If you ever needed to be reminded of why #GMB is undefeated...read r/DeadBedrooms

[Bolzmark]

Married and going YEARS without having sex? Absent some medical condition that is totally unacceptable.

 

[Queen]

straight hoe babble

Your mental deficiencies are a reflection of your status alone. Your issues have nothing to do with me. Stop being an attention whore.

 

[Deafheaven]

Your mental deficiencies are a reflection of your status alone. Your issues have nothing to do with me. Stop being an attention whore.

I have mental deficiencies but you on here talking about men should be glorified mind readers. Youre an adult,communicate like one and stop this woman whisperer shyt youre going on about. Some women are just not going to voice what they are feeling and apparently its the mans fault for that. Welp guess its a good way to remain blameless in your head

 

[Queen]

I have mental deficiencies but you on here talking about men should be glorified mind readers. Youre an adult,communicate like one and stop woman whisperer shyt youre going on about.

No, that is not what I said.

It is common sense that if someone is yelling and blaming someone for something then they are trying to communicate something. Therefore it does not make sense to say someone was blaming you for something while at the same time saying they refused to tell you what the problem is.

Someone not telling you the problem is not the same thing as someone not telling you the problem in a way that resonates with you.

ADULTS are able to cut through their fragile little egos, listen carefully, reflect, and determine if the person is expressing something that they can work on together or not. ADULTS recognize that everyone has a different style of communication so if you are married you need to learn how to communicate and listen in your spouses language, and they need to learn the same.

My comments do NOT mean that unclear and violent communication is okay, hence my comment that BOTH parties lack proper communication skills.

Good day.

 

[MaxPain]

I have mental deficiencies but you on here talking about men should be glorified mind readers. Youre an adult,communicate like one and stop this woman whisperer shyt youre going on about. Some women are just not going to voice what they are feeling and apparently its the mans fault for that. Welp guess its a good way to remain blameless in your head

Dont bother arguing with a woman. I see ur point but again, dont expect a woman to understand. Just lay the law down & if she acts stupid and uses that bs justified argument that chick is quoting u with....drop her.


Been telling dudes to start dropping non compliant females. They get so hurt

 

[BelowTheMasonDixon]

Use anecdotal stories from a site that is dedicated to stories about failed marriages to make a point brehs.

That shyt is fake as hell.

 

[010101]

don't cohabitate with broads
you keep em in a birdsnest & make sure your brat is gucci if you got one
but you keep your own space

*

 

[King Poetic]

 

[SmokyQuartz]

YOOOOOOOOOOOO!!! What kinda shyt!!??!

 

[Hiphoplives4eva]

I'll just tell u some things about women that might explain these why shyt like this happens.

1.) Birth Control-I HATE BC. It fukks up female sex drive, can dry you out, make u gain weight, and fukks with ur hormones. I got on BC once and became SUPER depressed and didn't want to even contemplate ANYTHING sexual, which is ironic b/c u get on BC so u can have sex w/o worrying about pregnancies. So if u have a wife or a woman on BC and u notice she's fukking bonkers, get her off. Shallowing a bunch of artificial hormones just doesn't bode well for our mental health. A month later off BC...let's just say we were going thru boxes of condoms on the weekends.

2.) Sex doesn't start in the bedroom. As women we don't turn it on and off like men do. A woman's desire to have sex isn't simply about the act. We're just not wired that way. But women are socialized to be sexual in the way men are sexual these days and men thus relate to women sexually the way they understand their own sexuality. Both parties are missing the mark. There's a reason why romance novels and fantasy can have a chick getting creamy from masturbation alone, while she cringes at u touching her. It's not that there is anything wrong with you. In fact she could even be fantasizing ABOUT u. But she has crafted a perfect, complex, contextual romantic fantasy version of you coupled with direct clitoris stimulation. OF COURSE she prefers that. So I would advise women to communicate with men more about this b/c a sexless relationship is not okay. AT ALL. And I advise men to realize that romance is as strong a need for women as sex is for men.

3.) Emotionally ya'll fukked up. Men can fukk women they literally can't stand as long as they turn u on. Ya'll can hate fukk chicks.
For women, that just doesn't work for us. Our minds and hearts are tied to our p*ssy. If you have irritated, disrespected, neglected or ignored our emotional needs, the LAST thing she wants is to see u huffing and puffin on top of her. If she stressed, sex isn't a priority. Strengthen the emotional bond between u and you'll have to beat her off with a stick.

4.) She doesn't like herself. Women are always self-conscious about our bodies. Your approval helps but can only supplement but not supplant a woman's view of herself. If she doesn't like the way she looks, she's not going to feel comfortable with u and none of this is ur fault as a man. Talk to her about it and u may have to dip if it doesn't get better b/c ultimately, even when u love somebody, ur not responsible for their view of themselves.

5.) You not as good at sex as you think- Women fake and this leads to a lot of dudes inflating their own skill level. And porn can't teach u much either. Experience and willingness to listen and try different things, as well as being sensual, and passionate makes for a good lover.
If ur the guy that kisses her for a couple of seconds, expects her to give a lil head, rubs her clit for a lil bit, then humps her, that might not be enough. Take ur time, don't ignore her clit, build intensity through eye contact, dirty talk and praise, alternating speed and intensity of strokes, not being afraid of bodily fluids, caresses before and after sex.
All of that will make her want more. And in some cases...
6.) SHE sucks at sex, which isn't necessarily bad unless u either don't want to teach her OR she too stupid or stubborn to learn. Awkward rhythm, excessive shyness, overthinks too much, not in touch with her femininity, just wants to rush and get it over, never gets wet, prudish.
Communicate but if it doesn't change, she gotta go.

7.) Lastly b/c we tend to want to have sex with men we are emotionally attached to, there is a good chance she not feeling you or is unattracted to you. The p*ssy is one of the most honest parts of a chick outside of confounding biological variables like BC fukking up ur hormones.
If there isn't anything like that going on, she just doesn't want you. PLENTY of women stay in relationships and have sex with dudes just for a certain lifestyle or just to say they got somebody but they don't love em. Pls don't waste ur youth on some chick trying to use u.

Sex isn't the most important part of a relationship, but I consider it to be the pulse. It tells you about the quality of the relationship. If both aren't having a fulfilling sex life, IMO, that foreshadows major issues in the relationship.
Just my two cents.

Sounds like some nonsense pulled out of a woman's weekly or something.

 

[Jasmine20]

Pretty much this. Although in this situation in the OP those women clearly don't love their men. When a woman loves a man she will work with him to show him how to please her. shyt she will go get those pills for him. I've seen it many times

Exactly. You can tell these women were never in love and never really attracted to their husbands. They probably just wanted marriage out of desperation and for stability. In the beginning they pretended they liked sex or tolerated sex with their husbands just to get a ring. Then after months or years of pretending, they couldn't keep up with the facade anymore.


This actually sounds like a horrible existence

Also @Booksnrain made a good point. It could be that she is insecure about her body and sex in general.

 

[SleezyBigSlim]

The Bible says you can divorce your wife for ANY reason. These dudes shouldn't feel bad for wanting to leave. In fact they should

 

[SleezyBigSlim]

No, that is not what I said.

It is common sense that if someone is yelling and blaming someone for something then they are trying to communicate something. Therefore it does not make sense to say someone was blaming you for something while at the same time saying they refused to tell you what the problem is.

Someone not telling you the problem is not the same thing as someone not telling you the problem in a way that resonates with you.

ADULTS are able to cut through their fragile little egos, listen carefully, reflect, and determine if the person is expressing something that they can work on together or not. ADULTS recognize that everyone has a different style of communication so if you are married you need to learn how to communicate and listen in your spouses language, and they need to learn the same.

My comments do NOT mean that unclear and violent communication is okay, hence my comment that BOTH parties lack proper communication skills.

Good day.

Would you agree that those women in the OP are getting dikked from elsewhere? Would you agree that if a woman's husband has bad sex she will work with him to make it better? In courage him to see a doctor, take pills or something? Only one way to look at it. Those women in the OP don't love their husbands. Wouldn't you agree? Most women put stability before dikk and will stay with a man who can't please them sexualy if he provides a comfortable lifestyle wouldn't you agree?

 

[DatNkkaCutty]

The more I read these types of pieces.....the more I lean towards monogamy being unnatural The couples that've been together a long time nd aren't OPENLY complainin about the same issues probably just aint puttin it out there. Again...it doesn't mean the couple isn't deeply in love.....I think the monotony just sets in NATURALLY. You could switch up the routine a thousand times throughout the marriage....but two facts will always remain the same. It'll always be the same p*ssy ....nd it will always be the same d**k ....That lust....that bloodflow....that adrenaline....u get when you take down some new yams .....can't be matched....nor duplicated...In other words..that feelin is undefeated . Its fuk'd up...because u like a crackhead always chasin that 1st high.....but rarely....if ever do u get it again...unless u try that new drug

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Sounds like some nonsense pulled out of a woman's weekly or something.

Lmao! I used to write advice columns for a local paper in my college town.
Take it with a grain of salt but some of these could be the problem. Regardless this stuff ain't natural. I was under the impression that u had MORE sex when u got married, not less.