If somebody cheats on you why bother to confront them about it?

[No Sleep]

I got to let the bytch know she tried to play me like I was a dumb ass.

 

[Ain't That Something]

It depends on the level of disrespect. If I catch a nikka with my girl in my by bed we going to blows. Never mind the chic cheated, that means she wasn't right to begin with, never mind that nikka fukk my girl that means he saw an opportunity and took it. But to have the gulls to come in my house and fukk my girl on my bed on some skeetsinteral shyt. That nikka got a death wish bc

 

[TRUEST]

never a good idea to be mad at the guy, unless the guy is ur friend. in which case, he deserves an ass whooping for the disrespect.

either way, be glad to have been given the chance to know who ur dealing with. this way so u know to sever ties early from the unscrupulous ones in your company.

 

[Raph]

What about us other guys? Do we have no rights? Look in your hearts and you shall see the sway of the wind in our favour. When us others get with a girl with a boyfriend we know whats up, but she's hot... stupidly so... like cars honked their horn at her hot. I've peaked with my women hot. The kinda hot where once it's over you take a vow of celibacy and retire on a high hot.... Or, ya know, until you get too drunk and sleep with an ugly french girl. Ah, us forgotten few. We have no rights to jealousy, ill-feelings and what not. But alas human nature screams at us 'God damn that bish is HOT' but she isn't with you she's with another. And she will eventually regret and than what of us? All we have to cradle ourselves too sleep with are the stupidly good blowjobs she gave. But you must remember you left her, you had too. She was too hot... and the boyfriend still had the oven gloves. So I leave a little burnt and a little bruised but god damn she was hot.

 

[winb83]

it's good to confront your problems. to be honest, take no offense to this examination either, judging by your posts from this forum and from sohh, it seems like you're a non-confrontational type of person, borderline spineless. in a situation like that, where you've been cheated on, you're under attack. now, confrontations don't have to escalate into full blown fights, but it's better if you do confront people that do injury to you instead of throwing them off and not speaking to them. that's the role of a coward or someone who's afraid to seek answers for themselves, also someone who's afraid to assert themselves and demand recognition and respect. just my observation. you can't be afraid to let people know how you feel...

I'm all for confronting someone when it actually accomplishes something but what you're talking about doing in literally pointless and will accomplish nothing. That person doesn't give a shyt about your feelings and when you get don't "telling them off" you're still gonna have to get over the shyt like you should have done in the first place.

This shyt is like you bumping your head on the ceiling and yelling at it. The ceiling doesn't give a shyt that it hurt you.

Seeking answers? More like having an emotional outburst and losing your composure. It's not a great big mystery why people cheat and asking a deceitful person why they deceived you is dumb flat out. You already know why they cheated. Tell them you're through with them and move on.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

I'm all for confronting someone when it actually accomplishes something but what you're talking about doing in literally pointless and will accomplish nothing. That person doesn't give a shyt about your feelings and when you get don't "telling them off" you're still gonna have to get over the shyt like you should have done in the first place.

This shyt is like you bumping your head on the ceiling and yelling at it. The ceiling doesn't give a shyt that it hurt you.

Seeking answers? More like having an emotional outburst and losing your composure. It's not a great big mystery why people cheat and asking a deceitful person why they deceived you is dumb flat out. You already know why they cheated. Tell them you're through with them and move on.

see, this is why i can tell you don't have balls. how do you know it won't accomplish anything? you're assuming too much and it's mostly based off the fact that you think you won't influence them or that they just don't care. you're letting how they feel control what you do. you don't have to try to influence them, you're suppose to be expressing yourself for your own sake. and, in a situation like that, it's important to express yourself because you're probably angry to begin with. to back down and disappear without explanation doesn't help you deal with what's making you mad, it's bad anger management. anger needs to be expressed, released. and i'm not talking about straight up fighting people when you're angry (that's another form of bad anger management). at the very least, you should tell them how you feel and not pretend like it didn't happen and disappear without explanation...

 

[Rockstar Mom]

Y'all nikkas SWEAR y'all so macho and emotionless.

Knowing once you find out you were cheated on, you gon leave the house and go cry in the car. Its OK to show feelings and emotions. I promise your manhood card won't be revoked on sight.


With that being said, I just want to know why. If I invested time and energy, Im at least owed an explanation.

 

[winb83]

see, this is why i can tell you don't have balls. how do you know it won't accomplish anything? you're assuming too much and it's mostly based off the fact that you think you won't influence them or that they just don't care. you're letting how they feel control what you do. you don't have to try to influence them, you're suppose to be expressing yourself for your own sake. and, in a situation like that, it's important to express yourself because you're probably angry to begin with. to back down and disappear without explanation doesn't help you deal with what's making you mad, it's bad anger management. anger needs to be expressed, released. and i'm not talking about straight up fighting people when you're angry (that's another form of bad anger management). at the very least, you should tell them how you feel and not pretend like it didn't happen and disappear without explanation...

Why would I want to influence them? I'm instantly done with them the moment they cheat and I discover it. My emotions are a light switch I control and I flip that off when I want to.

You're talking about doing the kinda shyt females do. Having emotional outburst and losing your composure. If I date a woman and she cheats and I discover it these are my final words to her; "I know what you did and its unacceptable. Me and you are through. I don't wanna talk about it or ever see or hear from you again. You're dead to me." That's all I'm saying to her. I'm not gonna cry and yell at her or ask how she could do that to me or ask why she did it or talk about feelings or tell her how I found out. She's a piece of crap and not worthy of another moment of my life.

 

[winb83]

Y'all nikkas SWEAR y'all so macho and emotionless.

Knowing once you find out you were cheated on, you gon leave the house and go cry in the car. Its OK to show feelings and emotions. I promise your manhood card won't be revoked on sight.


With that being said, I just want to know why. If I invested time and energy, Im at least owed an explanation.

My emotions are something I deal with because they're a part of being human but they do not control me and have minimal influence on my behavior. I've learned to disregard them. The majority of the time in life listening to your emotions will steer you wrong. Your emotions are one dimensional and self absorbed and only care about satisfying themselves. They don't care about your well being or what's in your best interest.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Why would I want to influence them? I'm instantly done with them the moment they cheat and I discover it. My emotions are a light switch I control and I flip that off when I want to.

You're talking about doing the kinda shyt females do. Having emotional outburst and losing your composure. If I date a woman and she cheats and I discover it these are my final words to her; "I know what you did and its unacceptable. Me and you are through. I don't wanna talk about it or ever see or hear from you again. You're dead to me." That's all I'm saying to her. I'm not gonna cry and yell at her or ask how she could do that to me or ask why she did it or talk about feelings or tell her how I found out. She's a piece of crap and not worthy of another moment of my life.

let me put it to you this way, you're a p*ssy if you're not trying to find out who's been fukking with your property, and why, and get some real answers. what you do after you find out is up to you. but walking away all heartbroken and not talking is some p*ssy shyt...

 

[winb83]

let me put it to you this way, you're a p*ssy if you're not trying to find out who's been fukking with your property, and why, and get some real answers. what you do after you find out is up to you. but walking away all heartbroken and not talking is some p*ssy shyt...

you don't get it. from the moment the you meet the woman you're prepared to leave her on the drop of a dime if she does anything you don't like. there's no heartbreak she cheated just disappointment in her for being the piece of shyt she is.

you're a p*ssy if some chick cheating on you affects you to the point where you're heartbroken. you're taking something empowering; you deciding you're done with the chick and dropping her because you won't accept her behavior and trying to turn it into some act of cowardice.

this is you flipping a switch in your mind off and the chick is dead to you because she disgust you with her behavior and its pointless to waste any more words on her. this is not you're afraid to confront her about what she did because you're afraid of her so you run with your tail tucked between your legs.

lastly no woman has even been nor will ever be your property. people aren't possessions.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

never a good idea to be mad at the guy, .

If he knew she was involved,

 

[Lavish]

never a good idea to be mad at the guy, unless the guy is ur friend. in which case, he deserves an ass whooping for the disrespect.

either way, be glad to have been given the chance to know who ur dealing with. this way so u know to sever ties early from the unscrupulous ones in your company.

yeah if my gf cheated unless I know the guy...no fuks would be given about him. I mean its open season. nikkas will be nikkas....its my gf who is at fault. that nikka dont owe me anything.

 

[PIFF101]

Never fukked with my brother or my friends girlfriends or ex's. So if it ever happens then he don't know me personally, so it's the game. I'll be mad as shyt but it's on her. Do I need an explanation...yea if we was together for a hit minute.

 

[GoldenGlove]

Can't co-sign this thread.

My HS sweetheart and the girl I lost my virginity to cheated on me. I knew something was up cause she was acting different/distant. I confronted her about it one night after we went out. We stopped having sex, so I was like something is up, and I just came out and asked her if she was sleeping with someone else. She was like yeah, shyt made me sick... we sat in her drive way for like 30 minutes talking. I wanted to know why, how, where it went down... she told me. I called her out of her name a few times, and how I felt. I was hurt brehs.



After I got some new ass I was good though.