No one has a problem with being picky but you cant use pickiness to delay ever getting married simply to have access to a revolving door of women the sex etc. because they don't meet some standard.
Secondly, sans having the children it seems like black women are punished the most for mistakes that we make in our youth because of the conditions in our community. No safety net, no disposable income, weak networks, etc.
Lastly I don't believe bringing anything to a table that a man wants to ultimately have complete control over. don't ask me to bring anything to the table but then want to lead absolutely. You want control, you supply the table.
One your first point you and I may be speaking on two different groups of men. One group looking for something the other selling a dream.
On your second point, life isn't fair. Some people make mistakes because of there circumstances some people avoid mistakes in spite of there circumstances. Some people get second chances after a mistake, some don't. No one is owed a second chance and it only hurts your chances of getting what you want from life to sit around blaming someone not giving you a second chance for you not having things instead of doing things to overcome the past.
On your last point a good marriage should be a partnership not one person having complete control. It should be two people coming together with the goal of working to make both there lives better and provide a better future for any kids involved. What the people bring to the table should be the resources, financial or otherwise, to move together towards those goals. This is why the screening process is so important, to get an understanding of who this person is and what they want from life. To figure out if you can work and live with this person to get what you both want and be happy.
I'm done with topic, it's been interesting talking to you. Have a nice day.
shyt
