I don’t know how y’all african brehs do it

[SNG]

Update: he just had a baby with her and she’s living with her parents now because he’s too tired when he gets home mind you my homie is fitting all the bills. I feel bad because he wants to see his child and she wants him to come to her parents to see her because she saying she gets more help over there from her mother. She said she wants him to give her two months to stay there. My homie has a 3 bedroom townhouse btw.

 

[JA_Carter]

You pass on her? I don't know what I'd do in that situation to be honest. Modern contexts should be taken into consideration, a lot of people are struggling to buy homes car prices have gone up, etc..

Hopefully it works out for you

Ongoing talk but she seems to think me not willing to pay means I don’t value her. I told her that I don’t know anyone personally that paid anything near 10k for a bride price, and her parents are not going to contribute to wedding so why would she want to make things harder for me I told her if she’s not willing to vouch for me to her parents and get the price down then she doesn’t really want to get married to me and she should move on

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Ongoing talk but she seems to think me not willing to pay means I don’t value her. I told her that I don’t know anyone personally that paid anything near 10k for a bride price, and her parents are not going to contribute to wedding so why would she want to make things harder for me I told her if she’s not willing to vouch for me to her parents and get the price down then she doesn’t really want to get married to me and she should move on

You bragging about a beach vacation in the other thread and then comin in here crying about wedding costs is wild

#priorities

 

[JA_Carter]

You bragging about a beach vacation in the other thread and then comin in here crying about wedding costs is wild

#priorities

Me and my girl are going

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Me and my girl are going

man u all over the Place. Doin all that ultimatum bs and stress on the relationship just to turn around and blow the money elsewhere but still on her.
Pick your battles. Relationship can only stand through so much petty arguments and that colibreh babble don't work irl

 

[Still Benefited]

Ongoing talk but she seems to think me not willing to pay means I don’t value her. I told her that I don’t know anyone personally that paid anything near 10k for a bride price, and her parents are not going to contribute to wedding so why would she want to make things harder for me I told her if she’s not willing to vouch for me to her parents and get the price down then she doesn’t really want to get married to me and she should move on

If you are black american,thats not your woman to begin with. Which is why you are having pause. This is not me on some FBA vs the world shyt,as i am a pan globalist. But righteous black men have every intention on bringing our sand to the beach when we leave the country. You love who you love,but if money is stopping you thats a problem and you dont value her. Probably based on your ideologies/indoctrination when it comes to money and women

 

[African_brehda]

Update: he just had a baby with her and she’s living with her parents now because he’s too tired when he gets home mind you my homie is fitting all the bills. I feel bad because he wants to see his child and she wants him to come to her parents to see her because she saying she gets more help over there from her mother. She said she wants him to give her two months to stay there. My homie has a 3 bedroom townhouse btw.

This is actually quite normal here. Either she goes to stay with her mum or the mum comes to stay with them. Especially if it’s her first child birth

 

[The Guru]

Bump, currently my situation

Hold your feet. Be respectful but don't let them push you past what you think is reasonable. Because this sets a precedent for both the wife and the family in the future.

 

[JA_Carter]

man u all over the Place. Doin all that ultimatum bs and stress on the relationship just to turn around and blow the money elsewhere but still on her.
Pick your battles. Relationship can only stand through so much petty arguments and that colibreh babble don't work irl

Jokes aside, it was book months again, initially I had in mind to propose to her there