I showed up unannounced at my ex's apt ///

[Smashius Clay]

I'm not going to asnswer the obvious questions you have, but why are you trying to be a side chick? Wait, that's wrong. Why are you trying to be an uncouth side chick?

Do you know side chick means?

 

[Lady.Libra.]

Keep that L warm for me
I'mma come colleck it lata, bae

Ouch.
Yes, will do, HunnyBunny.

 

[CinnamonTequila]

Y’all Coli people love meeting up with each other in real life huh

We met outside TheColi and he introduced me to it.

I would have put you before your white daddy in them courts and put you in the system with an order of protection /restraint.

How is it his fault she caught feelings and dnt know how to not be clingy? there seems to be communication issues and she reacted stupidly, dnt show up unannounced. From what I read they treated each other like friends (they’re exes but still have a good relationship) and all dat, what fukkin went on or what shyt did he do that sent her wrong signals (I only read up to him texting her not to show up uninvited)?

Yes handsome?

What? You people are seriously that immature that don't know how to be friends with someone without assuming that one has to be in love?

I'm not going to asnswer the obvious questions you have, but why are you trying to be a side chick? Wait, that's wrong. Why are you trying to be an uncouth side chick?

Why are you trying to be stupid and not read? Why are you assuming I am trying to be his side chick if that was never said? Why didn't your momma swallow you?
See... There are questions we will never have the answer to...

 

[AmenhotepIV]

My lady can pop up anytime she want

 

[Xyrax]

Surpassed.

There are Coli nuptials & babies.

 

[Guile]

Why are you trying to be stupid and not read? Why are you assuming I am trying to be his side chick if that was never said? Why didn't your momma swallow you?
See... There are questions we will never have the answer to...

Do you know side chick means?

You coli nikkas man. I'm out.

 

[CinnamonTequila]

Well I guess...

 

[AmenhotepIV]

Well I guess...

Nah you just know where you stand in the relationship right now...maybe things will change in the future...the question is...are you willing to wait...and do you want to?

 

[GzUp]

In some cultures (most) showing up unannounced isn’t a bad thing but a good thing. It’s a honor for someone to have a visitor, but here in America we like prisoners in our home.

Sounds like @Smashius Clay got butt hurt that he went all the way down there and she left him around for 2 days so he responded in that way when he answered the door.

I probably would have done the same.

 

[Flywin Lannister]

And what better place than TheColi to ask for opinion...

YES I KNOW... That's like rule #1 of things you shouldn't do, but let me explain exactly how it happened.

We broke up on June last year after we realised that we couldn't be together because we wanted different things from life at the moment BUT we kept the communication through fb and email (I live in DR and he lives... well... everywhere. He travels a lot).

A few months back we started talking almost every day and one day he mentioned that he was coming back to DR to visit me. I said ok since I wanted to see him too.
So the next thing he had rented an Airbnb and asked me if I could check him in at the place and get the keys since he would arrive at midnight. So that's what I did.

I was a little nervous thinking about how much we've both changed since the last time we met but decided to just brush it off, put on my "brave girl" boots and pick him up at the airport.

When I first saw him I automatically hugged him and I didn't feel nervous anymore... Took him to his apt, helped him get settled and left.

We saw each other twice during the week since we both had to work and the following weekend I had to travel outside of the city. I thought I would be back on Sunday but I came back on Saturday night instead.

When I arrived home that night I immediately texted him and asked how he was doing and if he wanted us to meet.
I fell asleep with my phone on my hands tired as hell because of all the shyt I had to do that day.

The next day (Sunday) I texted him Hello to see if we could hang out. I sent a couple of messages saying that I was going to his house so we could spend the day together.

I wasn't sure at the moment if he had received the messages because my phone ran out of internet. (YES That's a normal thing here).

I decided to just go and pay him a visit... WRONG

When I got there I wasn't so sure of my idea so I managed to connect to wifi and messaged him to let him know I was at his front door.
When I first texted him he didn't answer, so I called his phone and it sent me str8 to the vm, immediately he replied my text saying "No calls, just text"...

I was like... Okay... Weird... And texted him back asking him to open the door, he said he didn't believe I was there so I knocked. Then he texted me again saying "That was a bad idea... "

At this point my heart was beating super fast and I got super nervous because I didn't understand wtf was going on.
I waited for him to open the door and when he finally did he just half-opened and said:
" Cinnamon, you are not allowed to come here unannounced "


Right in the feels...

He didn't let me in and he didn't even open the door completely so I couldn't see the inside of the apt.
So I left...

I honestly think he had some girl in there from the night before because he didn't know I would just show up like that. I soo blown and upset about the situation that I just sent him to hell and didn't talk to him for days...

NOW These are my questions:

Do you think (based on EVERYTHING that I just explained) that I was wrong by showing up like that?

Do you think maybe his reaction was just uncalled for?

Was I wrong for thinking that he had some bytch in there?

Do you think maybe the fact that he flew here supposedly just to visit me was enough reason for me to think I could show up like that??

Spoiler: You know what... I wanna know his opinion too...

@Smashius Clay I summon you!
Get here and explain yourself dude... AN NO BS PLEASE That's no way of treating a lady..

For all male simps who constantly get rejected; read this and understand how bad it looks when you simp and throw yourself at someone’s feet.

To you young lady:

1. That was an extremely, extremely rude thing to do. And it’s also rude when a man does it to a woman. It’s a complete and utter invasion of someone’s privacy. He’s an EX, a friend..
2. There is only ONE scenario where you show up uninvited: when you are best friends or in a deeply committed, monogamous relationship.
3. The thing you wrote in Spoiler tells me you have a twisted idea of this relationship and serious issues with knowing your boundaries. You show up unannounced to an ex’s house who is CURRENTLY only a FRIEND. Then you try to use the fact that you are a woman to shame him publicly in this community, that is beyond sad and if a man did the same thing we’d diss the fukk out of him and call him a fakkit for doing that. You want equality, this means behave in a certain way and get the same response.

So get this in your extremely self-absorbed, pushy, self-centered head:

1. You were completely wrong for showing up
2. His reaction was polite af and not uncalled for. Many would’ve ignored you and cut you off 100%.
3. You were wrong for even thinking you had the right to show up, let alone to judge if he had someone there. It’s none of your business. Again. It’s NONE of your FUKKING business. Your presence caused unnecessary stress and potentially ruined a fun evening for him.
4. The fact that you had to plan every day means he didn’t come to DR only to see you. He came to DR and agreed to meet you. Different thing. If he visited you he’d crash your couch as a friend. He travels a lot, so a trip to DR is not a love declaration.

@CinnamonTequila this is the coli aka simp world where dudes crawl for any woman with a heartbeat.

But we’re not all fukking simps and you being a woman means nothing to me. I and plenty of us date sane, adult, communicative women, so we are not impressed by you.

Your complete breakdown of every minute detail and use of smileys.. it sounds like you’re obsessed.

The only normal thing to do now is

1. Apologize to @Smashius Clay if you value his friendship in any way. If he’s somewhat familiar with you he is aware that you are obsessive and controlling and dominating... and if he can accept you as a friend he deserves a statue

2. Edit this post, remove the spoiler part where you wrote ‘
Smashius Clay I summon you!
Get here and explain yourself dude... AN NO BS PLEASE That's no way of treating a lady.. ‘ which is one horrific way of being ‘funny’ after violating his privacy and here you publicly shame him.

Edit the post to say you got you crossed the line.

You’ll read this post and ignore it because it doesn’t fit your narrative. That doesn’t change that you’re completely wrong.

Never, ever do this again.

Ex girls don’t get to show up unannounced.

If you need professional help, say so and I and many people would help you find it.

If you’re just being extremely selfish: stop it.

Edit: I see you made a fukking poll even. Wow.. We - me included - all do dumb shyt, learn and grow. The dumb shyt is done, now learn and grow.

 

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Coli nikkas really entertaining this little girl's trolling smh

 

[KOOL-AID]

What? You people are seriously that immature that don't know how to be friends with someone without assuming that one has to be in love?

dnt ever quote me u scum I was talking to my friend Libra not u. I ain't forget bout u ducking that Dominican racism thread u made after we got on ur ass and u went to go thirst trap in the female pic thread to make these dudes forget.

 

[Mook]

Women are so stupid.

 

[Amerikan Melanin]

@CinnamonTequila

What that ass looking like?

Your behavior is why I stopped dating DR women though. Way too possessive.

 

[ellessij]

We've since made up. But she's telling me that its normal to go to people's spots unannounced. I told her maybe its cultural but that shyt's a BIG no-no where I'm from.

It is pretty normal to just show up. Island life isn't like American life, people just pop up. I can see that you'd be pissed after flying all that way, and being stood up. I don't think there was another girl there @CinnamonTequila, I think you just need to not stand people up, especially when they fly out to see you. I'd be so pissed about that too. Now you've made up, time to kiss!