I just found the goat site..http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/

[↓R↑LYB]

you getting geeked over having rep power? you're acting like you won the lottery or something. for real, shut your overjoyed ass up.

I made a sodomite angry

 

[AntiHero]

@ people who still gets into relationships and married.

I remember this girl made a thread on another forum about her friend bragging about how she's going to cheat. She lied to her boyfriend and told him that she was flying out to New York to help for the hurricane sandy when she was actually heading out to Florida to get fuked by some other dude.

 

[MikelArteta]

@ people who still gets into relationships and married.

I remember this girl made a thread on another forum about her friend bragging about how she's going to cheat. She lied to her boyfriend and told him that she was flying out to New York to help for the hurricane sandy when she was actually heading out to Florida to get fuked by some other dude.

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[Taadow]

lets be candidate about what marriage is.

I'm gon' DIE. RIGHT NOW.

 

[TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?]

U know whats crazy bout marriage and infidelity?

over 90% of the men who get cheated on try to make it work
Rehab,counselling etc..

cray huh?

 

[TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?]

There is a poster named Malcolm on there going thru it
and his ho signed up to admit her cheating ways




6 months after learning of affair I asked her to leave without me

Greetings and a Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays to all,

My older brother spoke of this website and how it has been helpful to him so I will be giving this a whirl, since I don't tend to "talk" about my problems very much.

I have been married for 17 years, since I was 21 years old. We have 2 children together. A 10 year old daughter and a 5 year old daughter.

It had been a good relationship on the whole, as we have had some of the problems that many married couples have. But nothing dramatic, such as addictions, violence or adultery, etc.

Ah, but there is the catch. In the spring of 2012 my wife was on a work trip to another part of the country for a week for a conference. Standard stuff as this has happened many times before. When she returned she seemed rather unlike herself, but I didn't put much thought into it at the time as we are both busy .

The BOMB was dropped on July 4th. Her phone went off when she was in the shower,It was a text message that said "What color underwear are you wearing today?". When she got out I asked her what the hell that was all about. Initially she told me it was a joke a friend was playing on her.

Since I'm not 3 years old I asked her to try again. That is when she told me that she had slept with a co-worker on the trip, and that they had had sex one other time the week after she returned. Happy 4th everyone!

She told me that she was sorry and that she wanted to keep it a secret forever, but that the guilt was too much for her to take. Especially after seeing me take the girls out for a day on the town the day before. What does that even mean exactly, who knows? Rather odd considering I actually had to confront her to get the information.

So in hindsight I think this is where I really kind of messed up, as I pretty much forgave her and didn't do very much other than try to move on. She has been more affectionate, and I have kept track of her communications and travels and don't have a reason to think things have continued. Boy toy is located in another office some 250 miles away, so the day to day thing would have been difficult to continue.

Anyway, for some reason around the Holidays beginning I just started to find myself actually getting just angry about everything. I probably haven't been the perfect Husband or anything, but I didn't deserve to have any of this happen. I've never even looked at another girl since I met my wife. Don't I feel like an idiot now?

Every year we have tended to visit her parents about 5 hours away for Christmas. About a week ago I just honestly felt dead inside to going and told her I wasn't coming along this year. The girls wanted to see their Grandparents so I was okay with that, as I trust my wife as a mother. Not that much as a woman anymore.

She was all upset and telling me that I hadn't forgiven her after all. Well, no **** Sherlock. I honestly don't like her parents that much, and the thought of having to fake it just isn't something I can do at this point.

I made a mistake not kicking her out of the house this summer. I think I was just numb and couldn't understand what had happened before. But now that I do understand, I think I'd actually like to file for divorce now.

Am I nuts? How all over the board is this? Thing is, I REALLY dread having her come back tomorrow. I can't wait to see my girls again, but....ugh.

His wife

Lost at sea

Kind of scared but wanted to just let everyone know where we are at right now,,,,,"Malcolm" is my husband and we have been having trouble the past couple of months due to my cheating. He told me about this form yesterday and that it's been of help to him. I just asked him if he was seeing some therapy since he is so angry and he isn't, but it posting on this site. I read it and found his story. I've asked him if I could post on this site and he said "do what you want. So I hope this will be okay.

My husband has always been a good man and provider. I think someone along the line we both sort of got too comfortable. Where he would join clubs and activities I ended up wanting more attention. Eventualy I found it elsewhere, which is totally my fault. The truth hurts, but it needs to be stated. In our 18 years together and 17 married I've had 2 affairs. He knows about this after we talked yetersday. One was a one night deal 10 years ago when I was at a seminar. The other was with the guy who I was seeing when my husband broke up with me for my adultery.

Why did it happen? I'm selfish. I liked having two men in my life. I enjoyed the attention. The guy was reallyl happy to see me when we met at different places. I thought it was "real" and felt torn

Long story short my husband notified our employer and we were both suspended for immoral conduct. I was so hurt when it was first done, then I relazied that I brought it on myself. I was ashamed and found that I couldn't do what I was doing anymore with this other guy. I told him I was leaving and wanted my hubby back. He actually didn't seem to care that much and once the job thing broke down he became really a different person. I knew it wasn't a real love on both of our ends at that point.I've been home a few weeks now, and I am finding a place nearby to be with my family as much as possible. My husband won't let me stay past this month, and I understand that. I dont deserve to be treated with warmth by him right now. I just hope he knows one day how much I'm sorry.I dont deseve anything from my hubby, but it really hurts to see that he seems to hate me right now.

i think he threw her in the bushes though

 

[MikelArteta]

I'm 25 and married to an amazing man(married for 6 months, he is 30). He goes above and beyond for me. Pleasures me in every way possible. Cleans around the house. Open to communication. Brings me breakfast in bed. Massages me. Makes me laugh. Warms up the car for me in the mornings before work. Cooks me dinners. Sex is off charts. I love him. I can go and on. I go to school part time and work part time. I'm at home about 4 days a week. He works full time hours.


Everything sounds perfect, right?
Anyway, I'm the problem here. It is clearly me, not him, or by any means what he does or doesn't do for me. He satisfies me, however, it's the 'thrill of excitement' that I'm craving. He is fun and exciting, yes. However, it's my OWN issue that's at hand. It's my own little excitement on the side that I desire. To state it simple, just strictly SEX, nothing romantic.

I know this is wrong. I have always protested against infidelity. What the hell am I thinking?
I have not cheated, however, I've gone as far as introducing the idea to men. They're ALL over it, not only for the sex, but I can tell how much these men enjoy chatting me up. I am almost certain they will become attached, that totally makes my ego grow even bigger. As long as I can remember, I have always loved the idea of luring men in and have their weak feelings under my control. As early, as I found out I had this gift, testing it and using it bring me so much excitement.

I understand how horrible this sounds. I really do. I'm usually the one to rip on people who cheat and lie behind their partners' backs.
Please avoid being judgemental. I understand how much cheating hurts a relationship. If I were cheated on, I would never take the person back because of the hurt it would cause to me and the relationship.
I don't know what to do. I will definitely think long and hard before I do anything, I can't allow myself to go through anyway. I'm the type to feel remorse and guilt in a very extreme way, which prevents me from making bad decisions.

I get enough sex at home. However, I want my own little fun on the side to make things more exciting. I want someone to bang me and leave, no involvement that is all.
Any input would help me. Thanks guys.

I don't know where to begin...

 

[MikelArteta]

U know whats crazy bout marriage and infidelity?

over 90% of the men who get cheated on try to make it work
Rehab,counselling etc..

cray huh?

because most men love their wives more than their wives love them

 

[Torrential]

I was on my knees begging her to tell me if she loved him and to tell me the absolute truth in those messages. She told me after 3 hours of trying to talk to her, that I was reading into those messages more than what they are. She confessed that she had sex with him "once" before we were married when we had a major breakup or time apart if you will. She partly owned up to the sexual messages sent to each other, stating that they kissed, and played around but she "pulled away" and couldn't go through it… Which I know it’s BS.

My world completely ended, needing guidance

 

[MikelArteta]

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[planD]

Wife cheated but I don't know of when or with whom…...

My username explains exactly how I feel. My marriage is very young as we have only been married for 7 months. I suspected her of cheating for a while but never found any evidence. We would fight about it all the time and she said she considered leaving me because I didn't trust her. I was cheated on by a previous girl back in college so that left me damaged. I decided to let it go and try to trust my wife. Thursday, I received a package at my job. This isn't unusual since I'm an agent and receive packages for new talent all the time. What I received was a DVD and when I played it, it was a video of my wife having sex with another man. My heart dropped and I knew that me suspiciousness of her was right all along. The video features her having sex with a masked man. I have no idea who he is and he wears a mask the entire time of the video. They do many different sexual things in this video and my wife (maybe soon to be ex) seems very comfortable with him. What should I do and how should I hit her with this? There is only one other person who saw that video and that is my business partner. He only saw it because we normally watch these auditions together. Of course I had no idea what was on the disk but it's too late now. There are lots of questions in my head and he directed me here to get some help since he got marriage help from someone last year on this site?


I can't read this forum anymore. I can't handle it. You can have it. I rather watch people kill other over religion then this.

*dies inside

 

[KnowledgeIsQueen]

I believe it's conterproductive to entertain other ppl's negativity, when you're happy/in a successful relationship (run the risk of filling your head with unwanted assumptions).

But, this right here! the messy-ness is about to turn me into a lurker.

 

[Malta]

That site is the devil

 

[The Bilingual Gringo]

I don't know where to begin...

LOL

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[Ohnoits]

because most men love their wives more than their wives love them

yea...this doesn't happen on both gender's part at all...

Humans cheat I'm just at these stories of coldness with kids involved, don't know how people can't think long-term about those decisions.