I dont really feel bad when wives who "let themselves go" get cheated on...

[Seea]

Cheating is a very unfortunate thing in life. I've been with my wife for almost 20 years and married for 16, but regardless of how my wife looks I see her the same way. Patreus and a lot of other women don't and I'm not sure if I'll feel that way in 20 years or so. Marriage is very complicated. I can assure you this, he didn't do it just because he was no longer physically attracted to her there were other things at play. Part of the problem is that you younger guys pay too much attention to looks, I will tell you something they're gonna fade no matter what, unless you have superior genetics and even then 90% of you guys will be surprised how you will look compared to now in 20 years.

It's always more than just looks. But you coming with the logic on here...

 

[Malta]

Honestly? Nah. I bet his wife feels like crap. Wouldn't even be worth it. Why would you risk hurting a loved one like that?

How could a man be bold enough to step outside his family and risk crushing his wife's ego, but not bold enough to tell his wife what the deal is and keep it 100?

I'd do a lot of things, before I would cheat. Hire her a personal trainer, wardrobe consulting, hair appointments, spa treatments, etc. before I would cheat.

Usually at that age, women are already insecure about their status as women in society because of the emphasis placed on women's looks. That shyt is probably a dagger to her. I bet that hurts like hell for her. Couldn't do it or justify it.

Sorry my dude, but -



There's aging, and then there's simply letting yourself go, she let herself go. For all we know, he could have asked her to hit up the gym and she hit him with a "Oh, you don't love me the way I am???". It's not as easy as just flipping a switch, some people are so stuck in their ways that no amount of pushing and positive reinforcement will get them to budge.

Like I said, Michelle Obama isn't that much younger than this woman, but she stresses a healthy lifestyle. Also, this man's feelings shouldn't be taken into account? He had to lay down with Ben Franklin for atleast 15 years.

I wouldn't cheat, but I would end the marriage if she didn't change, you're still gonna be fukking at 60, got atleast another 10 years of semi regular sex. I'd expect the same done to me if I ended up looking like one of the Klumps at 50.

 

[ThaBoyBam]

Sorry my dude, but -

Daryl Hall & John Oates - I Can't Go For That (No Can Do) - YouTube

There's aging, and then there's simply letting yourself go, she let herself go. For all we know, he could have asked her to hit up the gym and she hit him with a "Oh, you don't love me the way I am???". It's not as easy as just flipping a switch, some people are so stuck in their ways that no amount of pushing and positive reinforcement will get them to budge.

Like I said, Michelle Obama isn't that much younger than this woman, but she stresses a healthy lifestyle. Also, this man's feelings shouldn't be taken into account? He had to lay down with Ben Franklin for atleast 15 years.

I wouldn't cheat, but I would end the marriage if she didn't change, you're still gonna be fukking at 60, got atleast another 10 years of semi regular sex. I'd expect the same done to me if I ended up looking like one of the Klumps at 50.

Word. fukk all that. Dude probably bagged that chick because he thought she was hot. shyt, she got hot to bag a good dude. I ain't even mad at the dude.

fukk all this love is love shyt. How am I as a man gonna wanna fukk something like that.

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

It's always more than just looks. But you coming with the logic on here...

logic is needed on here...too many young dumb cats spouting off cliches and bull shyt...

honestly how many hot/fine 60 yr old women you see walking around? very very few to none...cats are unrealistic...the internet has warped people's minds...most of yall are in your early 20s...so your grandmas are probably in her 60s now...how many of your grandmas friends are hot? ...i already know the answer to this question...

whatever patraeus did...i doubt it was just becuz of what his wife looks like...the broad he chose wasnt exactly a supermodel either...

 

[ThaBoyBam]

logic is needed on here...too many young dumb cats spouting off cliches and bull shyt...

honestly how many hot/fine 60 yr old women you see walking around? very very few to none...cats are unrealistic...the internet has warped people's minds...most of yall are in your early 20s...so your grandmas are probably in her 60s now...how many of your grandmas friends are hot? ...i already know the answer to this question...

whatever patraeus did...i doubt it was just becuz of what his wife looks like...the broad he chose wasnt exactly a supermodel either...

But do we know how long she been ?

When the last time dude went home on some shyt?

shyt go deep brehs. She probably been feel off with all them other qualities that kept him faithful. She probably started complaining about homie being away to much and he hit her with the

And lets not act like she aint no military wife We know how they can be when they man go away

Just sayin

 

[DaChampIsHere]

Sorry my dude, but -

Daryl Hall & John Oates - I Can't Go For That (No Can Do) - YouTube

There's aging, and then there's simply letting yourself go, she let herself go. For all we know, he could have asked her to hit up the gym and she hit him with a "Oh, you don't love me the way I am???". It's not as easy as just flipping a switch, some people are so stuck in their ways that no amount of pushing and positive reinforcement will get them to budge.

Like I said, Michelle Obama isn't that much younger than this woman, but she stresses a healthy lifestyle. Also, this man's feelings shouldn't be taken into account? He had to lay down with Ben Franklin for atleast 15 years.

I wouldn't cheat, but I would end the marriage if she didn't change, you're still gonna be fukking at 60, got atleast another 10 years of semi regular sex. I'd expect the same done to me if I ended up looking like one of the Klumps at 50.

Maybe I've just wasn't raised to see marriage that way. Just seems a little trife. You may call her "Ben Franklin", but from my understand she did a lot for him and supported him in all his efforts. If someone holds you down for that long and you do them dirty, you're fukked up. Not worth it. Not worth the personal embarrassment, not worth the hurt, just for a nut.

The woman he cheated with, frankly doesn't look that good. And if you read the stories, it seems like she more so chased after him and he kept playing into things, rather than it being his wife being stubborn.

honestly how many hot/fine 60 yr old women you see walking around? very very few to none...cats are unrealistic...the internet has warped people's minds...
whatever patraeus did...i doubt it was just becuz of what his wife looks like...the broad he chose wasnt exactly a supermodel either...

Exactly. I don't know what dudes expect. Too much porn/media.

Even if she spruced up, she still wouldn't have looked anything near the chick he cheated with and that chick doesn't even look that good.

 

[Seea]

Seeing her on The X-Factor made me so sad inside... no life in her eyes. Just blank and sedated. I hope she can better manage her illness over time, without being so drugged up.

 

[Malta]

As a MAN; you give a commitment to someone, you honor it.

Dude is head of CIA. Commitment should be akin to breathing, for this guy.

He's the one who married her.

The commitment is partially contingent on her not developing into a man over time. You going to honestly sit here and tell me you'd be like "Oh well" if you're wife went from this -

To this -

In a 10 year period? If over the next 10 years I gained 100lbs and my girl stayed attractive, I feel it's only natural for her to start looking elsewhere.

 

[Malta]

Maybe I've just wasn't raised to see marriage that way. Just seems a little trife. You may call her "Ben Franklin", but from my understand she did a lot for him and supported him in all his efforts. If someone holds you down for that long and you do them dirty, you're fukked up. Not worth it. Not worth the personal embarrassment, not worth the hurt, just for a nut.

The woman he cheated with, frankly doesn't look that good. And if you read the stories, it seems like she more so chased after him and he kept playing into things, rather than it being his wife being stubborn.

I was raised in a two parent home, my parents were married for 4 years before they ever had a kid I just don't condone being a slob and respond accordingly. He kept playing into things cause to him, that chick was a 10.

I don't think the chick he cheated with was attractive, but at the same time if you're comparing things, a 2012 Honda Civic is gonna look damn good to the person that's been driving a 1995 Chevy Cavalier.

Exactly. I don't know what dudes expect. Too much porn/media.

Even if she spruced up, she still wouldn't have looked anything near the chick he cheated with and that chick doesn't even look that good.

I expect someone not to be fat, has nothing to do with porn. They look like the number 10 when they're standing next to each other, the least you can do is keep your blood pressure down.

 

[HoustonHeat]

We are assuming that her weight bothers Petraeus, but many dudes like BBW. Holly isnt on Honey Boo Boo's mom status, she dressed and groomed like an elderly, northeastern woman. Google Holly Knowlton, she just wore no makeup and kept her hair simple, but she wore blazers, pearls, heels. Letting herself go would be crazy hair, loose tshirts, flip flops and some club walmart type appearance.

At that age, cheating isnt really about looks anymore. Im sure it added a component, but it alone isnt prominent enough. Petreus cheating was about Petreus, not Holly.

 

[GoPro]

shorty is talkin to ANOTHER nikka about how her man is gainin weight and if he don't shape up she gonna split...so she obviously don't have no respect for him...and she most likely didnt speak to him about her concerns...which means she most likely ALREADY either fukked around on him or is scoping out her options...from the way u explain it shorty don't seem loyal anyway...

1) Yea she talks to him about it, but he's lazy. He works out when he wants to. They workout sometimes together, but not enough for her.

2) Trust me. I know her. She aint the type to cheat. She talks about marrying the guy, but wishes he wasnt so lazy.

i dont know whats so hard to understand about wanting your S/O to maintain their shape? If I can work fulltime, go to school full time, and still hit the gym four times a week, she should too. Like that poster posted that old black woman whos still getting it in. old lady a thousand years old and prolly in better shape than 90% of you on here

 

[DaChampIsHere]

I was raised in a two parent home, my parents were married for 4 years before they ever had a kid I just don't condone being a slob and respond accordingly. He kept playing into things cause to him, that chick was a 10.

I don't think the chick he cheated with was attractive, but at the same time if you're comparing things, a 2012 Honda Civic is gonna look damn good to the person that's been driving a 1995 Chevy Cavalier.

I expect someone not to be fat, has nothing to do with porn. They look like the number 10 when they're standing next to each other.

I'm just sayin' breh. If your 50-60 and the main reason you're gonna leave your marriage is for outside p*ssy or looks, it seems kinda and I don't think things are gonna end up that great or better for you anyway at that point.

I also don't think we should compare human beings/friends/partners to cars/inanimate objects.

 

[Easy-E]

The commitment is partially contingent on her not developing into a man over time. You going to honestly sit here and tell me you'd be like "Oh well" if you're wife went from this -

To this -

In a 10 year period? If over the next 10 years I gained 100lbs and my girl stayed attractive, I feel it's only natural for her to start looking elsewhere.

Yes, I'm sayin' that.

Before I get married; I want to develop into a man who is willing to work for a marriage, through (almost) anything.

And when I say "almost," I'm definitely including stuff like weight gain. I wouldn't just watch my wife gain weight, over a decade, without intervening.

If weight is the only thing that's changin'; no excuse for steppin' out.

If she's beginning to have health complications and completely disregards that--we could have the "walk out" convo.

But, cheatin' is never okay--never. Just leave, respectfully. Being a man, honoring your commitment and being faithful doesn't mean your trapped.

 

[Malta]

I'm just sayin' breh. If your 50-60 and the main reason you're gonna leave your marriage is for outside p*ssy or looks, it seems kinda and I don't think things are gonna end up that great or better for you anyway at that point.

I also don't think we should compare human beings/friends/partners to cars/inanimate objects.

You don't stop wanting sex at those ages breh, old ass seniors who are even older have ridiculously high STD rates, they gettin it in before they go in the ground. I'm just saying, it's hard to talk about that kind of situation if you're not in it. Like I said before, I have never cheated, but I'm not gonna sit here and say with utmost certainty that I wouldn't be tempted if my wife looked like one of the forefathers @ 60 while some average chick is getting at me.

It was just an analogy

 

[Malta]

Yes, I'm sayin' that.

Before I get married; I want to develop into a man who is willing to work for a marriage, through (almost) anything.

And when I say "almost," I'm definitely including stuff like weight gain. I wouldn't just watch my wife gain weight, over a decade, without intervening.

If weight is the only thing that's changin'; no excuse for steppin' out.

If she's beginning to have health complications and completely disregards that--we could have the "walk out" convo.

But, cheatin' is never okay--never. Just leave, respectfully. Being a man, honoring your commitment and being faithful doesn't mean your trapped.

So, you gonna leave her when she has health complications, word?

Cheating isn't ok, but leaving your wife when she has her foot amputated because of diabeeetussssssssss is fine?