I just found the goat site..http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/
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I cant stop reading this thread.
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Alright. I'm not reading anymore of this. Its like rubernecking to see a bad car accident.
The cats who are getting cheated on allowed themselves to be. Too many men get in relationships and then let their women change them. Its a bubble. Just like an economic bubble, its going to eventually burst. Only difference between women and men here is that women are better at taking the temperature of a relationship. Guys will think everything is cool when it isnt cuz their doing all the right things. Meanwhile, your girl is emotionally checked out of the relationship and looking for another fixer upper.
The best way to never get cheated on is to stay the same person you were at the begining of the relationship.
We be trying to tell some of ya'll.
"But you're insecure."
"No, that's honestly just her male friend. I trust them both."
"I got the game on lock. My woman would NEVER do that."
You have no idea what the person you are with is doing unless you've investigated. The sad thing is you can do everything right and treat them like gold and they'll still pull it on you. I personally hold the attitude of I'm not concerned with holding on to any woman. If she's here, cool. If she leaves or I have to boot her, cool. I won't miss a beat and will still enjoy my life. You have to do that in a society with such low moral fiber. If you make another person your life, then you will be in for a world of hurt when you find out they were doing things you didn't expect.
"But you're insecure."
"No, that's honestly just her male friend. I trust them both."
"I got the game on lock. My woman would NEVER do that."
You have no idea what the person you are with is doing unless you've investigated. The sad thing is you can do everything right and treat them like gold and they'll still pull it on you. I personally hold the attitude of I'm not concerned with holding on to any woman. If she's here, cool. If she leaves or I have to boot her, cool. I won't miss a beat and will still enjoy my life. You have to do that in a society with such low moral fiber. If you make another person your life, then you will be in for a world of hurt when you find out they were doing things you didn't expect.
I cant stop reading this thread.
Edit:
Alright. I'm not reading anymore of this. Its like rubernecking to see a bad car accident.
The cats who are getting cheated on allowed themselves to be. Too many men get in relationships and then let their women change them. Its a bubble. Just like an economic bubble, its going to eventually burst. Only difference between women and men here is that women are better at taking the temperature of a relationship. Guys will think everything is cool when it isnt cuz their doing all the right things. Meanwhile, your girl is emotionally checked out of the relationship and looking for another fixer upper.
The best way to never get cheated on is to stay the same person you were at the begining of the relationship.
Unfortunately that won't stop you on getting cheated on. If the other person wants something else, they will go and get it.
Yep.... which is why I always stated that I had no issues fukking white women..but wifin getting into a relationship with one? No fukking way.
Not only that what kind of fukk nikka goes and snitches to the OM's wife. Check yo wife man not the other mans wife. I can't believe as a man you would even consider this.
Dude, you should not need to investigate people. You just need some sense and be able to spot signs and acknowledge character flaws.
You and some of the others here are fearful. You cling to this notion that women...all women are "evil" and can't be trusted when that simply isn't true. If you have to investigate every woman you are with by using all these sleuth tactics then you need to just dump her
So there's a board that is specifically made for cheaters and you use this as some sort of PSA to not trust women?
Have some sense. This goes for everything in life. Lulz at taking advice from men who have repeatedly gotten with low quality women.
I'm not saying that I'm immune to cheating...but I have some damn sense. The "horror" stories I hear yall talking about never happens to me.
The dudes in these stories are some of the softest, p*ssy ass dudes on the planet.
most people in this world can't be trusted or rather they can be trusted to always do what's in their own best interest even if it hurts another person in the process. that includes both men and women. if you put them in a situation where they wouldn't be likely to get caught and could fukk someone else over for personal gain i firmly believe most people would take the path of self gain over the path of integrity.
there are good people out there but they're the minority. most people are selfish self preservationist that are really only looking out for their best interest regardless of what it means for someone else.
You can never control what other people do. Following my advice might not stop you from being cheated on, but it'll keep you from being reduced to posting about it on cheating forums and trying to work it out in marriage counseling.
The unspoken part about a lot of these cheating stories is that things werent really all good. Something switched up. And its usually the person being cheated on who changed. They either stopped putting out the same effort or working out or talking and got too comfortable.
The reason people, especially men, get devastated by these breakups is because they dont remember how to catch their own food anymore. Dont change. I'm not saying don't GROW. But definitely dont change. You have to be the same person regardless of your relationship status or how much stuff you own or what you do for a living. Depending on how good you are at being yourself will go a long way to maintaining that attraction that got you married in the 1st place.
I can agree you should never change yourself for a woman and never become dependent. That way in case she does cheat, you can keep it pushing without keeping a beat. Bottom line is you can't stop a cheater from cheating. They will go ahead and do that regardless of what you do and if you aren't strong-minded enough, they will attempt to fault YOU for cheating.
you say don't change but life will change you. the secret is to never become too attached to anything and this is because all things in this world come to an end. even your relationship has a shelf life. maybe it ends when one of you dies or when one of you leaves but it will come to an end. when that time comes you should already be mentally prepared to accept it. blind attachment is a recipe for pain.
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don't know why, but reading that is hilarious to me
26 years married he cheats with man has HIV
I'm extremely torn. I love him with all my heart. We together have had a threesome now and then, I'm not an uptight prude...so why in the world would he find a man online and meet for lunch time sex? We have 4 grown kids, 2 grandbabies, one we are raising. I consider us upper class working family, from outside looking in pretty well off. He says one lunch time encounter and now HIV. I tested neg. I have known for about 3 weeks now, first dr appointment 10-10-12. I can't imiagine life without him. He also admitted an affair I was pretty sure going on in 2005. Am I a fool to stay? Did I open the door to this by being so open to occasion threesome? We have not told a soul. I also am the insurance carrier so without me health care might be out for him. I have a strong urge to protect him from humiliation but mostly my kids. Any encouragement ?
I'm extremely torn. I love him with all my heart. We together have had a threesome now and then, I'm not an uptight prude...so why in the world would he find a man online and meet for lunch time sex? We have 4 grown kids, 2 grandbabies, one we are raising. I consider us upper class working family, from outside looking in pretty well off. He says one lunch time encounter and now HIV. I tested neg. I have known for about 3 weeks now, first dr appointment 10-10-12. I can't imiagine life without him. He also admitted an affair I was pretty sure going on in 2005. Am I a fool to stay? Did I open the door to this by being so open to occasion threesome? We have not told a soul. I also am the insurance carrier so without me health care might be out for him. I have a strong urge to protect him from humiliation but mostly my kids. Any encouragement ?
