“I don’t want to work after kids”

[Richard Glidewell]

I don’t necessarily want a stay at home wife, but it’s better for the child in my opinion. As long as we have the same mindset of how we want the child raised, then I’m cool with it. I use my off days, so she can have time to do things without the child if she wants. Everybody can be happy if we work together. It just requires proper communication of expectations.

There is no off time from children bruh.....I don't understand this line of thinking at all.......my kids go everywhere I go that has anything to do with leisure........if the kids can't go we don't go......I can't even imagine traveling to a new destination and my kids stuck back home for no good reason, because there ain't a good enough reason..........

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Over 70 percent of married women are in the workforce because they have to work

If a woman can not be a virgin until marriage and be traditional

Then women can work and still be traditional

Both sexes are traditional. People love throwing that word around not knowing what it really means.

Working men and women are still doing traditional things. There is hardly any difference between now and back then outside of women not working.

 

[MarcMan]

I'm ok with it but first I want to see her parents and what she imagines that life will look like.

She also needs hobbies/friends, I can't be 100% of your life.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

No, I'm not trying to press you at all.

I'm trying to get you to realize that a vast majority of men can't be sole providers even if they could. I mean it might be doable on $100k, but a woman would have to be happy living with the essentials.

I know that which is why I laugh at women who say they won’t contribute nothing to a relationship and all the anti 50-50 nonsense, it’s not reality. Especially for black people

 

[Astroslik]

More than you make, so don’t worry about it

Damn

 

[Pure Water]

On to the next.

 

[Astroslik]

Would only work if she’s 100% feminine/cooperative and fully onboard with your program.

 

[T’Challa’s Heir]

It’s not quite a deal breaker, but she’s gotta be realistic about the financial reality of it. We’re gonna lose a 2nd source of income and my money now has to cover her health insurance; her car note, her car insurance, and her cell phone bill. That’s basically a net negative 1k swing before we get into all the general money spent in a relationship.

Like I told my girl when we had this fight. You can keep working and we can get the baller package at Disney twice a year. Or you can be a state at home mom and we’ll stay in Kissimmee every other year.

 

[Vandelay]

Depends. Generally, I want my partner to work. I'm cool with being the breadwinner, and I make good money, but I don't make good enough money that she can effectively retire. It's not entirely about money either, I don't particularly like the disposition of women who have a lot of idle time on their hands.

I don't care if my girl Is a cashier, I don't even care if it's part-time...have something...now if I made something like $250-300k a year and had more than 2 kids, then yeah, maybe stay home...but generally, no. Likewise, if I got with a chick that made that kinda doe, and I did date one girl...I'm not going to be homebody for long. That shyt would get old after a month.

 

[FTBS]

Women weren’t looking for the basics, life was just simpler. And no, no woman will sign up to be abused but plenty would sign up for being a SAHM, but a lot of men who claim that this is the role women should want 100% don’t want to be the sole provider.

Dont want to or cant based on the less simple standards of the day? Sure plenty of women would sign up to be a stay at home mom under modern standards, not traditional ones. Neither gender is bout that traditional life and women have no business even entertaining it if we are keeping it a buck about what it actually was.

 

[FTBS]

People keep bringing up traditional roles. How is a working woman not traditional? She still cooks, cleans, and takes care of the kids. Men are also still traditional in that they protect, does various house repairs, lawn care, and takes care of the kids.


This traditional role thing is nothing but mumbo jumbo. There is no real difference between a stay at home woman and a working woman.

For starters most people dont fully understand what traditional roles actually entailed.

This discussion is nothing more than a means of shyttin in the other gender. Neither gender is about that traditional life so I have no idea why they keep bringing it up.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

For starters most people dont fully understand what traditional roles actually entailed.

This discussion is nothing more than a means of shyttin in the other gender. Neither gender is about that traditional life so I have no idea why they keep bringing it up.

But we all are traditional. We've been traditional since the beginning of time. Men protect, woman feed. It's still like that, except we both work now.

 

[BeeCityRoller]

The woman you described in the original post - No. "Plus" lifestyle is a long term play and rare in todays glamorized society. I'm heavy on saving and keeping my debts low and the majority of women on the "I like to travel, luxury car, living in a luxury apartment in the city center" tip stay in debt even with high 5-Figure/Low 6-Figure incomes. I have a sibling with that arrangement but their lifestyle is average. House they bought 10 years ago, average cars, 2 kids, average public/charter schools.

I'd be fine with paying the majority of the bills and I'll work to move the family up in lifestyle (bigger house, better school district, etc), but I would expect a woman to contribute, especially they're 30+ and are already adjusted in Corporate America. If we have 2+ kids I'm fine with her going part-time or taking 3-6 months off after a child. I'm not going to get caught up in that "financial abuse/he stole my working years" trick bag, I want her to have some money she can earn herself and a little to put in the pot together for the future.

And I don't understand this "women do all the chores/child rearing, men just go to work and sit on the couch when they get home". Plenty of men like myself know how to maintain a house and share duties. My yard stays maintained, dishes are clean every night, floor gets vacuumed, and I do alot of handyman work myself that most people would contract out. Women say this and it exposes that their previous partners are unskilled and lazy as if this is 1950's white America. Hybrid/Remote work has changed the game, I'm making the moves now so I never have to go back to being away from home 9 hours a day/5 days a week.

 

[The Fade]

We’re getting married in Texas or Florida then

And give me your assets that your inherit from your family since you wanna be fake traditional

 

[NO-BadAzz]

Traditional, the families were big, 6-10 kids, most women only now want 1 or 2 kids, this would kill that part about being Traditional.

Cookbooks, most women can't cook, salmon, pasta and asparagus are your only options nowadays. So that there kills the Traditional part

Women didn't have cars either. It was usually 1 car in the home. That there would kill the argument.

Also, a woman's wardrobe was not huge, wasn't no 30-40 pairs of shoes, excessive makeup, lashes etc. The woman was very basic only wearing makeup for weddings if so.