i think you should be successful before getting married

[CJ]

Well the initial topic wasn't too clear. What is non-successful? Being a bum? Being in school FT? Being at a job that's not your career? I see OP said that he didn't mean success as in money. That changes things a bit

But yes, atleast be on a path to living a comfortable life before even considering marriage. That'd be the short answer.

 

[cleanface coney]

OP, I think that you're stating the painfully obvious, but I think that this is only obvious to smart people. Eh. At least you've got it right. Hope you find the right lady.

not tryna be funny but i think so too. its cats that schooled me so.....somebody gonna listen

yea i just want a chick i can look at and get motivated by

like a chick with purpose
you can have the best personality but if you dont move through life without purpose i cant fukks wit you

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

are you a real girl or internet girl?

 

[CJ]

you can have the best personality but if you dont move through life without purpose i cant fukks wit you

If this is what you meant by successful, I think we would have all been in agreement.

 

[cleanface coney]

Well the initial topic wasn't too clear. What is non-successful? Being a bum? Being in school FT? Being at a job that's not your career? I see OP said that he didn't mean success as in money. That changes things a bit

But yes, atleast be on a path to living a comfortable life before even considering marriage. That'd be the short answer.

money is kinda a big factor considereing

im young black, and from detroit and still living in america( capitalist)
and i come from a cool family that has a reputation and expectations within my fam

hustlas, college cats, 9 to 5ers it dont matt

so yea money is kinda important but it doesnt measure success
but if you movin through life with puspose and success

money is gonna come you aint even gotta think about it

 

[cleanface coney]

If this is what you meant by successful, I think we would have all been in agreement.

you would be suprised. i dont think everybody feel like this

i had three sisters growing up

so i knew all they friends, bfs, all that shyt

girls fukk up because they get too emotionally attached to nikkas based of what they tell em instead of watching them

nikkas fukk up because they cant keep it real with chicks

 

[Mr. Somebody]

Sorry, love doesnt revolve around money. No where in The Bible does it say you should have money before choosing a wife. Men who adhere to this philosophy are basing their marriage on a demonic principle because you have to ask yourself, friend, when the money goes, will your wifey stay, when grey clouds cover a sunny day, friend?

 

[opulence]

are you a real girl or internet girl?

if a real girl then you should understand where im coming from

i honestly think its easier to to be with somebody if you are successful already

now if you meet a guy thats matching yo success you gonna understand everything he went through to get there

what if you with somebody before success but they turn into a damn fool once yall reach it

or if the guy that has success is already a clown you can keep it movin cuz you got your own

what you think?

Lol yes I'm a real woman...which has nothing to do with us sharing or disagreeing on an opinion..success does not make a relationship easier...it just make the finances run smoothly...

 

[cleanface coney]

Sorry, love doesnt revolve around money. No where in The Bible does it say you should have money before choosing a wife. Men who adhere to this philosophy are basing their marriage on a demonic principle because you have to ask yourself, friend, when the money goes, will your wifey stay, when grey clouds cover a sunny day, friend?

what the fukk you talkin about my nikka i dont understand

i said success should be reached first not money

you talkin about the bible and demons n shyt lol wtf

 

[Mr. Somebody]

what the fukk you talkin about my nikka i dont understand

i said success should be reached first not money

you talkin about the bible and demons n shyt lol wtf

Success in modern terms means to accumulate money to standards deemed acceptable to another mans standard. What is it that you mean. Perhaps i have errored like errors.

 

[cleanface coney]

Success in modern terms means to accumulate money to standards deemed acceptable to another mans standard. What is it that you mean. Perhaps i have errored like errors.

true true

but i meant more of a having a purpose as it pertains to your goals as far as the physical world. like what are you striving for as far as career,school, etc

i know health,family, spiritual success is very important but it cant be obtained it has to be brought out because its in us

so in that case i guess success can equal money but its not everything

 

[AquaCityBoy]

Marriage or not, I think you should have your life in order and at least try to better yourself before getting into a long-term relationship with another person.

 

[SuburbanPimp]

Nah, it would be nice but most people NEVER really consider themselves successful.

People kill me with the list of things they want to do before they get married because they act like once they complete their marriage bucket list that their Prince or Princess Charming is gonna be there waiting for them.

Life don't work like that.


My wife has helped me on the road to becoming successful and has done it alot faster and more effiecently than I would have on my own. But its only because I met the RIGHT person. She made me realize that my ex really had me on the road to destruction and I was thinking about marrying her at one point

I would just say, get yourself right before you try to get married. Take care of your own issues be it Legal, Credit, Babymama first and don't bring all that into the relationship

 

[cleanface coney]

Marriage or not, I think you should have your life in order and at least try to better yourself before getting into a long-term relationship with another person.

thats how i always felt

i be peepin nikkas relationships with they girl thinkin to myself

my nikka if you had some goals you would not be mad over this broad

bottom line if you aint striving for shyt or got shyt
yo emotions is gonna be real easy to play with

man or woman

 

[CJ]

Nah, it would be nice but most people NEVER really consider themselves successful.

People kill me with the list of things they want to do before they get married because they act like once they complete their marriage bucket list that their Prince or Princess Charming is gonna be there waiting for them.

Life don't work like that.

My wife has helped me on the road to becoming successful and has done it alot faster and more effiecently than I would have on my own. But its only because I met the RIGHT person. She made me realize that my ex really had me on the road to destruction and I was thinking about marrying her at one point

Exactly my point, especially the bolded. Some people's goals could take years, even decades.