If men see women who like to go on girls trips and like to party without their man as a red flag...

[10bandz]

If you don't trust or respect your partner you shouldn't be in a relationship. Straight up, it's really that simple. The thing that kills me is that these convos are driven by men who aren't really social and don't do shyt with their brehs. Guys trips used to be so common that every generation had a "guys night out" movie (The Hangover for instance). And while guys still do this, including myself, there seem to be way more guys who don't. Which is why the discourse over girl's trips exists. I don't care if my girl goes on a vacation with her girls. I tell her to have fun. If I worry about anything it's just general "worrying about safety" shyt that I always worry about whether she's on vacation or driving home at night.

Women partying is not a problem to me. It's not even something I think about when it comes to my girl. She doesn't party much but if she's out with her girls I...don't care. I don't tell her how to dress, I don't tell her how to behave, etc. Because I trust and respect her. And she has never given me reason to be concerned.

What if she prioritizes the trips and partying over you?

 

[Scaaar]

I don't care honestly. Go have your fun and have a life/ hobbies outside of me is a requirement for any woman I'm taking seriously. I go on trips with some of my friends too. I'm not sweating or thinking about her cheating. If it comes up I'll address it then. Brehs are too controlling and insecure wanting their woman to just sit in the house. That scarcity mindset will have you looking like a nutcase out here stressing over things that are outside of your control. If a chick truly wanted to cheat there's nothing that will stop her.

 

[Scaaar]

It depends. If it’s a one off. Then no need to trip. But if she’s constantly going on girls trips every few months then it’s a red flag. When you’re in a relationship you prefer to go with your partner. Not always going with your friends.

So you can't just schedule a trip for you and your lady?

 

[Scaaar]

If you don't trust or respect your partner you shouldn't be in a relationship. Straight up, it's really that simple. The thing that kills me is that these convos are driven by men who aren't really social and don't do shyt with their brehs. Guys trips used to be so common that every generation had a "guys night out" movie (The Hangover for instance). And while guys still do this, including myself, there seem to be way more guys who don't. Which is why the discourse over girl's trips exists. I don't care if my girl goes on a vacation with her girls. I tell her to have fun. If I worry about anything it's just general "worrying about safety" shyt that I always worry about whether she's on vacation or driving home at night.

Women partying is not a problem to me. It's not even something I think about when it comes to my girl. She doesn't party much but if she's out with her girls I...don't care. I don't tell her how to dress, I don't tell her how to behave, etc. Because I trust and respect her. And she has never given me reason to be concerned.

It's always the same crowd that doesn't go out and interact with other humans on a daily basis that sit around and have these convos on what they would do in all these hypothetical situations that end with their chic getting piped by another man. Too much isolation, porn, and engaging in transactional relationships buying prostitutes have warped some of these dudes minds for the worst. The crazy part is they don't even get women like that but they even get women like that but they have a list of insecurities and things they won't stand for in a relationship.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

I don’t think I would mind. I usually don’t care if my chick hung with her friends because it usually be some shyt I don’t want to do or pay for. So I encouraged it in the past…

The type of friends she has matters though. Throughout the entire relationship it matters. Is she a follower that’s easily influenced?

but not going to police no chick like that. Just don’t lie about shyt so I can move accordingly…


But that’s just wishful thinking. I’m too lazy and too busy with other shyt to have to worry about my chick leaving me for another dude.

I don’t want to be where I’m not wanted and definitely not strapped to someone who only wants me for what I can “provide”.

Just tell me the truth, and if the truth is you don’t love/respect me enough to be faithful on a “trip” then let’s go our separate ways. If there’s something that will try to make me insecure and that I have to worry about (lying, cheating, low character, etc.) then we probably not going to link anyway.


Thus why I’ve been single for awhile now

 

[Strapped]

I see it as a red flag & won't stop her from going but I'll drop her like a bad habit

 

[Piff Perkins]

What if she prioritizes the trips and partying over you?

I mean...that's a hypothetical I don't have to worry about? My girl is very successful and isn't a big partier. More often than not her "girls night out" is inviting her friends to the house around 8PM-midnight. They'll be in the living room talking, ranting, drinking, crying, watching TV etc while I'm downstairs in the man cave. And when I come upstairs I get hit with all types of wild questions and asked relationship advice lol. They do that shyt at least once a week, whereas she might go out for a legit "girls night out" once a month. I'm not counting the various brunch, breakfast, or shopping trips they do during the day on weekends.

I'm not even sure what prioritizing trips over me would look like. If she wanted to do more trips why would I be upset. She doesn't even have time to do it so much that I feel de-prioritized, due to her job.

 

[SNG]

I let my wife got to Jamaica a few years ago with her one girl and she called me up and told me she did ecstasy. This was at the time of covid and she wanted to do a trip and she was vaccinated and I wasn’t. I’ll admit I wasn’t cool with it but I told her keep that same energy once it’s my turn. Flash forward to now my homie wanted to go to Columbia in the summer mind you my wife was like two months pregnant and I told her and she’s like you can go anywhere in the world but Columbia and Dominican and straight up said if I go to Columbia that there would be problems. That’s what bothered me about it. I don’t care where she goes just keep that same energy. Im still salty about it.

 

[Rasille]

So you can't just schedule a trip for you and your lady?

You definitely can.

 

[Boxchevy]

My girl runs a travel group for women and travels frequently. She also uses it to get comps for our own personal trips. As I’ve never been insecure I have no issue with it. My philosophy has always been if someone is going to step out on you they’re going to step out on you. Being controlling and trying to police what they do is therefore a waste of time. Get with someone who you’re on the same page with and shows you respect and that’s the best you can hope for in a relationship.

It really is that simple...

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Telling them "no don't come" is one thing, but I'll be damned if I don't have a good time just cuz he's not there for normal reasons. This is some of the most antisocial ish I seen I'm months

I think most guys dont want to butt in on girls outings, and I'm not trying to tag along to his bro ish either, unless I am invited.

But yeah, we have groups of friends years and decades before we knew dudes.....and yall still captivated by us to approach and trick off and stick around and all so what's the problem.

 

[Belize King]

I wish my Wife would go on a girls trip. She needs to get out the house and away from the kids.

She went to Disney last year with her cousin.

She came back disappointed and said never again. She didn’t know her cousin was that much of a complainer.

My goal is her going to Belize for a month without us. Imagine having no responsibilities nor a care in the world for four weeks.

Baby steps.

 

[Mugenight]

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[maxamusa]

I mean...that's a hypothetical I don't have to worry about? My girl is very successful and isn't a big partier. More often than not her "girls night out" is inviting her friends to the house around 8PM-midnight. They'll be in the living room talking, ranting, drinking, crying, watching TV etc while I'm downstairs in the man cave. And when I come upstairs I get hit with all types of wild questions and asked relationship advice lol. They do that shyt at least once a week, whereas she might go out for a legit "girls night out" once a month. I'm not counting the various brunch, breakfast, or shopping trips they do during the day on weekends.

I'm not even sure what prioritizing trips over me would look like. If she wanted to do more trips why would I be upset. She doesn't even have time to do it so much that I feel de-prioritized, due to her job.

you should be more worried about your boss bytch sucking off her work husband.

 

[Uachet]

I am not going to be on here and battle with the rest to not seem insecure. Instead, I am going to state it depends on the company she keeps and where they are going. The company one keeps is an expression of who they are, and so if the woman you are taking seriously hangs with women who are loose, then there is a good chance she may be loose too.

So a partial solution to this is to vet well, which also means paying attention to whom she hangs around with and considers friends. If she hangs with a gaggle of 304s, then don't take her seriously. If you feel her friends are untrustworthy, then you should also consider her untrustworthy. I personally did not care about how unfair that judgment may have seemed to the woman, nor did I care about what she thought of me not taking her seriously once that judgment was made either.