"I hate my Autistic brother and wish he was dead"
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That doesn't read like ducktales
Unless someone has been conditioned to love unconditionally, I can see how years of resentment would take them down that path.
again your still basically saying that this person's sole purpose in life is to take care of that situation. Like they can't have their own life at all. That's fukked up. And then you have people telling he/she to just "man up" about some shyt they've spent 20 years dealing with daily. That's crazy to just dismiss that shyt and calling them soft.
I don't know how to phrase it properly -- my friend's brother is also autistic, and is also prone to violent episodes on a near daily basis. He was in a care home, but his family felt they were neglecting him, so they've been taking care of him for maybe 3 or 4 years now.
I've never met his brother, and I actually don't think I've been over to his home since his brother has moved in. He doesn't talk about it very much, but he does tell me stories from time to time. Oftentimes, he mentions that his brother is quite strong, and it takes a lot of effort to restrain him between himself, his stepfather and two siblings.
He has also explained that to sort of work with people on the spectrum, you have to analyze their behavior, and why they're doing what they're doing. He told me there's like 4 or 5 main drivers -- attention seeking, escape, stimulation, or seeking a tangible good/reward. So, for example, if he wants a candy bar and he's not given it, he'll start punching holes in walls.
Understanding the behavior is important, because caretakers need to understand what they're potentially rewarding, and the consequences of doing so.
I definitely feel sympathy for the writer. Taking care of others is not easy. At least with the terminally ill, you know it won't be your whole life.
I've never met his brother, and I actually don't think I've been over to his home since his brother has moved in. He doesn't talk about it very much, but he does tell me stories from time to time. Oftentimes, he mentions that his brother is quite strong, and it takes a lot of effort to restrain him between himself, his stepfather and two siblings.
He has also explained that to sort of work with people on the spectrum, you have to analyze their behavior, and why they're doing what they're doing. He told me there's like 4 or 5 main drivers -- attention seeking, escape, stimulation, or seeking a tangible good/reward. So, for example, if he wants a candy bar and he's not given it, he'll start punching holes in walls.
Understanding the behavior is important, because caretakers need to understand what they're potentially rewarding, and the consequences of doing so.
I definitely feel sympathy for the writer. Taking care of others is not easy. At least with the terminally ill, you know it won't be your whole life.
Fade Runner 2049
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Lol
Mindfield333
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This reminds me of when my grandad got Alzheimer’s and couldn’t care for myself, my parents had to care for him. This was around the time I was in middle school. So it definitely took a toll on the extracurricular activities I can do because I had to help my folks as well as the stress it put on my family. He passed when I went to college like my freshmen year
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KingFreeman
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I grew up in a similar experience, except my younger brother and I had the support of family, an educated mother, and a military life up until our parents divorced in our teens. With autistic kids, the severity of their disability, their environment, and a regimented upbringing can be the determining factors in the quality of life they have when older. My brother was always very expressive, positive to be around, and like most other kids despite lacking real speech and having other basic autism-related disabilities.
I don't doubt the reddit poster's story, but if it was as bad as they claim, then that's on the parents. Plenty of trash parents don't know how to handle having children like that, and end up instilling harmful habits. The poster definitely should exert their independence, but not blame the sibling.
I don't doubt the reddit poster's story, but if it was as bad as they claim, then that's on the parents. Plenty of trash parents don't know how to handle having children like that, and end up instilling harmful habits. The poster definitely should exert their independence, but not blame the sibling.
bourgeoisie tall freak
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he didn't ask to be there 
A lot of people taking care of disabled loved ones low key feel the same way. There are support groups, I really don't know what to tell you. Maybe there's a program you can get into to get some help dealing with him.
Scustin Bieburr
Baby baybee baybee UUUGH
Hes definitely gonna merc his brother if his mom dies or gets seriously ill.
You can feel the pain and anger behind each word. Dude was probably shaking when he typed that shyt and boxing the air.
If I know autism runs in my family(thankfully it doesn't
) I'm not rolling that dice until that CRSPR tech is really popping.
You can feel the pain and anger behind each word. Dude was probably shaking when he typed that shyt and boxing the air.
If I know autism runs in my family(thankfully it doesn't
) I'm not rolling that dice until that CRSPR tech is really popping.
he didn't ask to be there
OP didn't ask if he wanted to be here to take care of him forever
Yinny
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Yeah I’m troubled not by the feelings but that it’s come to that point— thoughts of killing. Hopefully he has support or someone to talk to offline.