If somebody cheats on you why bother to confront them about it?

[CrimsonTider]

Easy to be rational when you're not going through it.

Thread is stupid

 

[Lavish]

Once the level of cheating has been reached you're basically disposable to the cheater. They don't really care what you think because if they valued your opinion why would they be cheating in the first place?

i understand your point. but people are not robots. if you've invested time in someone and you love the person. you want to find out answers, you want them to see how you feel...you want all that. your not gonna be wit someone for 10 years..find out they cheated and just be like "have a good day , im going now"

im jus keepin it real. i have never been cheated on that I know of..so to be real i really dont give a fukk ... but I can imagine if I was serious about someone and she cheated..id want to at least call her a slut and a whore then proceed to smash one of her friends

 

[Rekkapryde]

Personally, if it's a girlfriend, it would be to say "all you had to say was you wanted to see other people...no need to cheat" and keep it moving

Wife, it would be similar shyt, but don't dare ask for spousal support. And I'd Dwade my kids.

 

[Huellz Santana]

just to be on some shyt

although what i will say is dont say anything until you're 100% sure. just sit back and collect that evidence. all while prepping for the super napalm ether bomb.

but dont get emotional about it tho.​

 

[61 Corpses]

It's all about pride.

 

[winb83]

I've never heard a soul say they were given closure by a post cheating confrontation. You don't really get any answers because you already have them. That person didn't value you or the relationship enough to not put everything at risk for the chance at something else. They just wanted it all and were likely using you anyway.

Usually these confrontations just result in further lies and or accusations that you were why they cheated or inauthentic apologies. Yeah they're sorry alright sorry they got caught.

 

[DallasTxRep]

Confront a woman just so she can blame you for her cheating? No thanks, I'll pass

 

[opulence]

Closure...

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

it's good to confront your problems. to be honest, take no offense to this examination either, judging by your posts from this forum and from sohh, it seems like you're a non-confrontational type of person, borderline spineless. in a situation like that, where you've been cheated on, you're under attack. now, confrontations don't have to escalate into full blown fights, but it's better if you do confront people that do injury to you instead of throwing them off and not speaking to them. that's the role of a coward or someone who's afraid to seek answers for themselves, also someone who's afraid to assert themselves and demand recognition and respect. just my observation. you can't be afraid to let people know how you feel...

 

[AITheAnswerAI]

it's good to confront your problems. to be honest, take no offense to this examination either, judging by your posts from this forum and from sohh, it seems like you're a non-confrontational type of person, borderline spineless. in a situation like that, where you've been cheated on, you're under attack. now, confrontations don't have to escalate into full blown fights, but it's better if you do confront people that do injury to you instead of throwing them off and not speaking to them. that's the role of a coward or someone who's afraid to seek answers for themselves, also someone who's afraid to assert themselves and demand recognition and respect. just my observation. you can't be afraid to let people know how you feel...

Exactly. If you have invested a lot of time and energy into a relationship, you have every right to get mad and tell that bytch off. You can try and seek answers, but most likely they'll be warped coming from a female.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

This is something I never understood. Every time I hear about somebody doing it I cringe. Confronting a cheater accomplishes nothing, confronting the person they cheated with is even more pointless.

Either you'll accept the cheating and continue dealing with them or you won't. If you can't accept it just dump them with no explanation.

Sometimes it accomplishes something, like that person being dead for example. When the average person invests alot of time, energy and emotions into a person who betrays them, they are going to want to speak to that person, not dissapear in to the shadows to show them, "see, you didnt hurt my feelings " Its idealistic, not, realistic, friend.

 

[Dooby]

Closure.

 

[SuburbanPimp]

I'm the the type that has and will just kinda disappear and start doing my own thing. Then when the inquire about why I'm acting different then I might mention it.

But to be honest, most of the time I have confronted the person who has cheated. Its really to see if they are gonna just lie to myself about it. Once they do that there is no coming back from it.

I've never understood confronting the person they cheating with though, unless its one of your friends or potnas.

 

[MexicanKingpin]

no u crush there spirit and call that person out for being a ho/bytch

u don't just become a mute and just leave like some p*ssy ass nikka

u go in and u set yourself up ready to slap that bytch.

 

[MrNoFlyZone]

Because somebody cheating on you is like psychological warfare. With cheating almost always comes lying, and when you reveal to a muthafukka that you know they're fulla shyt, that burn in their soul is a lil bit of redemption for what they put you through.