I can't support anyone on here who is "pro-black community" but anti-marriage

[Yagirlcheatinonus]

these pro black nikkas pro marriage with a white woman

 

[Rawtid]

I'm sorry just can't.

And you dont have to.

 

[marcuz]

In a common law marriage what it is that simply keeps couples together?

love and commitment.

what is it keeping men in dead marriages besides fear of the courts?

 

[LadySimone]

do you need that business contract to have a strong identifiable father IN the home?

Fathers are more likely to be in the home when that contract is there. Don't believe me, look it up. Not only that divorced fathers are more likely to have a greater active role in their kids life after a divorce than a father who was never married to the mother after they break up.

 

[marcuz]

Fathers are more likely to be in the home when that contract is there. Don't believe me, look it up. Not only that divorced fathers are more likely to have a greater active role in their kids life after a divorce than a father who was never married to the mother after they break up.

last time i asked you to back up something you claimed with stats, you disappeared. so i wont even bother this time

 

[BK Breh]

I don't see the importance of including the race bit in there but w/e

Marriage in itself is not what it used to be, however at the same time ; it has not changed at all.
The idea of Getting married because "It's the right thing to do", is completely stupid. The statistics of people staying together and actually being happy are humorous.

I'm not into getting married at all and i'm a female, so I mean all that talk about guys being the ones who don't wanna get married you can squash that. Marriage in itself just is completely overrated and should be saved for the right time, person and situation.

You can live with someone, be it someone of your race or not. Live happily ever after with kids and a house a fluffy dog, without a court document and some lousy ring.

 

[DEAD7]

Marriage is the best defense we(African Americans) have against poverty... and without going into how poverty has decimated our community, I can cosign that being truly pro black should include a pro marriage, or at least pro nuclear family outlook.

 

[Ashley Banks]

this is slut shaming for men, or wedding shaming, or whatever the hell you want to call it.

and like i've said a dozen times. that piece of paper is a business contract, it leaves men on the short end of the stick.

How?

From what I've read, men choose the short end of the stick. They don't ask for alimony when they're entitled to it, they turn it down out of "embarrassment", they marry women that make nothing or a lot less than them, they ask their wives to stop working and stay at home with the kids. Yall always say "men don't care about how much money women make" not realizing that you should care.

imo, if a man wasn't planning to leave me after we had children, he wouldn't have a problem with marrying me.

 

[marcuz]

How?

From what I've read, men choose the short end of the stick. They don't ask for alimony when they're entitled to it, they turn it down out of "embarrassment", they marry women that make nothing or a lot less than them, they ask their wives to stop working and stay at home with the kids. Yall always say "men don't care about how much money women make" not realizing that you should care.

imo, if a man wasn't planning to leave me after we had children, he wouldn't have a problem with marrying me.

thats easy for you to say when you're 70% likely to initiate the divorce

and all that stuff you mentioned can be avoided by simply not marrying them. :chloey:

 

[Will Ross]

How?

From what I've read, men choose the short end of the stick. They don't ask for alimony when they're entitled to it, they turn it down out of "embarrassment", they marry women that make nothing or a lot less than them, they ask their wives to stop working and stay at home with the kids. Yall always say "men don't care about how much money women make" not realizing that you should care.

imo, if a man wasn't planning to leave me after we had children, he wouldn't have a problem with marrying me.

A judge is not giving a grown ass man alimony.

 

[Ashley Banks]

A judge is not giving a grown ass man alimony.

Men do get alimony. A lot more would get it if they asked for it/didn't turn it down.

thats easy for you to say when you're 70% likely to initiate the divorce

and all that stuff you mentioned can be avoided by simply not marrying them. :chloey:

So you think it's smart for a woman to have children with a man that doesn't want to marry her? Why do you call single mothers scum then? Those women had children with men that didn't want to marry them.

 

[Killer Instinct]

I wish the women in the black community would be as adamant about this marry me philosophy in real life as the coli queens are here.
If you waited for the ring and paper before spreading your legs and dropping a child, it probably would help cull the disproportionate OOW birth rate AA continue to post in comparison to other races.
That may help the community out as a whole in the long term.
Just maybe.

 

[Will Ross]

Men do get alimony. A lot more would get it if they asked for it/didn't turn it down.



So you think it's smart for a woman to have children with a man that doesn't want to marry them? Why do you call single mothers scum then? Those women had children with men that didn't want to marry them.

I know a dude that lived off a woman for 7 years they got a divorce and he did not get anything she got child support though

 

[Ashley Banks]

I know a dude that lived off a woman for 7 years they got a divorce and he did not get anything she got child support though

Google is your friend, bb.

 

[marcuz]

So you think it's smart for a woman to have children with a man that doesn't want to marry them? Why do you call single mothers scum then? Those women had children with men that didn't want to marry them.

we have to go over the definition of single parent again?

sin·gle par·ent
noun
noun: single parent; plural noun: single parents; modifier noun: single-parent

1. a person bringing up a child or children without a partner.

as for the first question, i understand women are looking out for their FINANCIAL security through marriage. which is whats annoying discussing this shyt with women. y'all try to pretend its all about love and commitment, ignoring your true intentions behind wanting that business contract.

so no, i dont think its smart for women to have children with men that refuses to marry them. if i were a chick, i'd be advocating for marriage too. but i'm a guy, and i understand how proper we get fukked in the courts. so, hey sticking w/my gender on this one