I just found the goat site..http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/
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true to life my nig. I think about that all the time when I see a pawg out in public. there is always that eye contact and acknowledgement, but I dont apply pressure...but think of the nikkas that do.
and more times than not they will reciprocate.they are BCW's for one and are only interested in black men. women already love attention, and they get it overwhelmingly....because they know what we like. they know its breh's kryptonite. smash is one thing, but I wouldnt even date a pawg. I believe they will bounce on you for the next biggest dikk or salary.
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You want two consecutive life sentences for that shyt?!
he'll get off depending on which state he in based on spur of the moment thing.
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Many of the stories on here are amazingly close to what I've been through over the last several months...there must be a manual floating out there on infidelity. Anyway, married 11 years, 3 kids (9, 6, 6). Last year was a very difficult year, my wife had 2 major surgeries, back and hysterectomy to remove precancerous lumps (what was remaining anyway after she had a partial one after my twins were born, her reproductive organs were damaged as a result of sexual abuse as a child). We thought my oldest had a heart condition that was going to require open heart surgery (after many doctor and hospital visits, turned out to be a false positive, no heart issues), bought and moved into a new house, I took a new job...any one of those are big life stresses, add them all up in one year and 2012 was a tough year.
Fast forward to Thanksgiving. Wife has been acting weird, coming home late, heading over to neighbors house as soon as she gets home, over the course of a few weeks. I finally say something to her, ie, what in the world is going on? I am clueless at this point. All I know is that we've had a rough year and that I was looking forward to the holidays and some downtime/relaxing. She says she'll talk to me in the evening. She finally tells me she's not happy. She doesn't give me the ILYBIDWTBWY line, just that she's not happy. I ask for more info and she doesn't have much to share. I'm stressed.
2 weeks later, I'm looking in her email as I'm suspicious, and I see an email to her brother saying that she want's a divorce! I have a complete panic attack (first time in my life) but don't say anything to her, probably a mistake as the month of December was just terrible for me as a result. We get into a couple of arguements, I'm asking for clarification, she's asking for space to figure things out, I can't do that. She travels quite a bit for work, and has to entertain clients for work a lot. She has one such event for Christmas, and I suggest that she stay downtown one evening to take the difficult commute out of the picture. First time she has ever stayed away for a night while local, she always used to say that she'd sleep better at home no matter what. We have a fight on New Years Eve where I tell her I saw the email about divorce. At this point, I'm still not suspecting infidelity...maybe a little in the way back of my mind, but I'm thinking she's going through a MLC as a result of the surgeries and thinking that she will die young.
January rolls around and she's travelling pretty much the entire first full week of month. 3 overnight stays in that week. The first one and the 3 one had hotel reservations booked to our CC, parking at the airport, tolls, etc. The 2nd one did not. I am mildly suspicious. Find out that she didn't respond to her 2 of her BFF's texts that day, as well as mine, very very out of character. Now I am very suspicious. She finally calls me late in the evening saying that she fell asleep from exhaustion. I check her luggage when she gets home, no airport tags. I look in and find a sexy bra and other clothes that are not typical work wear. I confront her about it. She does the typical deny deny deny, I will not be boxed in etc. To me, I really want a smoking gun but this isn't quite yet it (naive, I know).
Life goes on, we continue to be civil to each other, fight sporadically. Still sleeping in the same bed, except for the night of the bad fights (NYE and the mystery trip). 2 weeks after that, I had a business trip scheduled that got cancelled. Didn't tell the wife. Find out while out to dinner with neighbors that wife had asked them to watch kids overnight same night. Wife had a stay downtown and hadn't told me. Another fight. I checked her lingerie drawer and found more gone for this trip. Another fight (are you with me on the naive theme here? I come from a family that doesn't divorce, it's extremely unheard of and something that I never never never wanted to do), the removes all lingerie from house, don't know if she threw it out or is hiding is somewhere. She stays home a few days later, and I come home from work and convince (harass her) into going MC, against her wishes, but she does agree.
All the while I'm trying to be in a good mood at home, make it a welcoming environment for her, trying to improve our marriage, trying to improve me...yeah, wasn't helping.
Another big fight first week of February, I punch a door out of frustration and break it. She moves out of our room into a guest room. I come across this forum, around this time and have been reading and reading it. We go to our first session together, then to our individual sessions. Things feel a little better. She texts me more often and calls more often. Counselor suggests that we try to have a date night. I downgrade it to a date lunch, trying to take things babysteps. It was just OK. Feel like I'm the only one putting any effort into it.
After the email incident, she changes all her password, but I managed to get onto her iPad where I can continue to monitor email and FB and skype messages. Nothing with the AP on any of those. She's smart enough to only do it on her blackberry, which I do not know the password for, and besides she has it on her at all times.
Finally go and get a VOR last week. Used it 2x. Both times it records her having a call with the AP, amazing. Looks like they talk every day. While I can only hear her portion of the conversation, she says very suggestive things to him, making me realize that, #1 , who it is, and #2 , it is physical. Textbook, it's her former boss.
Confront her this morning before the kids get up. Don't share the records, just use select quotes from them. It's amazing what she tries to do, just like the things on this forum. Tells me I'm being crazy, she doesn't know what I'm talking about, denies denies denies. After much back and forth, she says to one of the quotes, that's now exactly how I said it...no sh*t!
I told her I was calling the AP, she said he'll never speak with me again! I wanted to say (wish I had), why is that a concern of mine. She said that if you call him that this is over - not a big deal for me as it's pretty much already over as it is. Call the AP, get his vm, I'm sure he'll never call me back, as he's active in local politics.
Called an attorney there after to initiate divorce proceedings. I'm still in shock, feeling like such a dummy, can't believe it, can't believe that my kids will grow up with divorced parents. I'm crushed, but it feels good to get it all out. The more I talk to people, the more it helps, so you are my outlet.
Thanks for reading.
Just confronted this morning...my story
Fast forward to Thanksgiving. Wife has been acting weird, coming home late, heading over to neighbors house as soon as she gets home, over the course of a few weeks. I finally say something to her, ie, what in the world is going on? I am clueless at this point. All I know is that we've had a rough year and that I was looking forward to the holidays and some downtime/relaxing. She says she'll talk to me in the evening. She finally tells me she's not happy. She doesn't give me the ILYBIDWTBWY line, just that she's not happy. I ask for more info and she doesn't have much to share. I'm stressed.
2 weeks later, I'm looking in her email as I'm suspicious, and I see an email to her brother saying that she want's a divorce! I have a complete panic attack (first time in my life) but don't say anything to her, probably a mistake as the month of December was just terrible for me as a result. We get into a couple of arguements, I'm asking for clarification, she's asking for space to figure things out, I can't do that. She travels quite a bit for work, and has to entertain clients for work a lot. She has one such event for Christmas, and I suggest that she stay downtown one evening to take the difficult commute out of the picture. First time she has ever stayed away for a night while local, she always used to say that she'd sleep better at home no matter what. We have a fight on New Years Eve where I tell her I saw the email about divorce. At this point, I'm still not suspecting infidelity...maybe a little in the way back of my mind, but I'm thinking she's going through a MLC as a result of the surgeries and thinking that she will die young.
January rolls around and she's travelling pretty much the entire first full week of month. 3 overnight stays in that week. The first one and the 3 one had hotel reservations booked to our CC, parking at the airport, tolls, etc. The 2nd one did not. I am mildly suspicious. Find out that she didn't respond to her 2 of her BFF's texts that day, as well as mine, very very out of character. Now I am very suspicious. She finally calls me late in the evening saying that she fell asleep from exhaustion. I check her luggage when she gets home, no airport tags. I look in and find a sexy bra and other clothes that are not typical work wear. I confront her about it. She does the typical deny deny deny, I will not be boxed in etc. To me, I really want a smoking gun but this isn't quite yet it (naive, I know).
Life goes on, we continue to be civil to each other, fight sporadically. Still sleeping in the same bed, except for the night of the bad fights (NYE and the mystery trip). 2 weeks after that, I had a business trip scheduled that got cancelled. Didn't tell the wife. Find out while out to dinner with neighbors that wife had asked them to watch kids overnight same night. Wife had a stay downtown and hadn't told me. Another fight. I checked her lingerie drawer and found more gone for this trip. Another fight (are you with me on the naive theme here? I come from a family that doesn't divorce, it's extremely unheard of and something that I never never never wanted to do), the removes all lingerie from house, don't know if she threw it out or is hiding is somewhere. She stays home a few days later, and I come home from work and convince (harass her) into going MC, against her wishes, but she does agree.
All the while I'm trying to be in a good mood at home, make it a welcoming environment for her, trying to improve our marriage, trying to improve me...yeah, wasn't helping.
Another big fight first week of February, I punch a door out of frustration and break it. She moves out of our room into a guest room. I come across this forum, around this time and have been reading and reading it. We go to our first session together, then to our individual sessions. Things feel a little better. She texts me more often and calls more often. Counselor suggests that we try to have a date night. I downgrade it to a date lunch, trying to take things babysteps. It was just OK. Feel like I'm the only one putting any effort into it.
After the email incident, she changes all her password, but I managed to get onto her iPad where I can continue to monitor email and FB and skype messages. Nothing with the AP on any of those. She's smart enough to only do it on her blackberry, which I do not know the password for, and besides she has it on her at all times.
Finally go and get a VOR last week. Used it 2x. Both times it records her having a call with the AP, amazing. Looks like they talk every day. While I can only hear her portion of the conversation, she says very suggestive things to him, making me realize that, #1 , who it is, and #2 , it is physical. Textbook, it's her former boss.
Confront her this morning before the kids get up. Don't share the records, just use select quotes from them. It's amazing what she tries to do, just like the things on this forum. Tells me I'm being crazy, she doesn't know what I'm talking about, denies denies denies. After much back and forth, she says to one of the quotes, that's now exactly how I said it...no sh*t!
I told her I was calling the AP, she said he'll never speak with me again! I wanted to say (wish I had), why is that a concern of mine. She said that if you call him that this is over - not a big deal for me as it's pretty much already over as it is. Call the AP, get his vm, I'm sure he'll never call me back, as he's active in local politics.
Called an attorney there after to initiate divorce proceedings. I'm still in shock, feeling like such a dummy, can't believe it, can't believe that my kids will grow up with divorced parents. I'm crushed, but it feels good to get it all out. The more I talk to people, the more it helps, so you are my outlet.
Thanks for reading.
Just confronted this morning...my story
Diondon
Thanks to the lawyers uh, I marbled the foyer
Cheating women let dudes hit raw. I thought everyone knew this. Cheating in itself is scandalous, you think they care about protection?
No respect for dude.
She keeps beggin' me to hit it raw
So she can have my kid and say it was yours
This site confirms I probably won't get married
Brehs, its scary out there
I'm happy my parents are about to celebrate 25 years of being married. Thank God.
i'm telling u
i'm sticking to my derek jeter lifestyle..
The problem with majority of these marriages i see with white dudes is there wives get around other unhappy/divorced females and they start listening to them and boom they go out and do the same shyt..
Plus she can fuk 20 dudes and it's caught on tape and the courts will still give her half when she wants a divorce..
that's why every dude should have majority of your accounts in another name in a offshore account.
i'm sticking to my derek jeter lifestyle..
The problem with majority of these marriages i see with white dudes is there wives get around other unhappy/divorced females and they start listening to them and boom they go out and do the same shyt..
Plus she can fuk 20 dudes and it's caught on tape and the courts will still give her half when she wants a divorce..
that's why every dude should have majority of your accounts in another name in a offshore account.
I'll leave this here, I found this onbest advice I ever got into the insights of women.
Damn I wrote that back on sohh. To this day I thank God that I had a father who put me on Game.
TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?
I walk around a little edgy already
I am back and it gets worse
i skimmed thru this thread..
even old cacs are going thru it..
52 year old wife out smashing strangers,letting young dudes up in her culo etc
i skimmed thru this thread..
even old cacs are going thru it..
52 year old wife out smashing strangers,letting young dudes up in her culo etc
I am back and it gets worse
i skimmed thru this thread..
even old cacs are going thru it..
52 year old wife out smashing strangers,letting young dudes up in her culo etc
Its kind of scary and sad as a man can do everything right but she will screw you over.
But bu bu choose the right woman, most do. 5,10, 20 years down the road people change. Nothing you can do.
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Hahhahaha just read this thread in entirety
In my experience, married chicks are easier than single ones so not surprised
In my experience, married chicks are easier than single ones so not surprised