I used to pay for first dates

Jazzy B.

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I tell guys all the time that when a girl asks to go to an expensive place on a date ask 3 things

1) Ask has she been before
2) Ask what did she get and how was it
This will tell you exactly what to expect wherever you take her.
3) Ask how was the service?
This is important. It’ll tell you exactly why she was there and whether or not she was spending her own money. Also, if she says the service was less than great, you can ask her why she wants to go to a place that has shytty service.

If she’s been there, tell her you want to try some place she hasn’t been before, preferably one of your favorite spots.

If she hasn’t, then tell her that’s a place for a celebration of being together or when y’all officially start dating, not a first date.

Their response will tell you the seriousness of their intentions/interest with you. It’s worked wonders for me.

fukk all of that.

Until your dikk has been in her mouth or you've smashed, her INPUT on date spots is irrelevant outside of EXCEPTIONAL CIRCUMSTANCES. Such as if you pick a place where her ex FREQUENTS.

Screenshot the location of where YOU want to go. Tell her the time and ask if it works for her.

fukk all of that back and forth BULLJIVE.
 

Jazzy B.

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U gotta be the ultimate lame 2 tell a hoe u trying 2 fukk to split the bill; could there be a faster way 2 dry up the coochie :mjlol:

Naw.

It depends on what your and the womens intentions are.

If the intention is just casual sex/fwb/nothing serious and this has BEEN DISCUSSED women have NO problem splitting the bill as they do not want you to get EMOTIONALLY attached and for the situation to become real dating.
 

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I don't like the premise, but as a woman, I get it. I will never value anyone's time over mine.
So you're choosing not to operate in reality? Women literally have a shorter amount of time to play these games with yall.

Everybody's redpill until they have to live by it.
 

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So you're choosing not to operate in reality? Women literally have a shorter amount of time to play these games with yall.

Everybody's redpill until they have to live by it.
No, I know my time here is limited and I'm dying like everyone else. I don't view anyone's time over mine. It's not a game, just my personal viewpoint.
 

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No, I know my time here is limited and I'm dying like everyone else. I don't view anyone's time over mine. It's not a game, just my personal viewpoint.
Don't play semantic games, it's unbecoming.

You know exactly what I mean and, any other time, you'd be dapping up posters who said the same. I know bc we dap similar.
 

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Don't play semantic games, it's unbecoming.

You know exactly what I mean and, any other time, you'd be dapping up posters who said the same. I know bc we dap similar.
I'm not playing any games.
I don't waste people's time because I DETEST having mine wasted. IDK what is supposed to be different. I don't see any difference. Maybe it's just me :yeshrug:
 

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I don’t drink but if I’m going out with a lady I usually pick an inexpensive spot. And they never tripped over it either.
 
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fukk all of that.

Until your dikk has been in her mouth or you've smashed, her INPUT on date spots is irrelevant outside of EXCEPTIONAL CIRCUMSTANCES. Such as if you pick a place where her ex FREQUENTS.

Screenshot the location of where YOU want to go. Tell her the time and ask if it works for her.

fukk all of that back and forth BULLJIVE.
Yes, you are correct if you’re just trying to smash without tricking or leading with your wallet.

If you’re looking for a long-term partner or wife, you’re using it as an opportunity to vet. Even before you spend a dime, you should ask questions, establish boundaries, and gather information. You’re looking for qualities and flaws: selfishness, agreeability, emotional, financial and mental stability, what type of people she hangs out with, expectations, etc. Just from those questions and their response to your response, you can infer all of that and more. If you treat getting a first date with you as a privilege, you’ll have better results.

The problem is we assume that so many guys know the difference when actually they haven’t been taught. A lot of them use the same approach for all situations and it fails them repeatedly. When they end dating women who they only intended on fukking (or should have been in the first place) and it sucks the life out of them, we ridicule them for not knowing.
 
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