I need some advice (brews only please!)

[live it to the limit]

So, there's this guy that I've been digging since undergrad. I never told him then but after graduation I hit him up on Facebook and was like "hey I don't usually do this (cause I really don't), but I think that you're a cool guy and I've always found you interesting. Can we chat?" We exchanged numbers but nothing really came of it. Fast forward a few years to now - We literally live around to corner from each other. I just saw him when I was walking my dog, we passed each other while crossing the street and dude went out of his way to not acknowledge me. shyt had me feeling kinda

He's usually the type of guy that I go for : has a job, no kids, seems cool, a la Harrison from Scandal type of dude. But I do get the feeling that he's into white women. He's just got that " i'll take a basic white girl over a sista vibe."
I'm not saying that i'm all that but, dang. I can honestly say that this is the only dude that I tried to get at that bothers me because he rejected me. But, hey I guess its true that women handle rejection way worse than guys.
So, brehs do I just forget about my 7 yr crush? And give him the
whenever I see him? Real talk as a female I can admit that the shyt kinda hurt my feelings.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

But I do get the feeling that he's into white women. He's just got that " i'll take a basic white girl over a sista vibe."
I

Could it possibly be that he just doesn't find YOU attractive?

 

[Couth]

you gotta be a dude.

females don't even type like that breh.

Either way you're on some serious stalker shyt. Breh don't want you. He didn't want you then, he doesn't want you now. Stop typing essays about him online and move on with your life.

 

[live it to the limit]

Could it possibly be that he just doesn't find YOU attractive?

Maybe, he might not like chocolate.

 

[live it to the limit]

you gotta be a dude.

females don't even type like that breh.

Either way you're on some serious stalker shyt. Breh don't want you. He didn't want you then, he doesn't want you now. Stop typing essays about him online and move on with your life.

No, I'm not a dude. But ok

 

[MAKAVELI25]

Maybe, he might not like chocolate.

And they say MEN have oversized egos

 

[live it to the limit]

And they say MEN have oversized egos

Its not an ego thing. I just like him. Sorry for liking someone and actually trying to figure out why they may not be into you

 

[jeh]

Welcome to the everyday life of men who faces rejection.

Either make him jealous or forget about him. Some men and women will holla once they see you with someone. A la "rather share than have my own" Doesn't mean it will work, but it does have some truth in it. Or like I said you can forget about him and realize nothing in life go as planned and nobody owes you shyt. I don't waste my time or energy on holla at a womem, for that long. 7 years, sheesh.

 

[live it to the limit]

Welcome to the everyday life of men who faces rejection.

Either make him jealous or forget about him. Some men and women will holla once they see you with someone. A la "rather share than have my own" Doesn't mean it will work, but it does have some truth in it. Or like I said you can forget about him and realize nothing in life go as planned and nobody owes you shyt. I don't waste my time or energy on holla at a womem, for that long. 7 years, sheesh.

Thanks for the advice. some dudes on here are so mean for no reason. I haven't been actively thinking about him for 7yrs. I guess I just feel some type of way when I physically see him.

 

[Danny Up]

He thinks you're a psycho.

 

[Suicide King]

Thanks for the advice. some dudes on here are so mean for no reason. I haven't been actively thinking about him for 7yrs. I guess I just feel some type of way when I physically see him.

Why do you have so much trouble letting go?

Are obsessive about other things?

Most people don't like people with an addictive personality, they always give off a funny vibe.

 

[thewiz]

If nothing has happened by now there's pretty much no chance, he ain't feeling you.. just deal with it, it's not the end of the world

 

[live it to the limit]

Why do you have so much trouble letting go?

Are obsessive about other things?

Most people don't like people with an addictive personality, they always give off a funny vibe.

there was never anything to "let go" We had a few phone conversations thats it. Just thought it was strange that he couldn't even say hello and it threw me for a minute. Lets be clear i'm not following him. The apartments that he lives in weren't even built when I purchased my condo. Its just strange seeing him all the time and he acts like I have leprosy.

 

[live it to the limit]

He thinks you're a psycho.

that was informative, thanks

 

[old_timer]

i'll run this in two parts


aight so when i was graduating with my bs degree
i put in an application to a major employer in my field --> no response
a few years later, i saw an advertisement where they were hiring
resume+cover letter sent, did an office interview, then.. --> had to call them to learn spot had been filled

mid-career they contacted me
did a long phone interview, then...nothing

point being- i have a firm limit of three attempts
this applies to everything
women, employers, whatever

(honestly 99% of the time you just make one approach
but i am talking about rare exceptions , special circumstances etc)
brehette, you have to keep it moving
there are too many options in life to get hung up anything or anyone