I just found the goat site..http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/

[PUT IN WORK]

My whole world exploded. I spoke to them both separately and they both claimed they had sex 6 times over a 2 month period. I have no way to know if that is true. Let's assume it is.

I have ups and downs about staying together or divorcing and I still have no idea. With the kids in the mix, I will likely stay but I am not sure how I am going to "un hear" those recordings I heard and imagine the things they were doing and of course feeling like I was totally played.

I am just feeling like **** and venting. This is the worst year of my life. I have had good weeks where things are almost normal again then I go back to How the **** could she.


I tried counseling and anti depressants, She is in counseling and on anti depressants.

She totally wants to work it out and is doing all the right things but I am not sure I can get over it.

I asked if the sex was better. She said not better or worse, just different. They told each other they loved each other and That KILLS me.






Posted by: DevastedDad Lived up to his SN.

 

[Scustin Trillberlake]

I'd murder both of them in that room. That would be the day i completely do not care what happens to me. As long as they are dead, i am good.

 

[Chrishaune]

I'd murder both of them in that room. That would be the day i completely do not care what happens to me. As long as they are dead, i am good.

I can almost feel you on that one. I couldn't bring myself to kill, but I would definetly feel like beating her and him, so the next time they would think about it before they did it to somebody else.

 

[ChiefQueen]

I'd murder both of them in that room. That would be the day i completely do not care what happens to me. As long as they are dead, i am good.

You want two consecutive life sentences for that shyt?!

 

[King Poetic]

that site got nikkas

 

[King Poetic]

I come to realize alot of those post on that site i browse are married dudes that are simps... talking about i still love my wife even tho she had the affair. or i still want to be with my wife even tho she cheated on me twice..

wtf!!!!! O.J. THEM BROADS AND CALL IT A NIGHT

 

[winb83]

My world completely ended, needing guidance



aww what a beautiful wife



how dare he works more to provide for his family



what shes not allowed to have a friend? what a horribel husband




HOW DARE HE, HOW DARE HE GOES THROUGH HIS WIFE PHONE



whats wrong with playful banter amongst the gender, not like they had sex she said they didnt

the only mistake that man made was believing in the fantasy that he could meet a woman, fall in love, settle down with her, have kids, and live out a happy life like that.

the truth is for the average man that scenario is almost as unlikely as winning the powerball lottery. most guys if they're lucky will get to play the role of provider to a selfish heartless bytch that will use them for that and fukk around on them behind their back and they'll never find out her deeds.

the truth is the guys that know how to light the passion of fire in a woman they're catches and they don't typically settle down and women don't wanna settle down with them. that's a fantasy they like to dream about but those guys take too much work and maintenance and they don't have to put up with a woman's shyt. those guys can't be controlled and can always walk away.

women want men that to a certain extent can be controlled. men who won't walk away. they resent those men at the same time but want them for the utility they serve in life.

 

[thegreatwb]

This seems like something that would be posted here on the coli....

I need help winning back my wife's heart.

I am here on the recommendation of a friend since she got some advice that helped her own marriage. My problem is that my wife caught me cheating on her in our bed. I knew what I was doing was wrong and that I was being selfish. Let me tell you the back story and that will bring me to today.

We have been married for 5 years. Only 1 son and just bought the house 6 months ago. I have a real good friend who is gay. His sexuality never bothered me and we all get along just fine. We go out sometimes together and party.

In early 2012, we went to a new club. We both had never been there before. It was a gay/lesbo club. Honestly, I was just going to enjoy some drinks and dance. I had never even thought about cheating on my wife. Anyway, while there, I met a very attractive woman.....or so I thought. Once we started talking, she asked for my phone and pulled up her facebook profile. She told me to read her profile and that if I was still interested, come find her.

I read the profile and to make a long story short, she is a transvestite. I would have never known just by looking at her since she was very attractive. It intrigued me so found her and we started chatting again. We had fun, drank, and just partied. We exchanged numbers and kept in touch. Our relationship grew from being text buddies to oral sex and then to a full blown sexual relationship. I would have never expected myself to be in this position but I was honestly caught off guard. It also makes me feel bad for my wife because we generally get along and I had no reason to cheat on her. It was just my curiousity and poor judgement.

Now as far as the woman I have been seeing, it has been a roller coaster. I never had anything against trannys but she just took me by surprise. I felt like I had the best of both worlds. I could be in the presence of a very beautiful woman who just happens to like all the things I like such as sports and drinking. I connected to her as a man but her beauty kept me close to her. All the little nagging and small arguments I had with my wife were non-existent with my new friend. I'm guessing it's because she's a guy and we could understand each other a lot better.

Back to the present, I urged my wife to go out on New Years with her friends. She really didn't want to go but I gave her every reason to go because I wanted to spend some time with my friend. After my wife life, my friend came over and we had sex in our bed. I don't know what my wife sensed but for some reason, she double backed to the house. She walked in our bedroom and found my friend inside of me. She was able to see my friends anatomy as well as the way she was dressed and my wife just put 2 and 2 together. She ran out the door crying and I felt so horrible.

Since then, she has moved out and wants a divorce. In fact, I just got the papers this week. This is not what I want and I know I made a bad decision. I need help in finding a way to convince my wife that I was just curious and this is not the real me. I understand that I hurt her and I'm really sorry for that. I want to keep my family together and I don't want things to end like this. She has basically been ignoring me and only contacts me if it has something to do with our son or the divorce. How can I win her back?

 

[Scustin Trillberlake]

You want two consecutive life sentences for that shyt?!

 

[AkaDemiK]

your wife doesnt suck or fukk you anymore, then she inv a male co-worker over for a 3 some, blew him and watched him bust a nut on ya back and you still want her back?

 

[Blessings]

subs for later

 

[threattonature]

they cant be black right?

are they?

Hell no. They're white folks.

 

[b. woods]

Okay... I’m at a crossroad right now. If you guys have read my previous thread you know that I’m going through a separation, my wife is considering divorce, and she wants to file next month. Here is the gist of my situation:

- Got kicked out of my house because my wife needed space and time to think about where our relationship was going

- I’m now living at her Moms…

- Wife has nothing left to give in this relationship

- I’m still fighting for our marriage (well just recently I’ve been slowly giving up hope for reconciliation although that would be the best case scenario)

- About a month and a half ago I saw a text from a co-worker come through her phone that said “Muah” I thought nothing of it and deleted it from her phone, but this definitely sparked my curiosity and attention

- I then installed a text tracker on her phone to see if there was anything going on

- About 3 weeks ago I discovered text messages from her co-worker, which in my eyes would be inappropriate (it would be inappropriate for any significant other to see). Basically he would attempt to make some sort of comment to her and she would allow it. For example him asking that he would like to “see” our house or asking about what time she would be in the shower, or even worse her saying “Do you want to stay over? ” since they both knew that I was going to be gone on vacation that week. He also wanted to meet her for a “hug” (Really!?), which she refused.

- So I immediately came home and asked to see her phone, she already deleted most of the text messages from him so I knew something was going on. If I hadn’t come home, who knew how much further their texts would’ve gone or what they would’ve done. I confronted her about why she would do such a thing and her only response was “Because I like the attention.” Well this is not what a wife should be doing; I don’t care what our situation may look like, it’s just NOT right (Hopefully you all agree).

- After I was done arguing with her, I called him from her phone to see if he would answer her call differently, which he didn’t. I immediately started yelling at him for a whole 6-7 minutes stating that it was not right for him to make any of those comments/advances to her. Just because she’s “emotionally hurt” it doesn’t give him the right to stand in; I’m still her husband until the marriage has dissolved and I will fight for her. He explained that it was simply just friendly conversation and that he was just trying to be a friend and to try to keep her mind off of everything (I called bull**** on that). He said if it made me feel better that he wouldn’t contact her on a personal level, just strictly professional.

- Since these incidents she factory reset her phone and I lost my ability to see what’s going on

- Most recently I checked our “dirty drawer” and found that from our 10 pack of condoms there were only 7 left. We used one a while back but didn’t really like it, she’s on BC so we never used them again, the other two “mysteriously” disappeared

- After finding out that 2 condoms were missing, I confronted her and this is our text transcript:

Me: “I’m glad you had so much ‘fun’ with your boyfriend…”
Her: “Whatever. You don’t know what you’re talking about”
Me: “I’m not surprised that you would’ve done that” (In the past she cheated on me twice and got pregnant by the first one…)
Her: “I didn’t do anything… and honestly it doesn’t matter anyway. We are done and I’m filing for divorce as soon as I get back home.”
Me: “So you can f**k him without feeling guilty… got it”
Her: “I didn’t f**k anyone… but if I did I wouldn’t feel guilty."
Me: “Such a WH*RE response…” (I was about to bring up her past adulterers)
Her: “Go f**k yourself! You’re nobody to me.”

No respect for dude.

 

[Hersh]

fukk these ratched ass bytches-- fukk THEM

 

[MikelArteta]

I just came across a story of a man whose wife cheated on him with his best friend

http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/70599-wife-13-years-cheated-w-my-best-friend.html

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