I just found the goat site..http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/

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Breh needs to get in touch with his inner Jamaican

He ain't Jamaican. He's a brit, the other nikka is Jamaican

 

[AtomicUse]

Im going to pop in here and say that this thread has blown my mind.

the only other feasible thing I can think of to save this thread........is that the ORIGINAL POST on the other board was a troll post and this dude has some serious dedication to keeping this story alive because, in some other facet aside from sex, he's miserable and bored.


That's the story I'm sticking with, because just like that dude who was in the friend zone for 10 years, I am refusing to believe that this is possible.

Ima leave y'all to it.




















at the neg comments though, that's cold blooded.

 

[#1 pick]

living proof of Briffault's Law. the benefit of her staying with him outweighed the negatives. he says otherwise but does anybody honestly believe they're still fukking? he's probably a human wallet to her.

This ain't even comparable. She's worth him, and he's worth 500 mil. This guy is the one worth money, his ex isn't worth anything. He's an all around loser.

 

[Illuminatos]

She tried to drive a car into the wall when I was in it. She couldn't because I stopped her.

She won't do it with the kids in because she used it as a method of trying to control me so I cited it in the divorce.

 

[winb83]

This ain't even comparable. She's worth him, and he's worth 500 mil. This guy is the one worth money, his ex isn't worth anything. He's an all around loser.

what i'm saying is this guy is telling himself he decided to keep her around but in reality he's being manipulated. she doesn't love him, probably never did. he was more than likely just a provider for her and try as she would she needed a lover too so she found that elsewhere. probably the kinda bird that fakes orgasms in bed when the sex actually does nothing for her. tells herself she gotta do her duty just to shut him up so she can get some real dikk elsewhere and he had no idea. the real reason she's still around is because she still has use for him. when he becomes totally useless to her she's gone.

if she met a guy with more paper than him that could shack her and the kids up and give her a better life than he could you better believe that same day he'd come home to find all her shyt and the kids nowhere to be found.

 

[#1 pick]

what i'm saying is this guy is telling himself he decided to keep her around but in reality he's being manipulated. she doesn't love him, probably never did. he was more than likely just a provider for her and try as she would she needed a lover too so she found that elsewhere. probably the kinda bird that fakes orgasms in bed when the sex actually does nothing for her. tells herself she gotta do her duty just to shut him up so she can get some real dikk elsewhere and he had no idea. the real reason she's still around is because she still has use for him. when he becomes totally useless to her she's gone.

if she met a guy with more paper than him that could shack her and the kids up and give her a better life than he could you better believe that same day he'd come home to find all her shyt and the kids nowhere to be found.

 

[Illuminatos]

@Ben De Toy

Where them nudes at breh?

 

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My ex is manipulative, she does use sex. Of course I know this. Women use sex all the time. Even in most marriages a woman will throw her husband a BJ before asking for that new dress. It's how we work.

Manticore: I really, really appreciate your help in going through my posts - it helps me immeasurably.

The things my ex did for the OM that she didn't do for me:

- took a contraceptive pill then injection (although she stopped this after 2 years)

- swallowed his cum

- not the same thing, but waited around on the off chance of sex.

Their relationship was about sex. She says she loved him (and now sees what a total tosser he is), but that's pretty much all they did. No weekends away. 1 overnight in the whole time. No romantic dinners. It was watching tv then having sex.

In my mind, to be blunt, she reverted to type. She and her family are somehow more base than most people. They do things by instinct. None of them think anything of stealing from people, but I know if I went back to my brother in law now and asked for £5,000 he would lend it to me, no questions asked. They occupy a different place than most right thinking people and I haven't posted of even a quarter of the ups and downs I've had with them.

Anyway, yes, she does manipulate but I am absolutely aware of the manipulation and sometimes even encourage it. God knows what makes us all tick. I analyse important decisions to within an inch of their existence; I am spontaneous in lots of things, but in life decisions I need facts, statistics, something to justify things with. Something to hang my hat on.

We have talked endlessley about why she did more for him than me; she admits freely it's because she didn't feel she had to. She admits 100% that she didn't used to respect me as she should have.

That is why we had to divorce. The relationship we had since 1988 was founded on something that could not continue.

Her contention - which she attempts to prove in any way she can - is that she is changed. She has shown this with the children, with the way she is around the house, with the way she is with me.

To all intents and purposes, if you remove the betrayal (ha!), I have a life any man would envy.

She didn't make a mistake, she made hundreds of outrageous decisions, but she looks me in the eye and accepts and admits that. There is zero rug sweeping happening and I am as aggresive as a weight lifter on steroids when it comes to these issues.

She is on test all the time and she knows it. She knows that one slip - and that might mean us not having sex for at least twice in one week - will mean a call to the estate agents and me getting a new life.

Am I happy? I don't know yet. My point is, the betrayal has been dealt with. This isn't a new start - that is impossible - especially for me as I do not forget and even more rarely forgive a breach of trust.

Our relationship - whether we stay together or not - is a work in progress - as anyone's is.

As far as plan A, B or C goes - this was, in her mind, an exit affair. She realised that that wasn't what she wanted. Now she is doing everything to help me to stay. Isn't that why any BS is here? We were all Plan B, C, D or whatever but now I am plan A. If I ever become less, I'm gone and if she slips for even a second I tell her that. Not as a threat; not as my own manipulation, but as a fact.

I do not know whether to stay or not, but that point, for the purpose of this board, is now moot as I have everything I want.

I "won" as it is all up to me. Everything.

I got revenge on the OM, I got my "wife" back, I got the property sorted and in fact the divorce allowed me to control this in a way that would have been impossible.

My "prize" in life - the aim I had since I was a young boy - was to have a family. Was to not be the dad picking his kids up for the weekend.

I can get sex any time and do not struggle to attract women. This is not a worry for me, but it doesn't interest me outside of a loving relationship. It never has.

Finally - the OM had to pay a lawyer to censor Google and the Streisand effect did the rest. That is sweet, sweet revenge and the modern equivalent of branding. And that, in itself is sweetly ironic given who the OM is...

 

[NamelessPimp]

I knew Joe Budden would start posting one day...


20 pages deep and no pics? You already posted your life story might as well post pics...unless shes the whale you keep saying everyone has been stroking

 

[winb83]

that guy really typed that? revenge? what is this some waiting to exhale burning clothing shyt?

unless that dude was a close friend i wouldn't even be mad at the guy that fukked my wife. that's like getting mad at a fish for swimming. i'd be mad at myself for being a fool enough to pick such a messed up chick and even worse for being pathetic enough to have her feel like she could pull that crap.

as a man your woman's behavior is a reflection of you. she's only gonna pull what she knows she can get away with.

 

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Originally Posted by davecarter
You're very honest Chris...

In the probability that if it hadn't of been this particular OM it would have been another - do you think this still holds true given that prior to the affair, your wife had an interest (hence I say 'interest' and not 'preference') for black guys and black 'culture'...i.e. would she have cheated with another black guy...it was something she wanted to experience?

I'm just thinking aloud....that if that sexual-preference that she might still have is supposedly 'ingrained' in her character and personality, that it might be a problem for you guys (or any couple) in the future (either Reconciled or Divorced-but-living-together)?

I ask this in the same vein as another wife on here who got into BDSM themes with her OM for long time...and many posters put forth the idea that, even though her and her husband were reconciling, she'd find it extremely hard to go back to a 'vanilla' sex-life and would eventually, one day, give-in and seek out that type of sex with an OM with that sexual-demeanor.

Honestly, the sex with me is better. I'm sure of it for all sorts of reasons. She certainly got off on the skin colour and culture thing, but she also did not stop having sex with me either during the whole thing and our sex life was (within the bounds of a 20 year marriage) varying from ok to great.

Does she have a preference? Maybe. I don't care tbh. She's got a good figure and pretty face, but there are certainly women I would prefer. Heck one that came onto me was as hot as anything, but the physical thing is just that.

The physical side was for her, about possession - I was making light with the 8" black dong comment. Of course she enjoyed it, but she loves our sex too.

Ultimately, she's a woman and women can get laid pretty much any night of the week, so that is a red herring.

@Ben De Toy you really need to get your manhood back.

 

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He ain't Jamaican. He's a brit, the other nikka is Jamaican

dude could be ethnically jamaican...since most black people in the UK ain't but 1 or 2 generations removed from old colonies

 

[Gusto]

He ain't Jamaican. He's a brit, the other nikka is Jamaican

nikka, that was the premise of my joke. A Jamaican is ruthlessly nutting in his wife. Meanwhile, dude could benefit from being more like a stereotypical Jamaican.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

That's the story I'm sticking with, because just like that dude who was in the friend zone for 10 years, I am refusing to believe that this is possible.

Friend zoned for 10 years?





Link??

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

nikka, that was the premise of my joke. A Jamaican is ruthlessly nutting in his wife. Meanwhile, dude could benefit from being more like a stereotypical Jamaican.

@ the bolded.