Timothy Marley
Pro
my dikk's too big to be tied down to one girl. I have to give this gift to as many ladies as possible lol jk 
If you are over 35, why are you single?
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Larry Lambo
Superstar
Lack of a social life/social skills
Too picky
Too picky
They lyin about that
True. But you find a lot more women fitting into option 2 than others.
Again Women typically WANT TO GET MARRIED and just spend a good portion of their lives searching for a man that'll marry them.
Men on the other hand just want someone they love and will MARRY THEM BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT IT'LL TAKE to keep said woman.
Are you advocating staying in unhappy marriages? Perhaps (I feel like) you mean to say people give up more easily now than back in the day.
No more than I advocate staying in a unhappy job, but I would say work even if you're not thrilled by your job.
The best thing for kids would be if their parents could stay together and live happily ever after. This is the meat, potatoes, and greens of the whole subject.
You being bored or me needing more attention or one of us being bad with money or the normal bullshyt people divorce for - is almost meaningless in the face of the effect on children and therefore society.
So that's what I'm saying. You made your bed. You stood up and promised G-d and ya mama that you would stick it out. But then someone got bored and we just said fukc it. The kids can raise themselves while I go find someone new and interesting to fukc.
But guess what? You get tired of EVERY piece of ass. This should not be something you have a life event over. You should KNOW THIS GOING IN and fulfil your promise to deal with it. Getting married is all about giving up your wild romps and focusing on your babies. Their turn to fall in love and act stupid. You and their other parent are now just there to make sure they thrive and learn everything.
Not to be somewhere having a ball while your kid is crying for you.
shyt is making me mad just typing it.
So if you're not super duper 100% over the moon gung ho about STAYING married no matter what, then don't even fix your face to bullshyt yourself and everyone else with "I do". Just live together and use birth control until you get tired of fukcing them.
WaveCapsByOscorp™
2021 Grammy Award Winner
There isn't a set time for anything. Why is that so hard for people to understand? Having all those items doesn't mean your mentally ready for a partner.
D-NICE
All Star
I got married at 23, but if I was 35 and where I was at now, I can see how it might be hard for a guy to rush off and get married. My wife and I had each others back when were broke college students up until now where we are comfortable. If I had built all this up by myself, I probably ain't rushing just to share it with anyone. On top of that, the older I have got and I'm sure its the same for other, the less willing we are to deal with things we might have in my youth. Something they would have dealt with in my teens and 20's probably leads to guy going their separate ways at that age.
Uncle Kingpin
No Relation
I think it has alot to do with people beleiving the lie you dont have to settle for less than the perfect partner. The truth is there is no perfect person. Also, we have become brainwashed into beleiving being in love is a constant thing when it is like any other emotion. No one is in anger or in happiness or in sadness all the time so why would you be in love all the time? When love wavers we abandon the commitment necessary for long term relationships.
cocoabutter27
Pro
my dikk's too big to be tied down to one girl. I have to give this gift to as many ladies as possible lol jk
cocoabutter27
Pro
cocoabutter27
Pro
They understand this logically. Emotionally, they are way past tired of being by themselves.
I know the comfortable thought is a wife is a desire.....and it is for most men for a number of years....but as one ages, if the one doesn't land it becomes a passed over thought. Many of these types won't consider marriage again til bout late 40's or 50's when they start really considering aging alone.They are not
36-46 is still young and thuggin career years....most in this bracket can still pull a 25-28 year old (depending on swag and bag) can still vibe on some type of night life and have gotten used to cashing decent checks without anybody's hands out.
Just sayin, most be sayin that as a way in, (and maybe they mean it in the moment) but crash the p*ssy and get cool on the thought afterward.
At that age for women it be for real....for many men it be a nice thot (get it
)I got uncles....we talk
Priorities and I'm weird. Dikk wasn't a priority growin up. Ya'll know enough about me and how we had it rough growin up to know I've been hustling to make sure my parents are okay. Also i was hopping around from country to country in my 20s. For an entire decade I wasn't in one part of the world for more than 1-2 years. I went from Japan, to Thailand, to Canada, to the East Coast, to the south from 2006-2016. And I would send close to $800 home monthly.
I've had long-term relationships but I wasn't trying to get tied down with OOW babies or games or bullshyt.
After I finish this PhD program, and hopefully the world hasn't ended by then, I'll accept tenure at some university and settle in the area. I still don't even know if I want children b/c I've been working with kids for the last 15 years of my life and I travel a lot. I got a conference in San Diego and one in Tampa in March and in April.
Also I'm weird. I recently just started cooking from scratch everything i eat. I believe in multigenerational living which means I plan on purchasing enuff land and property to ensure I can have my parents and my partners parents close by b/c I don't believe in old folks homes. I am dating a really cool guy now but we will see how it goes. These things happen in their own time.
I've had long-term relationships but I wasn't trying to get tied down with OOW babies or games or bullshyt.
After I finish this PhD program, and hopefully the world hasn't ended by then, I'll accept tenure at some university and settle in the area. I still don't even know if I want children b/c I've been working with kids for the last 15 years of my life and I travel a lot. I got a conference in San Diego and one in Tampa in March and in April.
Also I'm weird. I recently just started cooking from scratch everything i eat. I believe in multigenerational living which means I plan on purchasing enuff land and property to ensure I can have my parents and my partners parents close by b/c I don't believe in old folks homes. I am dating a really cool guy now but we will see how it goes. These things happen in their own time.
Well said. Repped.
Constant sex and companionship is all it is some days. People have to be okay with routine. I had a girlfriend who grew up in an abusive household. Her mom verbally, emotionally and physically abused her daughters. Her dad would try to calm her down and then gave up and would go for a drive because his wife would abuse him as well. Anyway, my friend associated drama with love. All her relationships were like that. Her first husband was a cheater and abuser. When she finally divorced him and met her now second husband, she constantly tried to pick fights. She planned on breaking up with him multiple times because "he won't argue with me". Told her to stop being silly and settle down and let him love her. She finally got with the program and they have been married about 5 years now...she is deliriously happy. She is highly intelligent, but definitely had to adjust her idea of normal.
