Wow... some of the comments in this thread are truly inspired by ignorance and nothing else.
First, submission is NOT a temperament, but an active decision made by someone. All of this not arguing and cooking and cleaning and stuff has nothing to do with submission. They may be byproducts of being or not being submissive, but they are not determinants of submission themselves.
Secondly, submission is about trust and respect. It's about trusting and respecting the decisions to be made by one in the best interest of the both of you; and not decisions like where are we going to eat tonight. We're talking about relationship and life decisions. Arguing about what to eat for dinner is not an indicator of my being submissive. It's an indicator of not agreeing on what you want to eat. Not being submissive is more like the husband thinking the family should save money by cooking more and the wife going out for fast food everyday.
Thirdly, a response to submission should be an equal amount of love and respect. Enough to be open to feedback and disagreements without taking offense... and a willingness to communicate.
Finally, you should only be submissive to your husband or wife. Why submit to someone whom you have no commitment to and whom can leave at the drop of a hat with no questions asked? That's too much control for some random boyfriend or girlfriend.
Just a sidenote. If you don't feel comfortable submitting to someone, you probably shouldn't be with them. That tells you how you truly feel about them.