i think you should be successful before getting married

[cleanface coney]

rt.

people should accomplish their goals before getting married

alotta emotions get involved when you wit somebody which is important when trying to reach overall success( learning to control yo emotions)

i dont see how a man could get married if he hasnt accomplished what he wanted to accomplish in life

how many people are truly go getters and will match your drive/ambition

man or woman

i see alotta people losing hold to they dreams and goals because of a man/woman

not saying it cant be done cuz i know some real power couples/marriages

dealing with another person is hard if you tryna accomplish something big


what yall think?

 

[Jahmal]

why should people get married at all?

 

[BrothaZay]

Maybe, but how do you know the girl you choose to marry would've been there for you before you became a success?

 

[ugksam]

men should never want to get married. leave that shyt to the broads.

 

[cleanface coney]

Maybe, but how do you know the girl you choose to marry would've been there for you before you became a success?

true but if you successful you should want a successful woman

i think people that reach a certain level see other people on they level and its automatic respect

not tryna be funny but i noticed

when you on yo shyt the opposite sex becomes alot more humble

like if you a successful woman nikkas not gone treat you how they would a regular broad

or if you a nikka on his job females be humble as fukk cuz they understand that

 

[cleanface coney]

why should people get married at all?

so we can die with money bro

thats how white people do it

 

[opulence]

Success doesn't always come as planned and neither does love....stability in every aspect is a goal to shoot for before deciding to share your life with anyone.

 

[CJ]

The right person will keep you driven, not hold you back.

 

[cleanface coney]

Success doesn't always come as planned and neither does love....stability in every aspect is a goal to shoot for before deciding to share your life with anyone.

true but what makes you feel stable

alotta people say this and that but in reality

i think success or money= stability is what most people want

you can be in love all you want until the rent and your bf/gf broke or not even tryna do nothing about it

i got three sisters and my oldest said she feel like a fool for puttin all her emotions into guys thats wasnt about shyt

once she got herself right she feels alot more comfortable with herself
when dating

even if the dude was a clown she can k.i.m because she got her own shyt

 

[cleanface coney]

The right person will keep you driven, not hold you back.

true but what if they holding you back unintentionally?

like holding you back emotionally?

or maybe she/he dont have the same level goals or aspirations?

like i said dealing with anybody is hard when tryna reach your goals

 

[opulence]

true but what makes you feel stable

alotta people say this and that but in reality

i think success or money= stability is what most people want

you can be in love all you want until the rent and your bf/gf broke or not even tryna do nothing about it

i got three sisters and my oldest said she feel like a fool for puttin all her emotions into guys thats wasnt about shyt

once she got herself right she feels alot more comfortable with herself
when dating

even if the dude was a clown she can k.i.m because she got her own shyt

Stable mentally...financially...just being balanced...knowing what you want out of life and where you're heading...

I feel your sis the better you become...the more you want for yourself and in your mate

 

[Jahmal]

The right person will keep you driven, not hold you back.

Half of marriages end up in Divorce. Out of those 50% that stay married, many of them arent happy and stay in the marriage because of kids or scared they will get raped in divorce court. Most people that get married are not with the "right" person.

 

[CJ]

true but what if they holding you back unintentionally?

like holding you back emotionally?

or maybe she/he dont have the same level goals or aspirations?

like i said dealing with anybody is hard when tryna reach your goals

I get what you're saying, it's easy for people to get comfortable, especially when they found "the one" - because that person took them as they are.

But the flipside is, some people are dedicated strictly on becoming successful/rich/etc. I don't knock that one bit, but some of them do it at the cost of building anything with anyone. Then when they reached that dream/goal, they are struggling to find someone, especially if they hit it big. Now they gotta sift through all the fakes, and those that are more attracted to your success than you as a person.

I rather come up with someone as we both try to achieve our dreams, and hit it big together, supporting each other - since I know she was there before it all happened, and will be there if it were to all go away.

I might be jaded though because I work at a Family Law firm and almost all divorces, one partner was real successful before the marriage. Makes me wonder if that was the driving force behind the initial nuptials. I shouldn't generalize it though.

 

[CJ]

Half of marriages end up in Divorce. Out of those 50% that stay married, many of them arent happy and stay in the marriage because of kids or scared they will get raped in divorce court. Most people that get married are not with the "right" person.

Trust me I know, I see it everyday at work

And that's my point, always try to find the right person, whether your successful yet or not.

 

[cleanface coney]

Half of marriages end up in Divorce. Out of those 50% that stay married, many of them arent happy and stay in the marriage because of kids or scared they will get raped in divorce court. Most people that get married are not with the "right" person.

thats messed up for them but im me

at the end of the day i just want my seeds to have money when i die

but if you gotta woman that had her own shyt before yall met

i think she wouldnt try to hit your pockets like that unless you married a lawyer lol

after all alotta that divorce shyt be the lawyers tellin people what they deserve so they feel like they entitled