I just found the goat site..http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/

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I'm speaking in what-ifs because that's what YOU are speaking in, dear...

What i'm also not doing (as it appears you are) is searching for imaginary situations where it would be okay to not honor your commitments because it's less "easy".

well I am speaking in realistic what ifs...but people in here are in denial as if some situations cannot and will not ever happen to them...

I do not believe it is okay to cheat...

I can say I would never rob anyone either but if I was broke and hungry for long enough and I bet I would think twice...but I am sure everyone here would say they would never go broke or hungry either...
 

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well I am speaking in realistic what ifs...but people in here are in denial as if some situations cannot and will not ever happen to them...

I do not believe it is okay to cheat...

I can say I would never rob anyone either but if I was broke and hungry for long enough and I bet I would think twice...but I am sure everyone here would say they would never go broke or hungry either...

The bold is where you got it crossed up.

(speaking for myself) It's not that "situations cannot and will not ever happen". I believe the opposite - situations always arise. But (1) you can help control the frequency of such situations al ot of the time, and (2) you can totally prepare for such situations before they confront you.

Real talk: It is better to prepare and prevent, than to repair and repent.

I can say I wouldn't stick up anyone. I have been really broke and hungry before and thought about it - but I didn't resort to it, because I already knew it isn't right. It's the same chit...
 

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I'd never cheat, hasn't happened to this point, but I don't believe that rule I live by is something everyone else can adhere to. I love my girl, but I put nothing past anyone not bound by blood, especially since she's very attractive and other guys are always trying to talk to her. [/B]

I know I've got an iron will (don't drink/smoke or do drugs), other people? Nah, not so much.

Dawg, you soun EXACTLY like me :pachaha:
 

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The bold is where you got it crossed up.

(speaking for myself) It's not that "situations cannot and will not ever happen". I believe the opposite - situations always arise. But (1) you can help control the frequency of such situations al ot of the time, and (2) you can totally prepare for such situations before they confront you.

Real talk: It is better to prepare and prevent, than to repair and repent.

I can say I wouldn't stick up anyone. I have been really broke and hungry before and thought about it - but I didn't resort to it, because I already knew it isn't right. It's the same chit...

how can you prepare for something you have no idea is going to happen to you is my point?

how long were your broke and hungry for?
 

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Reincar, do you have any advice on how a man can improve his chances of getting custody of his kids from a divorce (if that's even possible)? Does the man have any leverage in court at all if the wife is a proven cheater and he isn't?

At this rate, 24/7 custody of my kids is the only good thing I think I can get out of marriage. I wanna know what my options are if things don't work out. I can deal with my wife leaving me, I can even deal with having to pay her money after the divorce, but I don't know about only being allowed to see my future kids a certain number of times a month, while she gets them all the time and allows her new boyfriend to be around them more than I am.

Sometimes I honestly wish I could have a Michael Jackson arrangement; make a deal with a woman to have my kids and give me full custody. Let her visit them whenever she wants, though.
 

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how can you prepare for something you have no idea is going to happen to you is my point?

By looking at the examples of others who have been in such situations and how it turns out for them. Experience is the best teacher...but it doesn't just have to be your experiences you can learn from.

This is exactly why Hov did that; so that we don't have to go through that.
 

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Listen brehs its not about being scared of marriage etc or getting cheated on. If you read a lot of these stories especially the one coming from women who cheat on there husbands , you will notice one theme when they describe the man. They describe him as weak,lacking and all around soft.

Men have forgotten how to be men, and i don't mean slapping women around or nothing like that. Soon as you get with a women you have to let her know who is boss YOU, who runs shyt YOU, if she don't like it from day one send her packing.

The feminism movement, lack of father in homes and other factors have made men soft over the years. Women on the other hand have been embolden by this, shyt in the early days women would even dare dress a certain way outside the house for fear of what a man might say or think about her , now we are raised under this false flag of "liberty" disguised as nothing more than low level hoeing.

Point is go ahead and find yourself a decent female and marry her , if you lay down the rules from day one and that also means doing your part too, remember you do dirt you get dirt, but if you act like man to her she will treat you with respect like a man. You act almost as feminine as her and she will treat you like a bytch.
 
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Yeah, the shyt they are talking about is disgusting. :snoop:


A white woman's sense of entitlement, period, is the worst ever. I posted about this in the random thoughts thread a while ago. They have no shame when it comes to getting what they want. They have been taught from childhood that the consideration of their feelings are the end all be all of everything a man does, and the ultimate justification for why they are right about everything, no matter how wrong they are.

Just look the ads that both political parties run to try to gather an emotional pull. Two of the main ones from each party center around a white woman and her child.

The have been trained to think they are the prized possession of the world. :skip: And they act and demean men as such :whew:

I am all for interracial dating and what not, but the bolded above is the most understated and ignored trait when it comes to black men dating white women.

The American and Western European white women are the most spoiled gender on the planet and they have been conditioned for the last 400 years to think as such and aint no amount of game nor cervix tapping from nikkas is gonna change their over inflated sense of self.

A damaged negro is a perfect piece of coal to a lot of white women who know how to apply the right type of pressure. When she turns him into a diamond, she exploits his fruits for her own gain. Now I am not saying this is the rule, but nikkas will swear that this type of white women don't exist and that they're all angels who are just hypnotized by a nikka's under-appreciated swag/honor/intelligence/penis power/etc...etc.


Maybe this belongs in another thread
 

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There's a lot of fukked up stories on that site, but a lot of them dudes sound like a bunch of simps

Of course they're all simps there. You think a non-simp is gonna go to an online forum asking for advice on how to handle that situation? A man is supposed to know exactly what to do with their wives at that point :birdman:


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cheaters never give you the full story

"we kissed that was it hunny"

"i just gave him a blowjob for like 10 seconds, then ir ealized it was wrong"

"we only had sex once, i got drunk, im really sorry, i hope you forgive me"

and these simp lap dogs lap it up until the next time they played

Usually I like to stay ghost but damn talk about case and point.........

I Hate My Wife's Ex

Okay, here is the story I have been married for a little over 2 years my wife and I have had our problems in the past. Well I found out last Christmas that my wife cheated on me with her ex here is the story she gave me ( bare in mind she has only lied to me once before about anything) I remember the day in question I told her I wanted a divorce we were having serious problems I left for the weekend with friends during this time apparently she called up her ex and went over to his place hung out for a bit sometime that evening she says "she was forced into sex" I asked how far it went she said "He took my pants off and started to stick his penis in, then I started crying and ended it and left" remember I found out last Christmas this was a full 2 years after it happened. My question is how the hell do I get over this? I always said anybody who ever cheated on me I would dump but I said that before I was married so I didn't leave but I have been dealing with these horrible feelings for almost a year. I resent her on a weekly basis we have ran into the ex a couple times in the last couple months and my blood boils I just want to pound his face in especially this last time. We were walking in to the liquor store after a great movie and he was there saw us and just had a smile on his face. I am hurting inside and lashing out on my wife when I feel this way it ruined our night and I am tired of this. I welcome any suggestions and I would really like to hear other peoples views from being in the somewhat same position.

He actually believed that shyt :dwillhuh:

Walked in the spot with his wife having an grand time, seen old dude posted like "yeah I'm here, I fukked your bytch, and you know I got more then the tip in" :smugdraper: Slayed that man's whole night.

This fool is out here taking massive L's :bryan:
 

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You're talking to someone that has never smoked a cigarette, or tried any drugs, when I say I wont do something I don't. My will and lack of bending is my biggest gift, and biggest curse. There is no situation you can come up with that will have me cheating on her, like I said, if it gets dire I will leave her. I will not break the trust we have and go behind her back to fukk someone else. I'm a man, there is no emotional cheating for me, there is only sex.


A long ass time.

720 hours, 43,200 minutes, 2,592,000 seconds :birdman:

And it was around 7 weeks to be exact.

you sound just like peter the disciple.
"naw jesus, im down wit you through thick and thin, mayne. i wont NEVER sell you out dawg. you aint never had a friend like me." and thats when jesus said :what: "man, come up out my face ol fraud azz nygga. you see that rooster over there? i guarandamntee you before that rooster crows you gon deny you ever even knew me. matter of fact, you gon deny it three times." now, if a disciple couldnt keep it real with the greatest man ever you already know malta is full of shyt.
 
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