If You Argue With Ya Chick, Y'all Probably Shouldn't Be Getting Married

[Sonic Boom of the South]

This dude legit stay posting shyt that sound like he never even been with a female

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

OP is right. They won't feel you though. People are too use to disfunction and don't value self improvement.

 

[Woman of god]

That's not what this thread is about. It's about arguing in relationships.

Google "what are signs of a toxic relationship?" if you want to know

U seem to have an "offbeat " view of male female relationships based on some of your other threads. I wanted to know becasue i thought it would help put those in perspective.

Also, a lack of 24 7 non stop feeling of love and flowers does not equal toxic. To never feel Turbulence is not realistic and not a symptom of toxicity

 

[MegaManX]

If you don't argue with your girl, its because she fukking someone else.

You must have some friction to keep a marriage fresh. Everyone playing nice in their own corner is automatic cheating guaranteed.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

i wanna see this mythical couple that does not have a disagreement every now and then,op.

OP said nothing about never having disagreements. Wifey and I disagreements all the time, but we can talk through them without cursing each other out.

 

[ball15life]

Just because you have not experienced or witnessed a relationship where arguing does not take place doesn't mean it isn't reality. Unfortunately there are more people like you then those that aren't when it comes to this topic. Y'all are so used to toxic relationships that it has become normal to y'all. Arguing is not an act of love, but an act of abuse.

How do children feel when their parents argue? They feel a level of discomfort, pain and abuse because that's what it is. How many people can say they were negatively affected by their parents arguments?

I agree 100%. Me and my siblings have all been affected by my parents arguing....they don't realize how bad, either. Over the weekend I was walking through the mall with my friends and we saw a little boy walking about 10-15 feet in front of his parents. The only thing he was saying was "stop fighting...stop arguing". I didn't mean to but subconsciously looked back at his parents like ...you can tell they were extra embarrassed. shyt hit home, man

It's natural (and healthy) to disagree with someone. Everybody is gonna have disagreements. That agruing/fighting is for the birds. If you/your S.O can't fully express yourself without having to resolve to arguing...chances are you probably don't need to be with them. IMO

 

[ndthentherewasx]

 

[Raava]

You can argue without cursing or insults.

Argument is an exchange of diverging or opposite views, typically a heated or angry one, but it doesn't always have to me a yelling match.

Having a normal argument doesn't mean your relationship is toxic, abusive, or you should be with that person. The issue is, the type of argument, if you are using abusive language, if they happen often.

 

[Poitier]

My grandparents are like 50 years deep and they still argue from time to time. How you argue and how you reconcile after the argument is key. Also giving space is necessary.

 

[Auger]

How the hell do you not get into arguments?

Every relationship (platonic or romantic) is going to have differences in opinions.

How you reconcile is telling. Contempt is killer

 

[Ronnie Lott]

There's a clear difference between having a disagreement and arguing.

Arguing doesn't even solve issues. It's pent up aggression and emotions that have been bottled coming out to the surface.

It's virtually impossible for couples not to argue from time to time. What "Leave it to Beaver" World do you live in

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Yall seem to have a real hard time grasping the difference between a disagreement/discussion and an argument.

I know the difference. My parents have been together all my life, and argued for most of it. How do I know they were arguing? Because they never came to any kind of productive conclusion. They always made it personal. A lot of times the shyt they were yelling and screaming about didn't even make sense. That's the difference.

If you can't talk through a disagreement with an S/O without shyt getting loud and personal it's not a good fit. Communication is everything in a relationship, arguments are signs of poor communication.

 

[Arishok]

You can argue without cursing or insults.

Argument is an exchange of diverging or opposite views, typically a heated or angry one, but it doesn't always have to me a yelling match.

Having a normal argument doesn't mean your relationship is toxic, abusive, or you should be with that person. The issue is, the type of argument, if you are using abusive language, if they happen often.

This, when u get two people together there are bound to be opposing views in things. It's about the way you both go about handling the situation. This is the main reason my ex and I didn't work out while I was trying to have a discussion on why something he did hurt me he would just shut down completely and leave then try to act like the situation never happened again when we met up.

 

[ⒶⓁⒾⒶⓈ]

This is ridiculous...If anything people who DONT argue are the ones who have an unhealthy power dynamic..one of them is dominating the other which will lead to resentment building up and maybe even exploding into double homicide suicide.

The question is whether you argue constructively and reach a workable compromise which is good OR yall make a Worldstar hip hop clip ..... which is bad.

 

[NO-BadAzz]

If you augue with your chick, only means you care about her...