I just found the goat site..http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/

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Married Husband here. With my wife for 20+ years. Both of us are in our 40s. No children together. I'm coming to the conclusion that our marriage has to end. Haven't expressed this to my wife yet, but once I talk to the lawyer and figure out a plan of action I will.

Our marriage has been at times incredibly messy. We've separated on multiple occasions. Including once 16 years ago when she ended up pregnant by another man - we weren't together at the time but...... I've helped support that child financially for the last 15 years. I did not adopt it though and I am not its father.

As far as I know she has been faithful in our marriage aside from that, which arguably is infidelity.

I have been repeatedly unfaithful. And I haven't really felt much of any guilt for my actions. I'm taking recall of past events and if my memory serves me right I've had,

8 affairs of varying lengths in the last 10-12 years.
4 One night stands
And visited escorts on 25+ occasions

As well as gone on romantic dates with other women. A bunch of other "incidents" of cheating but no sex.

I honestly do not feel guilty for any of my actions. Is that a deficiency in my character? My wife and I live almost separate lives. I travel frequently and for long periods of time for work. During the "season" I live 3 hours away for much of the week. So it was never difficult to conceal anything. And my wife is not a jealous woman. I honestly do not think she would be that bothered if she knew. She doesn't know anything though.

No plans on confessing or anything of that sort. My question is in the title. Does everyone feel guilty for cheating? I'm a well adjusted person and successful and well liked and I do not feel like an abomination. Yet just reading this forum cheaters are seemingly considered to be that. Just looking for some feedback into my situation. Also please no comments about my wife's child. No desire to discuss that any further. I've had a couple other threads that have been hijacked with questions about that topic.

Thanks,

I had to take a breathe after the bolded... atleast the dude was a cheater too cause this would have been another one for the books.
 

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remember that cheaters eps where dude pissed in his coffee and his girl kissed him after giving the other dude oral.

Wow, most crazy shi* i seen my life

Never really watched that show. Maybe saw one or two episodes. Did that dude at least flip out when he found out what happened?
 

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Never really watched that show. Maybe saw one or two episodes. Did that dude at least flip out when he found out what happened?

He tried but the brotha was overpowering the boss and said he did it cause he hated him. He said he did her, pissed in his coffee, got dome from the boss's girl and told her to french him because he hated him.

To me, it just seemed like it was time for someone to die if I ever hate a man that bad.

It used to be on youtube but they probably took it off. I don't like watching Cheaters because it just validates treating women badly because they would do it to you first if you don't get them first.
 

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If both of you cheating, what's the problem.

In that particular story I quoted, there wasn't a problem. I was relieved to hear dude was a manwhore too, cause it wasn't looking bright initially. :laugh:
 
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I refuse to believe that all these stories are trolls because there are just too many…..Here are a couple more that "stand out".

Convincing wife that I still love her even though I cheated

I am having a major problem here. I have been married for 3 years and me and my wife has 2 daughters together. We are both 25 and only months apart in age. I also have a best friend who I will call Greg. Me and Greg have been close since high school and he is engaged. His fiance cannot have children so of course, he doesn't have kids. He is supposed to get married next April and I will be the best man.

Me and Greg can be described as best friends. We shared a dorm for 2 years in college and we have a lot of things in common. I would say that I am more sexual than him. His fiance is very religious so according to him, she is not comfortable with doing kinky things in the bedroom. She also does not give him oral sex because she says it is degrading. Greg has decided to stay with her because he loves her for so many other reasons.

In regards to my own marriage, the sex has diminished since we got married. My wife used to give me oral sex all the time but the frequency got less and less. I started to press her about it and one day, she snapped. She told me that she never enjoyed doing it and that she doesn't want to do it anymore. This hurt me because I felt I was conned. The sex was good when we got married and I was under the impression that she would always give me bjs. I should have tried to find the cause of her stopping this but it's too late for that now.

Me and Greg used to casually talk about our sex lives but one day at the pool, I told him how upset she made me. I told him how it wasn't fair that she wouldn't give me this anymore and how she would probably feel if I withheld giving oral to her. Greg was concerned and had the idea that maybe we should satisfy each other. I thought he was kidding but he was dead serious. Once he explained himself, it made sense. We are young men in our twenties with women that we love. We cannot leave them over this but that doesn't mean we shouldn't be happy. I agree that Greg doesn't sleep around and he feels the same about me. We are both heterosexual men also.

I decided to give his plan a try and I admit that we both got addicted. We would get together at different times and give each other what we wanted. We never had sex, we only satisfied each other orally. It would be to the point that we would meet up at lunch to satisfy each other in the car. Again, we never had sex and we are both happy in our relationships. We just have a bond that we acted on and that I now regret.

Apparently, Greg's fiance has suspected him of meeting up with his ex. She is somewhat insecure even though he is a good guy and I know he hasn't seen his ex in months. His fiance hired a PI and she found out about our arrangement. The PI took pictures of us both committing the same act over a period of 4 days. His fiance made copies of the pictures and gave them to my wife. I'm sure you know what happened next.

Now my wife wants a divorce. She says i'm dirty, gay, and a liar. I tried to explain our arrangement but she doesn't understand or want to listen. I told her that if she would have kept giving me what I wanted, this would never had happened. She is willing to give up everything we built because of this. To make matters worse, Greg's fiance has called off the wedding and doesn't want to see him. It hurts me because he was so happy with her and I feel that I was the cause of this.

What should I do? I want to fix my marriage and be back with my wife. I would also like to be in my daughters wife. I never thought I would get caught but it's too late for that now. Also, what can I do for Greg to save his wedding? I told my wife that it was my idea although it was really his. I thought at the time that he would benefit from my lying and be able to save his wedding. Apparently, that didn't work as she still wants to leave him. Please I hope someone has experience with this.
 
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Betrayed by the two most important men in my life...What should I do?

I will try to keep this as short as possible if I can. I have been lurking on this forum for a few months now because I suspected my husband was being unfaithful to me. We have been married for a few years now and we have 2 beautiful daughters together. He started acting strange a couple months ago by not wanting to have sex with me and wanting to be alone a lot more. I thought he was cheating on me so I have been monitoring his email and phone and he has not called anyone out of the ordinary. I have never been that close to my parents but my husband has always been closer to them and they seemed to like him.

On Valentine's day, I got the news. When I came home from work, my husband was sitting on the couch with my father. I thought it was awkward because I wanted to be alone with my husband on Valentine's. They told me to sit down because they had something to tell me. I sat down and nothing could prepare me for what I was about to hear. MY husband told me that he has been sleeping with my father for the past 4 months and that he was in love with him. At first I thought it was a joke but they were both dead serious. Once I realized they were serious, I freaked out and started going crazy. My father calmed me down but I spit in his face. He tried to make it seem like everything was going to be ok and I should accept their relationship if I really love them. Words cannot describe how much this has hurt me. I had no idea my husband was gay and even then, I would never expect for him to sleep with my father. My father is separated right now because of the situation but my mom had no idea this was going on either.

After fighting and screaming, I finally left the house and I am staying with my girlfriend. My little girls are with that monster now but when I talked to them, they were safe and didn't know about the situation. I talked to my husband on the phone today and he says that he wants to move out and get a apartment with my father to start a new life. I swear they are both like 2 brand new people to me and I am devastated. He also said that he wants to give him custody of the girls so they can stay with him. I said hell no and he threatened to make things much harder for me if I don't comply.

What should I do? I am totally lost and the past 2 days have been a nightmare. I could have never saw this coming and I would have much prefered my husband to cheat with another woman than to violate me like this. I totally hate my father now and I have not spoken to him since that day. MY mother doesn't seem to surprised since she said that my father had a similar episode before in their marriage. I have no idea what that means because she didn't give me the whole story. Please somebody help me with some advice.
 

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:krs: at those two stories. :laugh: @ we are both heterosexual - then yall woulda just grabbed whores.

2nd one is just depressing.

Im gonna check out the threads, curious what the comments are.

Edit: Lol the first guy ethers him right off the bat. Dude actually thinks him and Greg arent gay and oral isnt a form of sex. Has to be :troll:
 

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words can't describe wtf i am reading :mindblown:

most of this shyt has to be :duck:
 

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:krs: at those two stories. :laugh: @ we are both heterosexual - then yall woulda just grabbed whores.

2nd one is just depressing.

Im gonna check out the threads, curious what the comments are.

Edit: Lol the first guy ethers him right off the bat. Dude actually thinks him and Greg arent gay and oral isnt a form of sex. Has to be :troll:

thats one of the reasons why in healthcare we define a population as MSM (men who have sex with men) since a a pretty decent chunk of that population actually considers themselves heterosexual
 

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Betrayed by the two most important men in my life...What should I do?

I will try to keep this as short as possible if I can. I have been lurking on this forum for a few months now because I suspected my husband was being unfaithful to me. We have been married for a few years now and we have 2 beautiful daughters together. He started acting strange a couple months ago by not wanting to have sex with me and wanting to be alone a lot more. I thought he was cheating on me so I have been monitoring his email and phone and he has not called anyone out of the ordinary. I have never been that close to my parents but my husband has always been closer to them and they seemed to like him.

On Valentine's day, I got the news. When I came home from work, my husband was sitting on the couch with my father. I thought it was awkward because I wanted to be alone with my husband on Valentine's. They told me to sit down because they had something to tell me. I sat down and nothing could prepare me for what I was about to hear. MY husband told me that he has been sleeping with my father for the past 4 months and that he was in love with him. At first I thought it was a joke but they were both dead serious. Once I realized they were serious, I freaked out and started going crazy. My father calmed me down but I spit in his face. He tried to make it seem like everything was going to be ok and I should accept their relationship if I really love them. Words cannot describe how much this has hurt me. I had no idea my husband was gay and even then, I would never expect for him to sleep with my father. My father is separated right now because of the situation but my mom had no idea this was going on either.

After fighting and screaming, I finally left the house and I am staying with my girlfriend. My little girls are with that monster now but when I talked to them, they were safe and didn't know about the situation. I talked to my husband on the phone today and he says that he wants to move out and get a apartment with my father to start a new life. I swear they are both like 2 brand new people to me and I am devastated. He also said that he wants to give him custody of the girls so they can stay with him. I said hell no and he threatened to make things much harder for me if I don't comply.

What should I do? I am totally lost and the past 2 days have been a nightmare. I could have never saw this coming and I would have much prefered my husband to cheat with another woman than to violate me like this. I totally hate my father now and I have not spoken to him since that day. MY mother doesn't seem to surprised since she said that my father had a similar episode before in their marriage. I have no idea what that means because she didn't give me the whole story. Please somebody help me with some advice.


smh soooooo your homeboy tells you my wife does not suck my dikc anymore soooo you offer to sukc his.....:skip:
 

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Everytime I read this thread I'm like :why:

I'm pretty sure there's a global bush shortage now
 
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