I just checked my girl on some sh!t I thought was disrespectful

[YeLovesBoston]

That is what I am thinking. She was just trying to see how far things would pop off. In other words chick is crazy.

unfortunately its a sad thing I see a lot. It seems like so many people want to figure out which buttons to push in the person they "talkin to" and gain some kind of emotional advantage

 

[no.]

I stay with her. Aint no way I'm checking her phone because I aint insecure. She already under pressure to lose 15 lbs by the end of November or else I'm out.

15 lbs in a month? An ultimatum? That's way more disrespectful than not handing someone a plate

She was rude not to hand you the plate when you were doing her a favor though. Very rude.

Though you both sound disrespectful.

 

[Cynic]

I stay with her. Aint no way I'm checking her phone because I aint insecure. She already under pressure to lose 15 lbs by the end of November or else I'm out.

first mistake....... hold up ain't you skeetsinternal the renowned demonic breh slingin d!ck 5 ways to sunday ?

 

[ScoopNScore]

Who in their right mind would refuse someone else doing their dishes? If anything that's the last thing you wanna do post-dinner sittin all fat n shyt I guess she was tryna see how you'd react like on some "testin my man" shyt.

 

[skeetsinternal]

She sounds like a c*nt

She shops at Wholefoods like all the other c*nts

 

[O.G.B]

Somewhere down the line she lost respect for you to not give you a response on the plate request. I think you need to check her phone ASAP and do surprise pop home visits , be proactive vs reactive

Yup, when women start getting angry or upset over petty shyt then it might/could be something up as far them dealing with another guy or having an affair.

 

[Reflected]

lol I would have done worse. If someone shows politeness by taking your plate, the least you can do is extend it back by handing it to them. Seems simple.

 

[ROBEEZYKILLA]

Seems a Lil petty but do you breh

 

[Dwolf]

Over a dirty dish
Some shyt aint worth it
Why are you still with this woman

 

[agnosticlady]

unfortunately its a sad thing I see a lot. It seems like so many people want to figure out which buttons to push in the person they "talkin to" and gain some kind of emotional advantage

You are right....I never understood the point of doing that. I have seen women plan out how they are going to test their man. Some people enjoy knowing how much control they can have over a person. To start a fight over something like that is just petty, especially for a grown woman. Looking beyond the surface it also shows that she probably has an underdeveloped mind and she is not all there. I could be wrong, but it also reveals that she is full of insecurities. People who seek to find trouble with others have a hard time dealing with their personal demons so they find joy in starting problem with other people. ESPECIALLY people who are nice and respectful towards them. When you call them out on their bullshyt they look at you like you are strange. Trust and believe, if he did not call her out on her mess she would be think, "mmhmm I got this dude. I'll make him my bytch". Seems silly to others, but seeing an emasculated man is literally one of the saddest things to watch.

 

[Shadow King]

So we sitting here in the living room and eating dinner. She happened to buy dinner tonight (fried fish from Crockettes in Montclair NJ) because she didn't take anything out to defrost this morning to make or I could make. So I'm sitting down flipping through the channels for something to watch and I settled on ABC to check the news out or watch Jeopardy afterwards. She fixed me a plate of food, which was some fried whiting. I said "thanks Babe" then got up to get some hot sauce to put on the coffee table for us to use plus get her some electrolyte water to drink. Now what occurred after us finish eating is what pissed me off. I finished my meal, she was done with hers too so I got up with my plate and went over to where she was sitting to get her plate. I stood in front of her and asked to give me her plate but she did not respond to my request for her plate so I motioned with my hand to give me the plate but she kept looking at the TV. I eventually asked again then she gave me her plate. As I was leaving to go to the kitchen she said "why you aint just bend down and get the plate?". I said "what you just say?", she responded by saying "why didn't you just bend down and get the plate". . I let it ride for maybe 20 seconds while I was in the kitchen scraping the bones in the trash and was thinking then I got pissed even more about it Then came back and sat down and she asked "why you seem tight"? I said "what you said awhile ago was disrespectful", she asked "how was it disrespectful?" I said, "all you had to do was just give me the plate so I could take it but for whatever reason you saw fit to ask me to bend down and get it, I don't bend down to no one". She then was like "there you go with that manly stuff. I was like "what manly stuff, I just felt I was disrespected and it has nothing to do with manly stuff" She then was like "if I disrespected you, I apologize, i know its things you Jamaican men don't tolerate", then I said "ok apology accepted" but now she all tight and silent. Now i don't know what prompted her words but I also don't want her to take certain liberties with me. Yes I do speak my mind but at times my words do cut and I come off insensitive and cold due to my years of being HOH's. I already know the answer but was I wrong for checking her?

What you know about Crockett's breh?

and did she already have an attitude with you? Me personally I probably would've blew that off unless I already felt some hostile energy from her

Shoulda punched her out

 

[Cat piss martini]

I would have asked once and walked off.
mold would have been growing off that
plate and coffee table before i touched it.

 

[godkiller]

So we sitting here in the living room and eating dinner. She happened to buy dinner tonight (fried fish from Crockettes in Montclair NJ) because she didn't take anything out to defrost this morning to make or I could make. So I'm sitting down flipping through the channels for something to watch and I settled on ABC to check the news out or watch Jeopardy afterwards. She fixed me a plate of food, which was some fried whiting. I said "thanks Babe" then got up to get some hot sauce to put on the coffee table for us to use plus get her some electrolyte water to drink. Now what occurred after us finish eating is what pissed me off. I finished my meal, she was done with hers too so I got up with my plate and went over to where she was sitting to get her plate. I stood in front of her and asked to give me her plate but she did not respond to my request for her plate so I motioned with my hand to give me the plate but she kept looking at the TV. I eventually asked again then she gave me her plate. As I was leaving to go to the kitchen she said "why you aint just bend down and get the plate?". I said "what you just say?", she responded by saying "why didn't you just bend down and get the plate". . I let it ride for maybe 20 seconds while I was in the kitchen scraping the bones in the trash and was thinking then I got pissed even more about it Then came back and sat down and she asked "why you seem tight"? I said "what you said awhile ago was disrespectful", she asked "how was it disrespectful?" I said, "all you had to do was just give me the plate so I could take it but for whatever reason you saw fit to ask me to bend down and get it, I don't bend down to no one". She then was like "there you go with that manly stuff. I was like "what manly stuff, I just felt I was disrespected and it has nothing to do with manly stuff" She then was like "if I disrespected you, I apologize, i know its things you Jamaican men don't tolerate", then I said "ok apology accepted" but now she all tight and silent. Now i don't know what prompted her words but I also don't want her to take certain liberties with me. Yes I do speak my mind but at times my words do cut and I come off insensitive and cold due to my years of being HOH's. I already know the answer but was I wrong for checking her?

I think you may be overplaying the issue. Sometimes women have their moments and you need to "give to get some". Too much and too overzealous HOH can ruin relationships. I would just shrug and say I prefer she hand the plate over next time, just to avoid any tension. Then I'd make a joke and laugh it off. Situation handled.

Educated people tend to stay together and married the longest because they can handle situations like these with grace, humor and brevity.

 

[Arithmetic]

 

[Arithmetic]

She was being disrespectful and way out of pocket. You asked her to pick up the plate and I can understand if she misheard considering that we all do at times. She did that on purpose. I do not know her personally and I understand that there are multiple sides to a story, but she comes off as a petty person. She should have just handed the plate to you. Even if you motioned to her it was not disrespectful. I do not think that you have a problem bending down to pick it up, but the situation she created would be disrespecting you.
I do not like people who like to be petty, or get into their emotions. You should talk to her one last times(respectfully and calmly of course)and let her know what's up. If she keeps acting like that then it's best to throw her in the bushes. A person that truly cares for you will not willingly disrespect you even if they do not understand where you are coming from.