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a relationship is more successful when both people are in love with each other .......
I think relationships are more successful when the man doesn't love the woman.
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a relationship is more successful when both people are in love with each other .......
Behind-the-wheel
Living dead
@moa213
You gotta ask yourself three hard questions breh....
1. Do you really love her?
Because that will determine if you're able to push through this rough spot.
BUT...if you don't really love her, it will make it easier to get what you want and do what you need/want to do.
And that is LOOK OUT FOR YOU!!!
You are first.
Always!
Make sure she knows that shyt and that you have options besides her. The main reason why she's fukkin with you stressin you out is probably because you're on some "Honeymoon phase" shyt all lovey-dovey and she's losing faith in your manhood.
You gotta get back to basics and "Man up" (sorry to say it that way but it is what it is...). I can only say this cause I was in the same situation after I got married. I did the simpin sorry ass lovey-dovey bullshyt for the first 3 years and IT fukkING SUCKED MY SOUL OUT!!!
Wife lost respect for me, I was depressed cause I lost respect for myself, had no friends cause brehs couldn't respect me, my fukkin boss at the time couldn't even respect me cause I was such a fukkin simp/wimp.
You gotta break outta that shyt and get back to being the manly man you were when you first pulled her.
That's the guy that she wants and NEEDS breh!!
The day I got back on my grind and made everything back to being about ME was the day I course-corrected my marriage and got shyt in order.
A marriage needs a leader...simple and plain. And that leader is YOU!!
Women are born followers and need leadership...regardless of all that "Work together" bullshyt....fukk all that.
YOU lead things...YOU are the man....and if she don't follow, curb her.
She will get in line or learn the hard way...you ain't fukkin around.
If this marriage is gonna work, it's gonna be her following your lead (as long as you lead with intelligence and wisdom) because you are the leader, the protector and the provider. Your job is to make her feel secure and safe and above all the other bytches out there.
Females THRIVE off competition so sometimes you gotta let her know that she ain't the only one out there that wants you.
When she sees that other females want you but you come home to her...that shyt makes them swell up with pride and ego man, I'm tellin you!!
Especially married females that actually WANT to be married.
2. Does she really love you?
Or did she get married for security, or cause you have a fancy car and a house?
You gotta know if this female is your friend and truly loves you...cause if not, she's gonna use and abuse you.
Make sure she really wants to be married and didn't just get hitched to impress her fukkin friends. I can't tell you how many birdbrained dingbat fukkin females from my old church got married to try and impress or outdo the other bytches in the church on some "Look at me, I'm married now so I'm better than you" bullshyt. Make sure your chick got married for you...and nothing else.
3. Do you still see a future with her?
Cause if not, it's time to go. I wouldn't recommend you waste a single day more with someone that you don't see yourself building a life with and a future with. I'm married, but I'm not gonna blow smoke in your face and tell you that just cause you got a wife...you're good to go.
If you can honestly say that you could drop her and start over with another female...it might be the right decision to let her go. Lots of guys waste their good years trying to polish a turd and only winding up with shyt all over them later on when SHE decides she's ready to move on and divorces them overnight. Females don't fukk around or be wishy-washy when they get fed up...you'll be sitting there thinking she wants to work it out and BAM...divorce papers and she's in the wind.
Females been shady since the garden of eden...there's a reason the fukkin snake could talk to em.
Ain't shyt changed about em a day since...
Hope that helps some breh.
Being married is a whole other fukkin job in and of itself. You gotta be ready to put in that work or it just WONT WORK. And that's BOTH OF YALL!!! It seriously takes 100% from both people to make marriage work...it's a fukkin chore and a half man.
After experiencing this I wouldn't ever recommend it to ANYONE. I catch shyt from my wife when I say that to other people in front of her but I'm tellin the fukkin truth. There's no reason to ever fukkin get married nowadays...unless you like legal binding contracts based on the success of emotional chess.
You're gonna lose...it's just a gamble of how much and when.
Those of us already in it just try to mitigate the eventual loss.
Those of us about to get in it...beware.
Behind-the-wheel
Living dead
Honestly when chicks feel I'm not interested in them, they seem to want to be with me more.
Forreal. I noticed that at work. This jawn that always give me hints that she wants Ace steady trying to get my attention despite the fact that I'm married and she got baggage
. The other day my wife came to the job to get some snack and my damn co worker who was with the jawn was like "HEY YOUR OTHER HALF IS OVER HERE
", meanwhile the jawn that likes me was looking at my wife up and down like
. 
Gotta love it. These jawns always want to play the game, but the moment when the dude puts on hard mode then it's busted controllers
Hitting home with this.Thank bro, I needed that to toughen up. Most times it easy to advise others but when you're going through hard times it could be devastating. I think my biggest problem was caring to build together as one. About time I become rapacious and go for self.@moa213
You gotta ask yourself three hard questions breh....
1. Do you really love her?
Because that will determine if you're able to push through this rough spot.
BUT...if you don't really love her, it will make it easier to get what you want and do what you need/want to do.
And that is LOOK OUT FOR YOU!!!
You are first.
Always!
Make sure she knows that shyt and that you have options besides her. The main reason why she's fukkin with you stressin you out is probably because you're on some "Honeymoon phase" shyt all lovey-dovey and she's losing faith in your manhood.
You gotta get back to basics and "Man up" (sorry to say it that way but it is what it is...). I can only say this cause I was in the same situation after I got married. I did the simpin sorry ass lovey-dovey bullshyt for the first 3 years and IT fukkING SUCKED MY SOUL OUT!!!
Wife lost respect for me, I was depressed cause I lost respect for myself, had no friends cause brehs couldn't respect me, my fukkin boss at the time couldn't even respect me cause I was such a fukkin simp/wimp.
You gotta break outta that shyt and get back to being the manly man you were when you first pulled her.
That's the guy that she wants and NEEDS breh!!
The day I got back on my grind and made everything back to being about ME was the day I course-corrected my marriage and got shyt in order.
A marriage needs a leader...simple and plain. And that leader is YOU!!
Women are born followers and need leadership...regardless of all that "Work together" bullshyt....fukk all that.
YOU lead things...YOU are the man....and if she don't follow, curb her.
She will get in line or learn the hard way...you ain't fukkin around.
If this marriage is gonna work, it's gonna be her following your lead (as long as you lead with intelligence and wisdom) because you are the leader, the protector and the provider. Your job is to make her feel secure and safe and above all the other bytches out there.
Females THRIVE off competition so sometimes you gotta let her know that she ain't the only one out there that wants you.
When she sees that other females want you but you come home to her...that shyt makes them swell up with pride and ego man, I'm tellin you!!
Especially married females that actually WANT to be married.
2. Does she really love you?
Or did she get married for security, or cause you have a fancy car and a house?
You gotta know if this female is your friend and truly loves you...cause if not, she's gonna use and abuse you.
Make sure she really wants to be married and didn't just get hitched to impress her fukkin friends. I can't tell you how many birdbrained dingbat fukkin females from my old church got married to try and impress or outdo the other bytches in the church on some "Look at me, I'm married now so I'm better than you" bullshyt. Make sure your chick got married for you...and nothing else.
3. Do you still see a future with her?
Cause if not, it's time to go. I wouldn't recommend you waste a single day more with someone that you don't see yourself building a life with and a future with. I'm married, but I'm not gonna blow smoke in your face and tell you that just cause you got a wife...you're good to go.
If you can honestly say that you could drop her and start over with another female...it might be the right decision to let her go. Lots of guys waste their good years trying to polish a turd and only winding up with shyt all over them later on when SHE decides she's ready to move on and divorces them overnight. Females don't fukk around or be wishy-washy when they get fed up...you'll be sitting there thinking she wants to work it out and BAM...divorce papers and she's in the wind.
Females been shady since the garden of eden...there's a reason the fukkin snake could talk to em.
Ain't shyt changed about em a day since...
Hope that helps some breh.
Being married is a whole other fukkin job in and of itself. You gotta be ready to put in that work or it just WONT WORK. And that's BOTH OF YALL!!! It seriously takes 100% from both people to make marriage work...it's a fukkin chore and a half man.
After experiencing this I wouldn't ever recommend it to ANYONE. I catch shyt from my wife when I say that to other people in front of her but I'm tellin the fukkin truth. There's no reason to ever fukkin get married nowadays...unless you like legal binding contracts based on the success of emotional chess.
You're gonna lose...it's just a gamble of how much and when.
Those of us already in it just try to mitigate the eventual loss.
Those of us about to get in it...beware.
Yea if you're married to a stupid bytch.
To much internet Mack videos for you pal
If u knew better u'd choose better
Two people loving one another is the best
Maybe you're idea of what love is in a relationship is warped.
It's not being an idiot and allowing yourself to be demeened and disrespected for a female
I did with our Church Pastor which honestly was her idea because I wasn't attending often. Sad part with my situation is that she was a foreign import from Ghana. They told me so but I wanted to go against the odd.
Bobby Lashleys eyebrows
Superstar
And nikkas that think like you are the reason why us lunch nikkas are skeeting on your ladies cheeks and nicknaming her babyface. Thanks sucka nikka.
Behind-the-wheel
Living dead
I know it sounds backwards to go back to how you were when you were single...AFTER being married...but that "honeymoon phase" shyt is just that....
"HONEYMOON PHASE"
That lovey dovey bullshyt shouldn't last...not the way it is during the honeymoon phase.
It's 9 months in, Honeymoon over breh...
Gotta get back on your manhood grind and be that man.
Behind-the-wheel
Living dead
Aw damn breh...Sounds like she got "Trained" by one of the sick fukkin females from America.
See, when you get a female from another country...you gotta keep her insulated from the viral sick fukkin female americans here.
They will fukk up your import EVERY TIME!!
You see these white guys that go get a female from the philippines and they don't let em work, shop or do nothin but take care of them fukkin kids and clean the house....
They know what they're doing. They are just keeping their investment from gettin fukked up by the rest of the savages in america.
It may look like they're doin em wrong...but they're doin right for themselves!
They're just being the men that they're supposed to be.
I had an Army buddy that did that.
Got a FINE ASS lil female from over in the phillipines when we were over there. Brought her back here to the DMV and we WARNED him not to let her get out with the rest of the fukkin savage females.
Told him to keep her to himself and keep her ass in the house.
What does he do??
Get her signed up for some Army Wives Club.
shyt went downhill within months from there.
By the same time the next year, she had gotten schooled by the other ain't shyt females and gotten knocked up, divorced him, Child support AND Alimony, got his house, his car, moved her family from the philippines into the house and was layin up with a cac IN DUDES HOUSE!!!!
Homeboy almost fukkin lost it...was up in Ward54 at WRAMC for a little while (Psych Ward) til he got it together.
Imported females are like imported cars...keep em away from the americanized garbage.
The truth is back then I could cut a bytch off quick without responding to calls and text. But being marriage and living in NYC small apartment you do not have luxury spare room and living space to distance yourself. You fukking come home to sleep next the one you trying to curb which leads to fukking and making up.I know it sounds backwards to go back to how you were when you were single...AFTER being married...but that "honeymoon phase" shyt is just that....
"HONEYMOON PHASE"
That lovey dovey bullshyt shouldn't last...not the way it is during the honeymoon phase.
It's 9 months in, Honeymoon over breh...
Gotta get back on your manhood grind and be that man.
Bondye Vodou
Proud practitioner of the "High Science"
Bondye Vodou
Proud practitioner of the "High Science"
Hahahahahahaha...."Unconditional Love"...
Only a female would believe that lie from another one of them.
Any love from a female is conditional...that's why men have to break their backs tryna get it.
#allfacts #gospel