If you finally get the woman of your dreams, who cares if she’s a single mom?

[Braman]

kills me how nikkas got so little room for nuance in these topics. The red flag depends on 'why' she got divorced not just the fact that she's divorced.

Husband becomes an addict and starts beating on her and kid?

vs

bytches old high school fling popped back up and she cheated with him

There's like a hundred possibilities

This is true, and I was gonna specifically mention that. However…it ain’t a hundred possibilities my brotha it’s legit like 1 or 2.

If she got a divorced for anything other than him cheatin or beatin, run. Women will ‘we grew apart’ you all day. Thats womenspeak and something you should take note of. That ngga got sick of her ass lmao She became a different person, etc

A jewel I learned with age is stop imagining a woman’s exes as different from you. We naturally imagine the ex as a ngga that fukked up. Nah, imagine he’s a nikka you could kick it with just like yo homies. What would HE say is the reason they got divorced Guarantee it’s not gon be as vague and rosey ‘oh we just grew apart’

 

[DJ Paul's Arm]

Simp

The only men who can date single mothers and not look like a simp are extremely rich dudes. At that point you have enough resources to raise another man’s b*stard child. But if you workin a 9-5 makin below 250k a year and you raising another man’s child you might as well call the child father your daddy to.

If anything, I’m runnin up on ol boy and askin for “father support” that pays under the table or else

Spoiler

 

[Verbal Kint]

Personally I don't get it. Why are cats so happily ok with having a woman who's slept with plenty of other men, to the point where nikkas will literally call other cats insecure if they don't want a woman who's got a lot of bodies on her, but then ALSO adamantly claim they don't want a woman with kids?

 

[Mindfield333]

No nikka but the odds of finding a non promiscuous single mom are slim to none. They are single moms for a reason. They bussdowns that got caught up or pushed to have a child

This is a weird thought process. A single
Mom to me is a women that happened to get pregnant lol. Plan B can fail/condoms break. Now I see nothing wrong with having a preference for childless women bc I do, But adding that extra shyt kinda weird.

 

[Imback]

every thing isn't a bad decision. people have relationships that fail, it is what it is, and yall act like that should hang over them for a lifetime. yall def overstate the number of women recklessly and knowingly chasing aint shyt men and then trying to get a good guy, that aint really how life works. the vast majority of people date people in their same socioeconomic bracket, a woman living in the hood is going to have access to hood men, who often aint shyt. yall act like some bird from the PJ's is rolling up to U Penn and being taken seriously by the men there, like she just has a choice to pull a college educated dude while not being in his same social sphere. people generally onle have access to what's similar to and near them, to make a change, black people need to be building strong families with values and improved economic conditions. but you cant do that when every segment comes up with more excuses as to why they aint marrying each other

You seem like yours hearts in the right place but you’re still defending bad behavior.

I’m not overstating anything the facts speak for themselves.

15% of black men account produce 40% of our children.

60% of black women are mothers at a 70% single rate.

Im not overstating anything that’s just the reality of our community. And it’s sad that black women that know better will still defend this mindset

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Personally I don't get it. Why are cats so happily ok with having a woman who's slept with plenty of other men, to the point where nikkas will literally call other cats insecure if they don't want a woman who's got a lot of bodies on her, but then ALSO adamantly claim they don't want a woman with kids?

I’ll make it simple for you, men with self esteem would rather buy a used Cadillac with high mileage, as long as it’s in good condition with no visible signs of previous ownership. It’s still a beauty that anyone would want to ride in.

Over a Toyota highlander that comes with baby seats in the back, candy all over the floor, toys you constantly step on and rarely having it to yourself.

 

[Rozay Oro]

she literally says she got pregnant by bad boys and is glad she met a geek to save her

Why does she need to tell the world this LOL?

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

You seem like yours hearts in the right place but you’re still defending bad behavior.

I’m not overstating anything the facts speak for themselves.

15% of black men account produce 40% of our children.

60% of black women are mothers at a 70% single rate.

Im not overstating anything that’s just the reality of our community. And it’s sad that black women that know better will still defend this mindset

where is this stat from? i'd like an academic source on this

and no one is defending bad behavior, i'm defending reality. people are around those similar to themselves, you got a bunch of people growing up in poor conditions and broken homes are doomed to repeat the same things, they do not have access to a lot of "good men" or "good women". did you grow up in the hood or attend shytty schools? just how many phantom "nerds" and "good brothas" were available? maybe 1 in 30? how are all the women supposed to go after him? yall literally are stuck on an internet scenario the numbers don't support

 

[TrifeGod]

I'll have a answer to this whenever I literally meet the girl I be dreamin' about..best you can do is remember that feeling and look for it irl good vibes type shyt

 

[Thanos]

Personally I don't get it. Why are cats so happily ok with having a woman who's slept with plenty of other men, to the point where nikkas will literally call other cats insecure if they don't want a woman who's got a lot of bodies on her, but then ALSO adamantly claim they don't want a woman with kids?

Thinking about other men while you are w/ another girl yall

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Some of you mafukkas have a single mom!

 

[CrushedGroove]

If y'all genuinely like one another and you and the kid have mutual respect for one another, it could be great. People have a tendency to have lives before you meet them at 35.

Oh this the Coli? My bad. I meant to say...ahem, the only thing that ever touched the pu$$y of my dream woman is a washcloth with Dove cucumber fresh bar soap.

...and Drake

 

[Easy-E]

Oh no. A divorced mom dared to find love again. fukk this single mom, she shouldn’t ever be loved by anyone again.

Am I doing it right?

Its the entitlement part that bothers men.
No sane person demands a parent to be single for life.
Men just tired of being called every name in the book for not wanting to be a stepdaddy

 

[MajesticLion]

If you're dealing with one of the many vanity machines like in the OP, of course not.

Other than that, if you are constantly singing this MGTOW-derived song of single-mothers-bad in the 3+ times a week threads that pop up around here and everywhere else online, something is seriously wrong with you. You are literally helping your enemies assault you psychologically.

Bad enough it's been done to the women and you allowed it, now you're doing it to yourself and thinking it's making you have any kind of power or control over them. It most assuredly is not. Shadenfreude fills no bellies.

And on top of that, extrapolate where all this goes in 10, 15, 20 years. Everybody's single out of fear/ego, everybody's got "bodies", everybody's got kids. Then what? You're going to build a future on that instead of learning how to be better in the face of what's being done to you?




Smarten up.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Its the entitlement part that bothers men.
No sane person demands a parent to be single for life.
Men just tired of being called every name in the book for not wanting to be a stepdaddy

very rarely is there a conversation demanding men be open to single moms, there is, however, plenty of conversation saying how men shouldn't date single moms and calling men simps for daring to care for kids that aren't theirs.