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The initial premise that you build your logic on is incorrect.

Your entire premise seems to equate men and women. To you, men and women are equal when that could be the furthest thing from the truth.

You're saying I'm using semantics to define options but no, I'm not.

I'll put it to you a different way. Women choose men. Women are the gatekeepers.

Why? Because if left to men, we would choose all of yall. Women are the chaste ones, the ones who say no 9 times out of 10.

You seem to think that because you could walk out your front door right now in a skin tight thigh high skirt that shows off your panties if you bend a little, and in a low cut blouse with your breasts hanging out, that because every man you encounter would want to have sex with you, that that means you have "options".

You're looking at it completely wrong. You choose. True enough. You would choose which out of the 100 men that you see that you want, but that's not options.

For the sheer fact that most women aren't seeking sex exclusively. Yall are seeking relationships or long term entanglements while 99 out of those 100 men you see would smash you and dash you.

How many men do you know that TRULY want to be in a relationship with you and aint cappin just to get you out your panties?

THOSE are your options. And I promise you, that number isn't gonna be anywhere close to the number of men that want to have sex with you.

Going back to what I originally said about your initial premise about men and women being equal... its wrong.

Because you're failing to take into account that men and women want very different things.

We call the number of women that want to sex us, our options.

Why? Because that's what we want.

Women would be better off calling the number of men who want relationships with you, your options.

Because that's what yall want.

Some of the most smart dumb nikka shyt I've seen in my life. Incredible.
 

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Just because you tell the female to “get over it” and try to save keep your marriage/relationship doesn’t mean that you’re condoning the behavior of the adulterous male.
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If you want to keep your family intact, hold on to your “high value” man, and not be a miserable single mother on the dating market, you’re going to have to forgive and work through that shyt. That’s all. People fukk up and men like p*ssy. Doesn’t make it right, but it happens.
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Now, if he’s just dogging you out, abusing you, and fukking everyone he meets with no regard, then the decision would be up to the woman. Maybe she’ll be happier without him, or maybe she’ll regret it and wished that she stayed to fix it (if fixable). Many women end up with the latter. That’s the risk. But, if she wants to stay with her man, she’s going to have to forgive, forget, and work with him in his repentance.
He told her to create a arrangement for him to cheat breh and they have no children. She was already out the door. She never asked his advice on her marriage and the marriage contributions are 60/40.
 

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exactly.

you do what you perceive you can do when you are broke, like wife up the first ting that comes your way even though you know you want something else.

But “something else” comes with something else effort and money. Now there are broke dudes cheating all day every day but they know who they can pull that shyt with because there are a trillion basic chicks out there. They can always get another.

when your bread is up you’re not thinking like these shady broke dudes. Likelihood of you exhaustively chasing women is much lower and you’ll quickly realize these females (whether basic or not) are choosing. Slide to these 30+ year old females and it becomes even more obvious.

Brehs who know how to move out here and have their shyt in order have no problem smashing 3-4 women in a regular rotation.
 

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Man nikkas nowadays got some utterly clown ass morals. If you got it popping like that why not have a open marriage from time? I can't fathom run behind my woman back like a little bytch lying and shyt trying not to get caught to get some cooter :mjlol:

Men and women are crazy and you put them in a situation like that and you got to except whatever type of demonic energy they come back with. If we are in a de facto mono relatoinship and I feel I need some new p*ssy we having that talk, and if she don't concede we separating. I've dealt with enough zany heauxs in my life to know cheatin is not the wave.
This. How does one consider themselves the leader yet has to sneak and hide? Never understood that logic. Seems so backwards.
 

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The initial premise that you build your logic on is incorrect.

Your entire premise seems to equate men and women. To you, men and women are equal when that could be the furthest thing from the truth.

You're saying I'm using semantics to define options but no, I'm not.

I'll put it to you a different way. Women choose men. Women are the gatekeepers.

Why? Because if left to men, we would choose all of yall. Women are the chaste ones, the ones who say no 9 times out of 10.

You seem to think that because you could walk out your front door right now in a skin tight thigh high skirt that shows off your panties if you bend a little, and in a low cut blouse with your breasts hanging out, that because every man you encounter would want to have sex with you, that that means you have "options".

You're looking at it completely wrong. You choose. True enough. You would choose which out of the 100 men that you see that you want, but that's not options.

For the sheer fact that most women aren't seeking sex exclusively. Yall are seeking relationships or long term entanglements while 99 out of those 100 men you see would smash you and dash you.

How many men do you know that TRULY want to be in a relationship with you and aint cappin just to get you out your panties?

THOSE are your options. And I promise you, that number isn't gonna be anywhere close to the number of men that want to have sex with you.

Going back to what I originally said about your initial premise about men and women being equal... its wrong.

Because you're failing to take into account that men and women want very different things.

We call the number of women that want to sex us, our options.

Why? Because that's what we want.

Women would be better off calling the number of men who want relationships with you, your options.

Because that's what yall want.

First off if you think women aren’t on par with men then it’s not worth a conversation.:yeshrug:

The point I was making was specifically calling some men out on their hypocrisy to claim that they cheat due to increased sexual opportunity, as if that’s an excuse to have a lack of self control. If it is, then anybody who has multiple opportunities would be justified, right?
Welp, as you’ve stated, women have multiple sexual opportunities so by the “I got sooo many opportunities to fukk that I can’t control myself” logic, women should be fukking everything too.

Bottomline is cheating is a choice and it’s about selfishness and a lack of self control. All this overemphasis on gender differences to avoid being able to respect your partner in a committed relationship doesn’t fly.

If you can’t treat your partner the way you wanna be treated, you not high value, you not marriage material, you not relationship material: you are a liability. (Not you specifically but in general)
That’s my litmus test for a good partner. I don’t ask anything of my friends, family and lover that I’m not willing to do for them to the best of my ability. I expect the same from them. And if I’m gonna cut out good dikk, good vibes and interactions from other men, then my partner needs to be willing to do the same with other women.

But you’re free to have your hot take on this. I can respect it even if I vehemently disagree with it:yeshrug:
 

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I wouldn’t say green light but yes. The less you bring to a relationship the less a person will compromise. If you’re a kept woman (or man) then what they do with someone who doesn’t matter will be seen as frivolous to them since you’re the one that’s kept. You’re the one at was chosen. You matter. And side action really shouldn’t be a major issue since you just want to be kept. And if you want more than that, then why didn’t you bring more to the relationship?

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He told her to create a arrangement for him to cheat breh and they have no children. She was already out the door. She never asked his advice on her marriage and the marriage contributions are 60/40.

Yeah. I got you. I can’t rock with that. That’s just a bunch of nonsense he’s spewing, and I usually agree with Kevin. That’d be an unfair and unrighteous “marriage”.

I say that as a pretty “macho/machismo” and patriarchal type of man. If you want to be out here fukking hoes and having affairs, then either remain single or find you a woman that’s totally and truly fine with that.

Dude would be better off with a woman that’s down with polygamy, or a woman that just doesn’t give a fukk. Both of which are harder to come by. If she’s not down with that, and/or he refuses to be monogamous, then they’re better off without one another.
 
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This. How does one consider themselves the leader yet has to sneak and hide? Never understood that logic. Seems so backwards.

this is the most important question asked in this thread. I've seen it asked many times over the years, never heard a non-juelzing answer.
 
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