I just found the goat site..http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/

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Continue to live in the same house as the man that fukked your wife brehs

The other man is our tenant, need legal advise - Talk About Marriage

Hello all, I'm in a dire need for help. My situation is too embarassing for me to be able to talk to anyone and I feel I'm losing my mind !
My wife and I have been married for 6 years. We are both in our early 30's. Dated for a year and a half before getting married. We have a 5 year old son.
Our marriage has had its upside downs, but I thought it was a good marriage. Wife and I are bying a three bedrooms apartment and paying mortgage.
One of the bedroom is occupied by our son, one is ours, and we decided to rent the third to help us a little bit with the mortgage.

We found a single man, steadily employed, in his late 20's, non-smoker, with great credit, who just met all our requirements of a room mate.
He was on time with rent, always quiet, always respectful..no problems or so I thought for 5 months.
Last night I woke up at night to use the bathroom and found my wife's place empty. I assumed she was in the bathroom, so I waited for her to come back
so I can get in. After about ten minutes I decided to go knock at the door, only to find the door open and no one in the bathroom. The house all dark
and quiet. I used the restroom and turned on the lights on the hallway. There was her purse, her coat, her shoes at the door...so she was inside the house.
A cold sweat covered my forehead. I could feel my knees shaking. I sat on the bedside, quiet, in the darkness.
About half an hour later, the tenant's bedroom door opened very slowly and I saw a slim shadow on the wall. On tiptoes and only in underwear, with her t-shirt
in her hand, my wife was trying to sneak back in our marital bed.
I turned on the lights and exploded. The expression on her face, the disbelief, the guilt, I shall never forget. She had no choice than to admit.
She was having an affair with the tenant from the first weeks he moved in. She claims she is unfulfilled sexually and emotionally with me, and he
makes her feel like a woman.
She refuses to kick him out. Even at my threats to divorce. The guy has a one year lease with us anyway, and is only in the 5th month. I don't know
what my legal rights are, in the circumstances of him having an affair with my wife in my own house. I haven't confronted him yet.
He's taller than me and better built. I'm terrified of coming out defeated and humiliated in front of my wife in a physical confrontation with him.
Couldn't function all day. Took off from work. Sent my son to my sister's house for my nephew's pijama party. I can use these hours alone to think
what to do until my wife and her lover boy come home from work later tonight.
I love my wife and can't believe this is the end. Can't believe she cheated on me for months. Can't believe her vows meant that little!
I want to cry here.
 
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lespaulultra3 said:
Continue to live in the same house as the man that fukked your wife brehs

The other man is our tenant, need legal advise - Talk About Marriage

Hello all, I'm in a dire need for help. My situation is too embarassing for me to be able to talk to anyone and I feel I'm losing my mind !
My wife and I have been married for 6 years. We are both in our early 30's. Dated for a year and a half before getting married. We have a 5 year old son.
Our marriage has had its upside downs, but I thought it was a good marriage. Wife and I are bying a three bedrooms apartment and paying mortgage.
One of the bedroom is occupied by our son, one is ours, and we decided to rent the third to help us a little bit with the mortgage.

We found a single man, steadily employed, in his late 20's, non-smoker, with great credit, who just met all our requirements of a room mate.
He was on time with rent, always quiet, always respectful..no problems or so I thought for 5 months.
Last night I woke up at night to use the bathroom and found my wife's place empty. I assumed she was in the bathroom, so I waited for her to come back
so I can get in. After about ten minutes I decided to go knock at the door, only to find the door open and no one in the bathroom. The house all dark
and quiet. I used the restroom and turned on the lights on the hallway. There was her purse, her coat, her shoes at the door...so she was inside the house.
A cold sweat covered my forehead. I could feel my knees shaking. I sat on the bedside, quiet, in the darkness.
About half an hour later, the tenant's bedroom door opened very slowly and I saw a slim shadow on the wall. On tiptoes and only in underwear, with her t-shirt
in her hand, my wife was trying to sneak back in our marital bed.
I turned on the lights and exploded. The expression on her face, the disbelief, the guilt, I shall never forget. She had no choice than to admit.
She was having an affair with the tenant from the first weeks he moved in. She claims she is unfulfilled sexually and emotionally with me, and he
makes her feel like a woman.
She refuses to kick him out. Even at my threats to divorce. The guy has a one year lease with us anyway, and is only in the 5th month. I don't know
what my legal rights are, in the circumstances of him having an affair with my wife in my own house. I haven't confronted him yet.
He's taller than me and better built. I'm terrified of coming out defeated and humiliated in front of my wife in a physical confrontation with him.
Couldn't function all day. Took off from work. Sent my son to my sister's house for my nephew's pijama party. I can use these hours alone to think
what to do until my wife and her lover boy come home from work later tonight.
I love my wife and can't believe this is the end. Can't believe she cheated on me for months. Can't believe her vows meant that little!
I want to cry here.
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Where's ya nuts breh :damn:..

He deserves it. These women don't respect simps
 
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lespaulultra3 said:
Continue to live in the same house as the man that fukked your wife brehs

The other man is our tenant, need legal advise - Talk About Marriage

Hello all, I'm in a dire need for help. My situation is too embarassing for me to be able to talk to anyone and I feel I'm losing my mind !:sadcam:
My wife and I have been married for 6 years. We are both in our early 30's. Dated for a year and a half before getting married. We have a 5 year old son.
Our marriage has had its upside downs, but I thought it was a good marriage.:ld:

Wife and I are bying a three bedrooms apartment and paying mortgage.
One of the bedroom is occupied by our son, one is ours, and we decided to rent the third to help us a little bit with the mortgage.:youngsabo:

We found a single man, steadily employed, in his late 20's, non-smoker, with great credit,:gladbron: who just met all our requirements of a room mate.:whoo:
He was on time with rent, always quiet, always respectful..no problems or so I thought for 5 months.
Last night I woke up at night to use the bathroom and found my wife's place empty. :leostare:I assumed she was in the bathroom, so I waited for her to come back
so I can get in.

After about ten minutes I decided to go knock at the door, only to find the door open and no one in the bathroom. The house all dark and quiet.:huhldup:

I used the restroom and turned on the lights on the hallway. There was her purse, her coat, her shoes at the door...so she was inside the house.:jbhmm:
A cold sweat covered my forehead. I could feel my knees shaking.:sadcam: I sat on the bedside, quiet, in the darkness.
About half an hour later, the tenant's bedroom door opened very slowly and I saw a slim shadow on the wall.:gurl:


On tiptoes and only in underwear, with her t-shirt in her hand, my wife was trying to sneak back in our marital bed.:ohhh:
I turned on the lights and exploded.:damn: The expression on her face, the disbelief, the guilt, I shall never forget. :mindblown: She had no choice than to admit.
She was having an affair with the tenant from the first weeks he moved in. :scusthov:

She claims she is unfulfilled sexually and emotionally with me, and he makes her feel like a woman.:beli:
She refuses to kick him out.:mjpls: Even at my threats to divorce.:martin:

The guy has a one year lease with us anyway, and is only in the 5th month. :yeshrug:

I don't know what my legal rights are, :patrice: in the circumstances of him having an affair with my wife in my own house. I haven't confronted him yet.

He's taller than me and better built.:ehh: I'm terrified of coming out defeated and humiliated in front of my wife in a physical confrontation with him.:francis:

Couldn't function all day. Took off from work. Sent my son to my sister's house for my nephew's pijama party. I can use these hours alone to think
what to do until my wife and her lover boy come home from work later tonight.
I love my wife and can't believe this is the end.:wow: Can't believe she cheated on me for months. :scust:Can't believe her vows meant that little!

I want to cry here:mjcry:.
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Fixed.....
 
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The problem with society is that everything as we know it has been a mirage of sorts, the internet, smartphones, social media etc has done more to open people's eyes to what's REALLY going on in western society in the last 5-10 years than a lot of religions to be honest. In the animal world, the male lion ALWAYS has to be on top of his game to keep his hoes in check. The second another male checks him, it's over. The fact of the matter is some people aren't built to always be faithful, that physical attraction to the same person decreases over time, the urge for some strange increases over time, etc etc. Men and women who are faithful over the entire course of marriage are overachievers, I don't think that's par for the course. Men and women in marriages need their "purge" days where they go f*ck something else to get it out of their system. This is already very common in Asia where the wives know the mistresses of their husbands. In general society needs to stop stigmatizing everything. You can love your wife and f*ck another woman, love and sexual desire are not the same.
 
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lespaulultra3 said:
Continue to live in the same house as the man that fukked your wife brehs

The other man is our tenant, need legal advise - Talk About Marriage

Hello all, I'm in a dire need for help. My situation is too embarassing for me to be able to talk to anyone and I feel I'm losing my mind !
My wife and I have been married for 6 years. We are both in our early 30's. Dated for a year and a half before getting married. We have a 5 year old son.
Our marriage has had its upside downs, but I thought it was a good marriage. Wife and I are bying a three bedrooms apartment and paying mortgage.
One of the bedroom is occupied by our son, one is ours, and we decided to rent the third to help us a little bit with the mortgage.

We found a single man, steadily employed, in his late 20's, non-smoker, with great credit, who just met all our requirements of a room mate.
He was on time with rent, always quiet, always respectful..no problems or so I thought for 5 months.
Last night I woke up at night to use the bathroom and found my wife's place empty. I assumed she was in the bathroom, so I waited for her to come back
so I can get in. After about ten minutes I decided to go knock at the door, only to find the door open and no one in the bathroom. The house all dark
and quiet. I used the restroom and turned on the lights on the hallway. There was her purse, her coat, her shoes at the door...so she was inside the house.
A cold sweat covered my forehead. I could feel my knees shaking. I sat on the bedside, quiet, in the darkness.
About half an hour later, the tenant's bedroom door opened very slowly and I saw a slim shadow on the wall. On tiptoes and only in underwear, with her t-shirt
in her hand, my wife was trying to sneak back in our marital bed.
I turned on the lights and exploded. The expression on her face, the disbelief, the guilt, I shall never forget. She had no choice than to admit.
She was having an affair with the tenant from the first weeks he moved in. She claims she is unfulfilled sexually and emotionally with me, and he
makes her feel like a woman.
She refuses to kick him out. Even at my threats to divorce. The guy has a one year lease with us anyway, and is only in the 5th month. I don't know
what my legal rights are, in the circumstances of him having an affair with my wife in my own house. I haven't confronted him yet.
He's taller than me and better built. I'm terrified of coming out defeated and humiliated in front of my wife in a physical confrontation with him.
Couldn't function all day. Took off from work. Sent my son to my sister's house for my nephew's pijama party. I can use these hours alone to think
what to do until my wife and her lover boy come home from work later tonight.
I love my wife and can't believe this is the end. Can't believe she cheated on me for months. Can't believe her vows meant that little!
I want to cry here.
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LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
 
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So my wife went nuts the other day, I mean over the top, screaming, hitting herself, threatening her child, the next day she ended up in the psych ward. I have since learned that what set her off is that she had cheated with a guy who was in town visiting a friend of hers, she thought there was more of a connection and the guy dumped her. This is not the first time she has cheated. Are marriage has been over for awhile, and we have stayed together for financial reasons, hers not mine. She has some mental issues, sees a shrink 2 times a week, and has not been able to work. I feel sorry for her and so I have stayed. But our agreement was not to screw around, I have not at all, and now I feel completely betrayed. I don't know if I have the energy left to wait for her to get out of the hospital, they are talking a couple weeks.

My first question? Do I let her know I found out and if so when do I tell her? Do I just pretend to support her emotionally until she is stable or do I just go no contact? I feel that she will be able to pick up on how I feel and may be able to assume I know. I am leaning towards just preparing to leave, get my own place, sever any joint accounts and bills. I don't want to be the guy that pushes her over the edge, but I have put up with her abusive behavior for too long. Is it calloused of me to be thinking of myself while she is locked up?
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lespaulultra3 said:
Continue to live in the same house as the man that fukked your wife brehs

The other man is our tenant, need legal advise - Talk About Marriage

Hello all, I'm in a dire need for help. My situation is too embarassing for me to be able to talk to anyone and I feel I'm losing my mind !
My wife and I have been married for 6 years. We are both in our early 30's. Dated for a year and a half before getting married. We have a 5 year old son.
Our marriage has had its upside downs, but I thought it was a good marriage. Wife and I are bying a three bedrooms apartment and paying mortgage.
One of the bedroom is occupied by our son, one is ours, and we decided to rent the third to help us a little bit with the mortgage.

We found a single man, steadily employed, in his late 20's, non-smoker, with great credit, who just met all our requirements of a room mate.
He was on time with rent, always quiet, always respectful..no problems or so I thought for 5 months.
Last night I woke up at night to use the bathroom and found my wife's place empty. I assumed she was in the bathroom, so I waited for her to come back
so I can get in. After about ten minutes I decided to go knock at the door, only to find the door open and no one in the bathroom. The house all dark
and quiet. I used the restroom and turned on the lights on the hallway. There was her purse, her coat, her shoes at the door...so she was inside the house.
A cold sweat covered my forehead. I could feel my knees shaking. I sat on the bedside, quiet, in the darkness.
About half an hour later, the tenant's bedroom door opened very slowly and I saw a slim shadow on the wall. On tiptoes and only in underwear, with her t-shirt
in her hand, my wife was trying to sneak back in our marital bed.
I turned on the lights and exploded. The expression on her face, the disbelief, the guilt, I shall never forget. She had no choice than to admit.
She was having an affair with the tenant from the first weeks he moved in. She claims she is unfulfilled sexually and emotionally with me, and he
makes her feel like a woman.
She refuses to kick him out. Even at my threats to divorce. The guy has a one year lease with us anyway, and is only in the 5th month. I don't know
what my legal rights are, in the circumstances of him having an affair with my wife in my own house. I haven't confronted him yet.
He's taller than me and better built. I'm terrified of coming out defeated and humiliated in front of my wife in a physical confrontation with him.
Couldn't function all day. Took off from work. Sent my son to my sister's house for my nephew's pijama party. I can use these hours alone to think
what to do until my wife and her lover boy come home from work later tonight.
I love my wife and can't believe this is the end. Can't believe she cheated on me for months. Can't believe her vows meant that little!
I want to cry here.
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Damn shame. :smh:
 
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