“I don’t want to work after kids”

[Braman]

I definitely am not equating a woman wanting to be a housewife, with her being a virtuous woman lol
I know a lot of no good bytches that's looking for a golden ticket to sit home and think she gonna live like a Kardashian.

But you're going to have to explain that first bolded sentence, brother.

And Why shouldn't she expect to travel and go out to eat tho?
lol

What kinda operation u running here brother lol

I’m highlighting what you said here

If she likes a trip here and there or some new clothes every once in awhile. You take care of it.

You sound naive. ‘Here and there’ ??? These bytches want 3-4 trips a year. And not domestic. Which is why I said don’t assume a housewife is a good girl or less maintenance.



And hey, if you got it like that congrats. Me personally I would never. Lmao Ans keep in mind the OP title. You are DATING a girl. We not talking retiring your already existing wife. You DATING a chick and tipping your hat that you are a walking retirement plan. Good luck with that

 

[richaveli83]

I have no problem with a stay at home wife while the child(ren) are infants/toddlers but once they're school age, then it makes no sense for her to be a stay at home mom.

 

[badboys11]

That's exactly what I need, someone to care for the house and do things like cook food so I can have a meal when I get home, do laundry, tend to a garden

I don't need your money I took care of that. I also don't need a materialistic woman that's gonna have me working til I'm 70 cause she's competing with her social media friends

I also need to trust that she's gonna stay at the house and not have company when I'm not there. No guy friends. No overly obese women in my household.

I will stop by my place randomly in the middle of the day for no reason when you thought I was out of town. Every time I've caught something wrong. Everytime. That's the problem

 

[Jazzy B.]

@Braman They really think these Real Housewives of Atlanta watching and IG raised women are going to be 1950's housewives who just sit around and home, make the food and look after the kids

 

[richaveli83]

Reddit is such an underutilized tool. Bc if we keeping it a buck, that’s one thing the whites do better than us and that’s keep it real with strangers on the net have frank conversations

There is no equivalent of Reddit for black folk. Everywhere you turn its mfers just trying to impress people. Mans said ‘a HVM makes sure his wife never works’

Yeah, reddit is pretty dope if you go to the right subs.

 

[UWasntThere]

Nope. I want a woman with a career.

 

[badboys11]

If you want an insight into what these women who are staying at home to raise kids look like in reality skim through r/marriage and read about all the stay at home moms complaining that their husband isn't helping them with the kids and house work on top of being the bread winner. Or husbands with stay out home wives who's wife hasn't fukked him in 2 years because she feels overwhelmed with her duties at home/the kids.

Oh yeah, I forgot this part

Women ain't never happy

If they gotta work and and take care of the kids life is so damn hard

If they don't gotta work and all they have to do is help raise the kid they helped to create and do housework, life is so damn hard

If they have a job and don't have any kids, life is so damn hard

If they walk down the street and a random person says hello, life is so damn hard and everyone scares them

If a man tries to holler at them, life is so damn hard

If no man wants to approach them, it's cause we're all sassy and life is so damn hard

Women complain to complain. It's actually better for them to have jobs cause it gives them people to complain about

 

[Shadow King]

@Braman They really think these Real Housewives of Atlanta watching and IG raised women are going to be 1950's housewives who just sit around and home, make the food and look after the kids

They arent, but this is why I said the poll options are too black and white for the general topic.

 

[mag357]

I’m highlighting what you said here



You sound naive. ‘Here and there’ ??? These bytches want 3-4 trips a year. And not domestic. Which is why I said don’t assume a housewife is a good girl or less maintenance.



And hey, if you got it like that congrats. Me personally I would never. Lmao Ans keep in mind the OP title. You are DATING a girl. We not talking retiring your already existing wife. You DATING a chick and tipping your hat that you are a walking retirement plan. Good luck with that

My guy... If you're dating a girl and u see she's on some bullcrap, then you won't be marrying her.
If you see she isn't sensible, then you wouldn't be continuing a relationship with her.

If somehow she was able to put on a front through the dating phase and made it all the way to being my wife and I couldn't see she was a money hungry bytch.
Id just tell her ass NO. We ain't got it like that to be taking a bunch of trips.
And Id tell her she needs to leave me alone about it.

I'm frugal as hell but even my young girl clips coupons and gets mad when I don't use them.
My old heads like to cook and don't want me to spend money on outside food

The first thing with dealing with a woman is she has to like you first, Right.

If she likes you anything you do for her is going to blow her mind.
1 trip, a birthday present, a Valentines day gift... Bare minimum. Would more than suffice.

If she doesn't even like you like that, then you will be her sucka and walking retirement plan.

Every man values different things in a relationship depending on how he was raised and what's going on in his life.

 

[Braman]

@Braman They really think these Real Housewives of Atlanta watching and IG raised women are going to be 1950's housewives who just sit around and home, make the food and look after the kids

Bruh! It’s not registering for them. On a subconscious level they are seeing ‘housewife take care of the kids’ and thinking nice quiet good girl, low maintenance. Like no ngga she LIT She wanna go to Bali and Santorini on a quarterly basis

 

[Braman]

Having a woman in your life u have to understand treating them nicely makes a happy wife (employee).
Shes gonna do her job anyway but you just wanna show appreciation.

If she likes a trip here and there or some new clothes every once in awhile. You take care of it.

Vs.

Id just tell her ass NO. We ain't got it like that to be taking a bunch of trips.
And Id tell her she needs to leave me alone about it.

I mean I’m really not trying to pick on you but …in my humble opinion there’s a potential Achilles heel in your approach. I might be saving your future marriage

 

[Piff Perkins]

Not a deal breaker. I'd love for my gf to stop working if we have kids, but I doubt she will initially. I can imagine her thugging it out going to work for a couple years after childbirth before saying ok, I'm staying home. Which is fine by me. For the record I won't say I "prefer" that she not work, just that I think it would be dope.

 

[The Half-Blood FKA Prince]

Straight to the point. You’re dating a chick and she explicitly states her goal is to become a stay at home mom. She still wants to live a ‘plus’ lifestyle: travel, go out to eat, have you take her shopping, etc. She is fully ready to take care of all the motherly and household duties. But she will not be providing any income to the household

Is this your type why and why not

This is the coli breh. U may as well be asking do u want ya wife cheating with the neighbor or with her work husband. That is essentially how many posters will interpret this question

 

[mag357]

Vs.



I mean I’m really not trying to pick on you but …in my humble opinion there’s a potential Achilles heel in your approach. I might be saving your future marriage

Lol
I'm actually not understanding what you're doing.
A trip here and there. And wanting some clothes sometimes.
Is a reasonable expectation.

But anyway, marriage is for nikkaz who can't get a new bytch everyday if he wanted to. Lol

So im just entertaining the conversation.
I would never get married or even have a girlfriend. Sh*t sounds exhausting

 

[The Half-Blood FKA Prince]

I can definitely help her travel though.

-shoprite
-giant
-acme
-whole foods
-rib rack

Long as she bring me home a souvenir from her trip