Some of you love chaos
I need some genuine coli advice(Serious)
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Now that you have serious dirt on her make her give you top on command
I personally would stay out of it. I wouldn’t even have confronted Taylor about it. That to me is injecting yourself into the drama.
My eyes and ears would be close.
Let them figure it out.
If you have the means to move, do it.
If not, you should keep your mouth shut and feign ignorance.
If you started suspecting shyt, 9/10 Carl has been suspecting shyt but doesn’t want to admit or acknowledge it.
It doesn’t matter if you went to tell Carl, if he doesn’t want to accept it, he won’t, then that would put a dent in you all relationship. He may even accuse you of being jealous.
You should stay out of it. Leave if you can. If you can’t, keep it to yourself and let them figure it out.
My eyes and ears would be close.
Let them figure it out.
If you have the means to move, do it.
If not, you should keep your mouth shut and feign ignorance.
If you started suspecting shyt, 9/10 Carl has been suspecting shyt but doesn’t want to admit or acknowledge it.
It doesn’t matter if you went to tell Carl, if he doesn’t want to accept it, he won’t, then that would put a dent in you all relationship. He may even accuse you of being jealous.
You should stay out of it. Leave if you can. If you can’t, keep it to yourself and let them figure it out.
Just thought of something..
This story, assuming OP is telling the truth, only confirms the following:
One's educational background, financial accomplishments or lackthereof have nothing to do with one's character.
A POS is a POS and a solid individual is a solid individual!
Also, people need to learn not to deal with people who don't have shyt to lose! People who don't have to lose isn't thinking about potential consequences nor reprocussions of their actions. A person who does have shyt to lose will think of potential consequences and reprocussions of their actions.
Maybe I am old fashioned and I will accept it, but I am against living with significant others or other people in general for that matter...
There are exceptions, but unless said person is a fiancé(e), spouse, parent or child, then people need to have their own spot or live apart. That way, if something bad goes down, then both people won't have to deal with awkward and complicated living arrangements.
In my original post, I said that the backstabbers need to move out. I still feel that way, but OP and Carl could also see if they can break the lease and move out and let those other two fend for themselves.
If it was me, I would wanna know if my lady and homie backstabbed me and I certainly wouldn't want to stay in a house with people who have no respect for me and breached my trust. Somebody would have to go!
This thread had me thinking about a past roommate situation where I fell out with an ex homie.
Thank GOD I live alone and prefer it to be this way! Only a wife or my Mom can live with me! Other than that, folks gonna have to HYON!
This story, assuming OP is telling the truth, only confirms the following:
One's educational background, financial accomplishments or lackthereof have nothing to do with one's character.
A POS is a POS and a solid individual is a solid individual!
Also, people need to learn not to deal with people who don't have shyt to lose! People who don't have to lose isn't thinking about potential consequences nor reprocussions of their actions. A person who does have shyt to lose will think of potential consequences and reprocussions of their actions.
Maybe I am old fashioned and I will accept it, but I am against living with significant others or other people in general for that matter...
There are exceptions, but unless said person is a fiancé(e), spouse, parent or child, then people need to have their own spot or live apart. That way, if something bad goes down, then both people won't have to deal with awkward and complicated living arrangements.
In my original post, I said that the backstabbers need to move out. I still feel that way, but OP and Carl could also see if they can break the lease and move out and let those other two fend for themselves.
If it was me, I would wanna know if my lady and homie backstabbed me and I certainly wouldn't want to stay in a house with people who have no respect for me and breached my trust. Somebody would have to go!
This thread had me thinking about a past roommate situation where I fell out with an ex homie.
Thank GOD I live alone and prefer it to be this way! Only a wife or my Mom can live with me! Other than that, folks gonna have to HYON!
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I did make a major mistake but at the time I was very emotional and just wanted it to be a lie….
If rent wasn’t so damn high here, I would have definitely moved into my own spot. I make a lot as a nurse but not enough to live by myself here.
A lot of black men in my own community don’t have long lasting friendships like they do, so this breaks my heart even more.
I don’t understand this thought process that if Taylor and Weston tell Carl that Carl is going to automatically assume you knew or even question whether or not you knew.
I can’t see them telling Carl they been fukking and then adding that you knew. Telling Carl that you knew doesn’t add anything, in anyway possible, to what they have been doing.
If you feel some type of way about it, I would talk to both Taylor and Weston and tell them, whatever y’all decide to do, whether y’all tell or not, keep my name out of it. I don’t know shyt, ain’t see shyt, and hear shyt.
Then let them figure it out and you finish your degree with peace of mind.
I can’t see them telling Carl they been fukking and then adding that you knew. Telling Carl that you knew doesn’t add anything, in anyway possible, to what they have been doing.
If you feel some type of way about it, I would talk to both Taylor and Weston and tell them, whatever y’all decide to do, whether y’all tell or not, keep my name out of it. I don’t know shyt, ain’t see shyt, and hear shyt.
Then let them figure it out and you finish your degree with peace of mind.
This makes sense logically but means nothing if hoeness runs in a woman’s veins
Nothing Carl ever did or will do, can stop that. Rather he finds out now before he marries her
I think telling Carl is also emotional. Millions of examples of friends telling other friends about their unfaithful partners and it backfiring. And instead of the static being directed at the cheating parties, the static is directed to the friend.
If you need a place to finish up your degree, let Carl find out organically. At worst, Weston and Taylor will get kicked out.
You tell Carl, you’re now implicated in their bullshyt and when Carl goes scorched Earth, everybody is getting kicked out and you now out of a place.
Tell those two keep your name out of it.
If Weston is going to tell the truth I can guarantee you, he is going to include me in it.
"Wesson" put you in a lose lose situation.
You tell carl, he breaks up with shawdy for a few weeks, then she back at the house. shyt hella awkward and you have to move out cuz she wants you gone. AND you have to worry about Wesson catching you slipping one day.
OR
You don't tell. Carl finds out eventually and when he brings it up to Taylor, the first thing that comes out her mount is how bad she been feeling ever since you confronted her about it six months ago. Now you gotta move because you didn't keep it 100 with your friend.
Just pack your shyt up and move. Or figure out a way to speed up the "Carl finding out" process
You tell carl, he breaks up with shawdy for a few weeks, then she back at the house. shyt hella awkward and you have to move out cuz she wants you gone. AND you have to worry about Wesson catching you slipping one day.
OR
You don't tell. Carl finds out eventually and when he brings it up to Taylor, the first thing that comes out her mount is how bad she been feeling ever since you confronted her about it six months ago. Now you gotta move because you didn't keep it 100 with your friend.
Just pack your shyt up and move. Or figure out a way to speed up the "Carl finding out" process
The only way to protect your neck and do right by your friend is to convince Taylor to sit down with the two of you and let him know herself. You have to convince Taylor that you care for her and wouldn't want something like this to cast a dark cloud over her and Carl's potential future. Winston can sit this talk out, he's owed nothing and can be addressed by Carl when he feels comfortable to do so. It's best that Winston isn't in the house when the three of you talk. *This will also help avoid any immediate physical conflict.
Best case scenario: Winston leaves and Carl decides to try and repair the relationship with Taylor seeing as they've been together so long. ( @CouldntBeMeTho
) You might lose Taylor as a friend if she's too immature to accept accountability, understanding that you had to protect someone you both care deeply about from harm. Her status directly affects yours and will determine if you can stay there, comfortably or otherwise.
Mid case scenario: Carl ends the relationship - Taylor and Winston
- You and Carl stay in the house, and given how close you two are, you can provide emotional support.
Worst case scenario: Carl wants nothing to do with any of you anymore. Tells you all to chuck deuces - You're now unsheltered and you've lost two friends. (Highly unlikely)
Or... you can just do nothing.
*Nuclear Apocalypse bizarro scenario: Carl turns killer simp and all hell breaks loose. You might die OP.
Best case scenario: Winston leaves and Carl decides to try and repair the relationship with Taylor seeing as they've been together so long. ( @CouldntBeMeTho
) You might lose Taylor as a friend if she's too immature to accept accountability, understanding that you had to protect someone you both care deeply about from harm. Her status directly affects yours and will determine if you can stay there, comfortably or otherwise.Mid case scenario: Carl ends the relationship - Taylor and Winston
- You and Carl stay in the house, and given how close you two are, you can provide emotional support.Worst case scenario: Carl wants nothing to do with any of you anymore. Tells you all to chuck deuces - You're now unsheltered and you've lost two friends. (Highly unlikely)
Or... you can just do nothing.
*Nuclear Apocalypse bizarro scenario: Carl turns killer simp and all hell breaks loose. You might die OP.
I agree. Those two aren't contributing anything except fukkery.You and Carl need to come together and kick them bums out. They provide nothing to yall.
You gotta tell him cause even tho you innocent in the situation he gon look at you like you guilty too.
If ole buddy wanna keep his harlot that's on him but for sho that freeloading muafukka gotta go.
Thats not Carl's boy in the least bit.
And you aint really his boy either if you don't tell him
Good luck and make sure they don't tear yo shyt up in the aftermath
Tell Carl and get on his good side so y'all can continue to live in that place. Let those two figure out how to live in a car for all I care
You don't want to be friend with people that do those type of things anyways.... Right?!
I understand. Roommates are cool. Living at home, in some cases, is cool as well.
I just have an issue with living with someone who isn't 100% invested. In OP's story, the GF wasn't 100% invested. She had it good and breached the relationship by cheating.
I just hope that you wouldn't let someone live with you for free that isn't married to you. But, if you do, then understand that said decision may come with dire consequences...