I think I'm done trying to be social.

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overreacting? this dude is too anxious to drive a fukkin car :bryan:

im not hating on dude. i just dont see any better suggestions being presented

I don't even wanna leave the house sometimes. But I put on my headphones and do what I gotta do and get shyt done.

You acting like homie is a complete invalid collecting SSI/SSD or some shyt.
 

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I don't even wanna leave the house sometimes. But I put on my headphones and do what I gotta do and get shyt done.

You acting like homie is a complete invalid collecting SSI/SSD or some shyt.
hes very clearly on that path

senior in HS. no license because driving a car makes him anxious. his parents had to 'make him' go to college

breh is a first ballot candidate for the xanny family
 

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Just a note, there's a vast difference between an introvert and someone who longs to be social but isn't adept enough to do so (OP). For some reason, people often associate introversion with not being social adept.
 

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OP, you sound a lot like me in some ways.

When I was younger (elementary school) I was very social and outgoing. Other kids loved me, girls my age were all crushing on me, and my grades were on point.

Then my parents had to take me out of school and homeschool me for a number of reasons. I remember I cried a whole lot when it happened.

Then I went deep into a shell. It didn't help that I lost three of my cousins who I grew up with.

I went to an early college high school as a junior and tried to readjust, but I couldn't and only made two close friends.

After I graduated I moved out (with help from family members) and decided to make a checklist of everything I wanted to change about myself.

Over the next year I got a job, a car, decorated my place, got fast braces, got a new haircut, got new clothes, and a number of other things. Then I started hitting up a teen club and I lost my virginity, which I had previously thought would never happen.

I'm only 19, 2 years older than you, and as soon as I took major steps to become the person I want to be, a lot of things just started happening.

I don't have social anxiety but I do have problems. I'm not completely healed, but I've changed my life a LOT.

You're still young. You will graduate soon. Right now make a list of things you want to accomplish before you go off to college. Then DM me and I'll help you out.

In spite of what you may think, a lot of young black men in America are L-O-S-T, no matter how extroverted or popular they may seem. Only way we can fix it is to start helping each other.
 

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My most serious advice to u is:

Get some p*ssy

Even if it's just 3s and 4s

Even if u gotta buy some p*ssy

Just get some to get your mood right


Take
Maca root
Niacin
Spirulina
Apple cider vinegar
Do a colon cleanse

Work out

Go to church

And u will feel like a new man
 

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Alright man, but right now I just don't wanna be bothered with socialization anymore, I'm just tired of it,
Don't force yourself to socialize.

Relaxing helps. It's a process that involves recognition of your feelings, acceptance, and resolution. It sounds like bullshyt, but it works for me.

Sometimes I hide underneath the bottom shelf in the fridge at work because I can't handle being around people. I feel like screaming too.

When I follow the steps I suggested to you I feel fine. You have every right to feel however you feel at anytime.

Allowing those feelings to control you can be changed is all I'm saying. Being aware of and not in your feelings is a handy skill my friend.
 

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I get it. Went to a meetup for introverts who want social interactions and of course none of them were really introverts. Liars. I felt very awkward but still tried to engage. Failed. Im crossing this off my resolution list and accepting I am what I am. Never again.


You'll find love tho. Probably with an extreme extrovert who loves talking to you cause you mostly just listen.
 

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I came to a conclusion today that I really don't care if my social skills don't improve down the road. What's the point? When all it brings me is misery, anxiety and regret.

And honestly I rather not take meds even if it does help

I don't even think I care about getting a women down the road y'all.

As Kent would say, "I'm become a lone wolf now"
I have SPD I'm all over the autism spectrum and assimilated with society just fine. Girl's, parties, I even had to do customer service when I got into IT. Just seek medical help breh damn.
 

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I get it. Went to a meetup for introverts who want social interactions and of course none of them were really introverts. Liars. I felt very awkward but still tried to engage. Failed. Im crossing this off my resolution list and accepting I am what I am. Never again.


You'll find love tho. Probably with an extreme extrovert who loves talking to you cause you mostly just listen.
:laff: Being an introvert is whats cool these days
 
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