damn they changed up the site these b*stards
I just found the goat site..http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/
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What do you mean, it looks the same?
I never thought I would be on the sending end of something like this but here I am. I have been married for 11 years. My husband is an amazing man and we have one boy and one girl. Our marriage has had it's ups and downs just like any other marriage. Two years ago, I went through a deep depression. I got laid off and my mother passed away. At the time, my husband was working 14-18 hours a day just to keep food on the table. It took me about 6 months before I tried to get help and went to therapy. be a good man brehs
I resented my husband a lot during this time. Part of the reason was because he was working too much and I was left to take care of the children while dealing with my emotional issues.Also, he made it seem like my depression was something I could just turn on and off like a light bulb. He said he cared for me but I never felt it during this time. He made me feel very alone.
To make matters worse, I suspected my husband of cheating with a woman from his job. He would text her at all times of the day and he stayed very close with his phone. I managed to check his phone one day but I couldn't find anything pointing to a sexual relationship. It was just mostly friendly stuff about work and family. I told my husband that I wanted to meet her but he wouldn't let me. He said that he should have friends just like I did. This made me feel worse and I kept having a hunch that he was sleeping with this woman.
After many months of therapy and Xenlafaxine, I started to feel better. I started to get out of the house more and talk to my old friends more. My husband stayed the same. HE was still an amazing husband and father. He worked his butt off but he still talked to that woman. When I looked back on the days during depression, I felt betrayed and I just felt that he cheated on me.
I started to lose weight and become more active. I felt alive again. Guys at the gym would hit on me and I would catch glares from guys at the store. This made my husband jealous but I didn't care. I knew that I hadn't done anything wrong and I know I was unhappy with his friendship with the woman at work.
My husband has an old friend named Matt. He recently moved from Michigan to where we live. He found a job down here that he wanted to take. My husband was very excited that he was moving down here since that was his old high school friend. We met Matt at the airport and took him to dinner. I have to admit that he was quite a charmer. I figured that anyone that hung out with my husband in high school must have been a dork. I'm not putting my husband down but he was really a nerd back in those days. Matt was actually the polar opposite of him.
Anyway, Matt was pretty hot when I met him. To make matters worse, he complimented me and told me I was beautiful. Matt began work and began to hang out with my husband on weekends since he didn't have many friends. We also become friends and I would talk to him when he came to the house. He would flirt a lot with me but I always shut him down.
There was one day when Matt come over for a few hours since they were cleaning the carpet at his apartment. The kids were with my mother and me and my husband were supposed to go out to dinner. Since Matt had no place to go, he was going to tag along. Before we could leave, my husband got called in to work. One of the other leads was sick so he had to fill in. Me and Matt were already up so we just chatted on the couch. We must have talked for around 2 hours. He kept complimenting me and making me feel good. In fact, it was years since a man made me feel as good as he did.
We got closer and closer that night and he eventually kissed me. I did not push him away although I with I would have. We ended up having sex there in our living room. It was like we were both caught up in the moment and didn't realize what was happening. dem moments
That moment didn't end until recently. I've been seeing Matt off and on for the past 8 months. I've had enough respect for my family that we never again had sex in our home.
Aren't you so thotful
I would either go to his apartment or we would get a hotel. I justified my infidelity because I fooled myself into thinking that my husband was really cheating on me with that other woman.
A couple of weeks ago, my husband was out at a club with Matt. I don't know the exact details but somehow, my husband went though his phone and found text messages from me as well as nude pictures. My husband got in a fight with Matt and left him at the club. He came home and confronted me and I denied everything. The first thing that came to mind was to lie since I never set out to hurt him.
My husband left and called Matt. Matt told him every single detail about our relationship. He told him everything down to the day it started. At that point, I had no choice but to come clean about what I did.
Now it's too late. My husband has moved out and wants a divorce. I've been sitting here replaying this in my head and I really feel like ****. I've been falling back into my depression and I feel that I have no place to turn. He doesn't want to reconcile and doesn't want counseling. He just wants to divorce. My kids don't understand what's going on yet but soon they will find out.
What can I tell my husband to convince him to give our marriage another chance. I apologized for cheating and lying but he acts like he doesn't care. how could he right?
How could it be that he can just turn on a dime and walk out on us after 11 years of marriage. I've humbled myself and I would do absolutely anything to have him back. I realize now that I had a good thing at home and I should have never cheated. He has agreed to meet me on tuesday morning for lunch and we can talk then. What should I say to him? I know that if I can get him to understand that I'm truly sorry, I should have a chance to win him back.
get married brehs
theres a hidden forum now
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totally sorry? brehs she was slobbing on another dikk, she was getting her insides rearranged. think of it this is the woemn you got down on one knee for and she couldn't keep her legs closed. Your in a good position?. those infidelity cravings will never go she doesn't respect you, she'll be sucking on jamaican dikk again yeah mon. FIle for custody and get your kids, this woman made it out like a bandit, she canoodled and cavorted with another man, yet you forgave her and she still gets the great house, her kids and her cuckold, and some bbc on the side
I am guessing there will be some slapped foreheads and staring at screens going on when this update is read, but I married my ex wife again on Wednesday.
I didn't get around to leaving; I still have a great home. My, now 2nd, wife has let things slide sometimes (as in sometimes I don't get sex all the time) but has always been remorseful and open when needed.
I went through a couple of things that made me realise it was daft to continue living together as a divorced couple:
I started a new job (since left and now have my own business) and had to enter "marital status" on a form. I found myself noting - in my impossibly scrawly writing - "Divorced but still living with ex wife". I sat there and stared at it, thinking how DUMB it looked!
She had a health scare so I had her make a new will as, being divorced, I would have no rights to some of her benefits and questionable ones to others. With 2 children this is a big deal. Being divorced was potentially costing me money if she pegged it!
The whole inheritance thing that took me over 18 months to sort out got a whole lot better for her and she now has more assets than I do. I couldn't go after that as part of the settlement from our 1st marriage. If we do divorce again, I want a slice of that particular pie
So, we married on Wednesday. It was a as basic as you can make it - at the local registry offices. The only 2 witnesses were her brothers (one cried when I asked him and said how proud of me he was. It didn't stop him hiding her affair, but it was heartfelt).
I feel really happy for the first time in years; the first time since she told me she wanted a divorce 4 or so years ago when she was (unknown to me) in the middle of her affair.
I didn't let her use the old wedding ring and bought one for me for £2.99 from eBay.
We have a new and entirely different marriage. I feel like I have a future again.
I would never have guessed in a million years it would come to this - especially in May 2012 when my world fell apart - but I know I've made the right decision. If nothing else, I know how easy divorce is so if there is a next time, it will be far more simple to accomplish.
So I can honestly say that is the end of this chapter of my life. I say it every time, but thank you to all the help I've had on here. It's been an immense source of strength for me.
He hasn't learned anything from this experience
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping...er-finding-out-really-struggling-long-16.html
That explains a lot about the posts you make. People thinking hurting others before they get hurt is protecting themselves until they meet someone who truly loves themHonestly it ain't even that funny to me, I've been cheated in even though I was only with that chick for 3 months and didnt love her or anything I was stillfor a little bit.
This post
Never say Never
He hasn't learned anything from this experience
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping...er-finding-out-really-struggling-long-16.html
Every time you guya bump this thread, I end up looking at it for a few days.
He hasn't learned anything from this experience
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping...er-finding-out-really-struggling-long-16.html
lol only a few epople spoke that ether to him
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Originally Posted by Chris989
I married my ex wife again on Wednesday.
God help you buddy. You're nuts! You just jumped back into the lion's den.
I just read your original post and it broke my heart. Maybe you should too.
Like the saying goes. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice....
you know he will get played again ya mon
I never said that she specifically bothers you what I am betrayal makes people reevaluate things no matter how much they try to act like it does noy bother them. Unless you have a heart of stone.um no it doesn't
if you think some thot i dated for 3 months almost adecade ago bothers me
That's what you tell yourself but life always has other plans. I think some humility on your part is in order because you're setting yourself up, no one's invincible not even you.
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I dont care anymore 2026
Some men dont have balls and are pathetic a$$holes.... they love the pain of being in abusive relationships as much as women do. they lack the resolve to do what is necessary....