I dont have close friends….

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Gold statement right here. Some of the best conversations and thoughts I've had that lead to the best outcomes, happened in my car driving by myself. We all need someone to talk to from time to time, that's human nature. But I wouldn't underestimate the value of alone time.

thats the issue, i have nobody i can talk to about dee shyt. My bestfriend is my gf but thats not enough. I cant talk shyt about her to her. I cant talk about everything i go through with her
 

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thats the issue, i have nobody i can talk to about dee shyt. My bestfriend is my gf but thats not enough. I cant talk shyt about her to her. I cant talk about everything i go through with her
Your best friend should NEVER be your woman:ufdup:
You need to get out there and get active outside
Find a hobby
Clubs
Pick up a sport
Something
I’m telling you from experience find a way to let shyt out for catharsis reasons
If you depend on your girl too much
She will lose attraction or when it’s over
It’s going to be hard to put your self back together
Find outlets breh
 

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I am watching “I love you man” and i realized i have no close friends. I dont know who i am going to have as my best man or groomsmen. This is sad…

Do yall have close friends?
Don’t be upset about it. Just know that it’s probably better that way.

All my groomsmen and best man were family. I have one close friend and he lives 1000 miles away because I learned through the years that most people aren’t your “friend”. If you ain’t grow up with somebody from the sandbox then a lot of times there’s an ulterior motive
 

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you gonna get two answers on thecoli:

one gonna clown you for being an anti-social loser

the other gonna tell you that having any friends at all is feminine

the answer is inbetween. most of my male closest friends from childhood/college i've lost touch with as life has gone on for various reasons. i got a couple, but close close like best man at my wedding close, nah?

i still got a few male friends i talk to regularly tho.

closest people i am to are my cousins tho (i lived with one for a few years so yeah)
 
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-I have a whole lot of people I consider acquaintances I see on a weekly basis & play cards & shyt with. I don't consider them friends cause outside of that we don't have each others numbers, interact & anything.
This is strange.
 

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I got 5-6 guys I went to high school with, knew them since 1991.

We hung out during high school, and all through the 90's until I'd say 2003 or so. Damn near nonstop. A few of us lived together over the years.

Anyway, life happened. People moved, got jobs with different schedules, got married, had kids, etc.

We still keep in contact and hang out occasionally. It's as if no time has passed. But as an adult it's damn near impossible to maintain a "close" friendship, for the reasons I said.

People got lives, etc. So I guess it depends on what your definition of a "close" friendship is.

Fred.
 

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This is strange.

Nope, not really.

I think that's kinda how it goes for Men the older we get; our "friends" are the people we know from somewhere/something.
I got acquaintances I know that i'm cool with and I couldn't even tell you their official names. lol


example: While I was typing I thought of this:
Did you ever see the classic hood film Thicker Than Water?
Kidada was telling Mack 10 that she RSVP'd for the wedding for (name I forget), and he said "who??"
she said "you know, Ernie (I think, lol)..." he said "Ohhhh, my little dude Ernie getting married?"
We be knowing niccas and be cool with 'em, but we don't be knowing them like that...
 

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I’ve always found it very easy to make friends, but very difficult to maintain said friendships. I never knew how much to give of myself without being taken advantage of. Also, how long before I let my real personality reveal itself? I never knew. I never felt like I could get too comfortable or else the other person wouldn’t like me anymore. Finally, I always found it particularly difficult to build relationships with other black males. There was always this weird tension. I don’t know why. I’m an adult now, so I don’t have friends, or value friendship. Oh well.
 

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My close friends are in the back of my pocket and on the laptop :wow:. Why would I want to climb another human for companionship with a family and shyt. I suck at meetups and getting too old to give shyts about being on my "When My Homies Call" steez:hubie:
 
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