in life 60 years down the road stunts growth. not only does this remove any type of motivation to be a good enough partner to have a lasting relationship, but it encourages women to seek a relationship that leads to marriage from other groups.

the funny thing is i know you're one of the guys to constantly call "bedwench" but it sure seems like you're wiling to treat bw like bedwenches yourself. they're good enough to sleep with, clean for you, cook for you and have a herd of your kids, but for marriage? nah.

Especially that last part.

 

[LadySimone]

i feel the same way about marriage. i think women want it to be legally binding so they can divorce you and tax your pockets royally. if you truly love your partner, you dont need that piece of paper.

Marriages are more stable than common law marriages.

 

[LadySimone]

marriage is a business contract, one that usually leaves men at the short end of the stick. until laws change, more men will opt out of marriage.

i also disagree that marriage motivates women to be good partners, seems to do the exact opposite. women gain weight, cheat, become hostile, withhold sex -- it's not worth it.

and if it encourages BW to seek relationships with other groups, so be it. they'll just have to learn the hardway.

Of course because your baby momma stayed a size 6, never had you wondering about paternity, is sweet as pie and practically lives with her legs open for you.

Try again.

 

[Ashley Banks]

i feel the same way about marriage. i think women want it to be legally binding so they can divorce you and tax your pockets royally. if you truly love your partner, you dont need that piece of paper.

You can get a prenup or not have your wife be a stay at home mom or marry a woman that makes close to what you make or more.

But there's just something I don't trust about a man that's willing to get me pregnant but not willing to marry me. It just sounds like something only a man that wasn't planning on sticking around would do. If it's just a piece of paper why can't he give it to me before we have children? A family is a big thing, you should be required to have a "contract" before you decide to start one.

 

[LadySimone]

a single mother is just that, a SINGLE, MOTHER.

getting married just to get married is why divorce rates are so high. and no one claims "non thug types" who post on online forums are the men black women crave for

Divorce rates are high because people lose jobs and other financial instabilities. Have you done the education or are you just running your mouth? That's a genuine question.

 

[LadySimone]

fukk does marriage have to do with being pro black? I'm failing to see the picture here.

Ask yourself what it means to be pro black then establish how marriages can contribute (or not) to it.

 

[marcuz]

You can get a prenup or not have your wife be a stay at home mom or marry a woman that makes close to what you make or more.

But there's just something I don't trust about a man that's willing to get me pregnant but not willing to marry me. It just sounds like something only a man that wasn't planning on sticking around would do. If it's just a piece of paper why can't he give it to me before we have children? A family is a big thing, you should be required to have a "contract" before you decide to start one.

this is slut shaming for men, or wedding shaming, or whatever the hell you want to call it.

and like i've said a dozen times. that piece of paper is a business contract, it leaves men on the short end of the stick.

 

[marcuz]

Divorce rates are high because people lose jobs and other financial instabilities. Have you done the education or are you just running your mouth? That's a genuine question.

chick, we've already went over this in the thread, and you're proving my point.

the last thing a man needs when he's falling on hard times is his wife hitting him with divorce papers. now he has to hire a lawyer and fight tooth and nail for his possessions and future income

 

[LadySimone]

Over 70 posts......and not ONE nikka can explain what it is about a business contract (that a woman can opt out of any time and take a big chunk of your money & property) that makes a stronger family unit, than one where a mother and father simply stays together in the same house, raise their kids and grow old together, without the ceremony and high-risk, one-sided contract

Marriage itself don't have shyt to do with the black family. Men and women actually staying together and raising their kids in the same home, is a different story. The problem is, some of y'all honestly believe the 2 are the same thing, and they're NOT. And they don't HAVE to be.

In a common law marriage what it is that simply keeps couples together? Whatever it is couldn't it likewise keep marriages together? What if you ended up needing emergency surgery? How is a non wife going to act as your next of kin? How is she going to claim your pension if you die suddenly and she needs to take care of your kids, your funeral and your mortgage?

Grow Up!

 

[LadySimone]

I've got to applaud @marcuz consistency. Even if a topic is about space unicorns, somehow, someway he will find a way to divert it to being women's fault

Is that guy from Black Men Vent?

 

[NoSingleMothersB]

I would consider myself pro-black but I don't want a family. I don't really like children and I'm not good with commitment.