Ight I'm learning now... Being a Nice Guy is no way to Win

[Arithmetic]

@Nomadum I'm in a similar situation, but being a gentleman is not why I haven't got her yet. Just do you. If she's feeling you, she will let you know.

 

[Labadi_Mantse]

nah, maybe when young. but the older you get the more your looks work against you, especially in the trust category and the preconceptions.

know how many times I had the question asked "I bet you get alot of girls don't you?" if I say no, I'm lying and she knows it so now it's "I knew this nikka was a liar" if I say "yea" then it's "Oh he think he a player".

I don't know, but I don't think being attractive to the opposite sex works for women with a head on her shoulders. for women with no standards to their guy choice or personal life choice then looks is all she cares for. but a dame with shyt going for her ain't about to let a cute dude fukk up her world, not easily atleast.

 

[Arithmetic]

nah, maybe when young. but the older you get the more your looks work against you, especially in the trust category and the preconceptions.

know how many times I had the question asked "I bet you get alot of girls don't you?" if I say no, I'm lying and she knows it so now it's "I knew this nikka was a liar" if I say "yea" then it's "Oh he think he a player".

I don't know, but I don't think being attractive to the opposite sex works for women with a head on her shoulders. for women with no standards to their guy choice or personal life choice then looks is all she cares for. but a dame with shyt going for her ain't about to let a cute dude fukk up her world, not easily atleast.

There's some truth to the last paragraph. A woman with self-respect like someone saving themselves for marriage can look past the looks any day. They'll find you easy on the eyes, but that's it.

 

[dontreadthis]

This.. ages old platitude needs to be put to rest.
I'm the nicest dude I know, and I could fukk 80% of your wives / women... Married or otherwise.


The rule is this.
Look out for yourself first, and everything else will follow.
Hint: In the above sentence, "everything" is bolded for a reason.

#NiceGuysFinishFirst

well then you wouldn't be very nice if you did that, would you?

 

[ShenJingPoQi]

Women are quite easy to understand, your just inexperienced like alot of dudes are.

Mixed signals are bad signals, your just wasting your time and sanity.

It seems that every dude these days likens themselves as "a$$holes", but in reality alot of these dudes are insecure males trying to make up in areas they severely lack. Don't be them, your much better than that..

Focus on yourself and continue to better yourself in every facet of life and you will find getting women becomes easy.

Constantly read up on everything so you atleast have an idea of pretty much everything that way you was always have something to talk about or contribute to an conversation.

Appreciate yourself.

Have an sense of humor and laugh at yourself.

Don't let anyone walk over you. Nice guys do finish first but spineless guys do not finish at all.

Eat healthy and work out enough where a women can instantly tell that you work out no matter what type of clothes you have on.

Wear clothes that compliment your body type. Not too baggy but not too tight.

Learn that you are just as much as a prize as these women think they are.

If a woman isn't cooperating with you, drop her immediately and go ghost with no explanation. (one word replies, long periods of getting back to your call/text, flaking out on dates etc)

It's really that simple.

Thank you,

This is the advice these fatherless men need. Men, you are the prize not women. This is the mentality the so called “a$$hole” has; he doesn’t put anyone or thing ahead of him.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

well then you wouldn't be very nice if you did that, would you?

 

[Still Benefited]

I honestly genuinely feel this way.

I've never had that much success with women...or people in general. 30 years old and never had anything close to a serious girlfriend. I'm just not that type. I get mad when I see happy couples or couples in general cause I know that will never be me. This country's not for me. I hate the way the people are. And the fact that I got to be one of "those" people to even succeed at things like general happiness, relationships, whatever. Like I only know how to be me and it seems most people don't like that. Sometimes I wish I was never born here or alive in general. This existence of constant loneliness is hellish...but the only thing I know. So I embrace it. It makes me a stronger person.

I just don't care anymore.

Any reason why you wouldnt move?These are some strong statements,if you think the country is keeping you unhappy like that you need to start saving your money and get a passport asap. I'd rather be in heaven on a island without all the luxuries than feel horrible about life just becuz you comfortable here,when really you not comfortable

 

[beck]

i hate it when fukkers say they nice, just cause they simps and get out the way to do things for girls for some puss....
nice guy is doing good things during the day just because that's how you are built, regardless of the rewards

and you should focus on investing on yourself breh, the girls will come...just do things during the day that make you a better 'version of yourself' (elliott hulse referenced) and have realistic expectations.....girls are attracted to thaa shyt....

 

[Aceofspades404]

I honestly genuinely feel this way.

I've never had that much success with women...or people in general. 30 years old and never had anything close to a serious girlfriend. I'm just not that type. I get mad when I see happy couples or couples in general cause I know that will never be me. This country's not for me. I hate the way the people are. And the fact that I got to be one of "those" people to even succeed at things like general happiness, relationships, whatever. Like I only know how to be me and it seems most people don't like that. Sometimes I wish I was never born here or alive in general. This existence of constant loneliness is hellish...but the only thing I know. So I embrace it. It makes me a stronger person.

I just don't care anymore.

If seeing happy couples makes you mad then you do not genuinely feel that way. You just use it cope bc you think it'll never be you.
You said it yourself, not me.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yup, anything I do for someone I do without expectations.

Its your birthday I'm buying you a gift. I don't expect vagina or head not even thanks.

i hate it when fukkers say they nice, just cause they simps and get out the way to do things for girls for some puss....
nice guy is doing good things during the day just because that's how you are built, regardless of the rewards

and you should focus on investing on yourself breh, the girls will come...just do things during the day that make you a better 'version of yourself' (elliott hulse referenced) and have realistic expectations.....girls are attracted to thaa shyt....

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

If seeing happy couples makes you mad then you do not genuinely feel that way. You just use it cope bc you think it'll never be you.
You said it yourself, not me.

Sometimes I feel I need to go somewhere and not be around people for a couple of years.

Other peoples happiness is my misery.

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

fukk playing this game I'm so fukking sick and tired of the bullshyt other people got to put my way. People make me fukking sick to my stomach.

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

Any reason why you wouldnt move?These are some strong statements,if you think the country is keeping you unhappy like that you need to start saving your money and get a passport asap. I'd rather be in heaven on a island without all the luxuries than feel horrible about life just becuz you comfortable here,when really you not comfortable

I'm moving out of this country within 5 years. I'm sick of it.

 

[Aceofspades404]

Sometimes I feel I need to go somewhere and not be around people for a couple of years.

Other peoples happiness is my misery.

I honestly have no advice for you. Sorry to hear you are like that.

 

[Arithmetic]

Talked to a homie today to tell him about the shortie I told y'all about. explaining how she be sending mix signals with the whole she seem interested 1 day next day she on some cold shyt. my homie said some shyt that make me go ....... my homie said "You be trying to solve women like Math problems. you too nice and you over think shyt. just focusing on one will have you thinking she on some shyt"



And real talk, I've noticed in the past that being an a$$hole always work. chicks would stay on me, but the minute I go Mr.Gentleman and shyt and all of a sudden I get that instant friendzone treatment like "Oh yyyeeaa?". so now I know what I have to do

Got to pretend to be an a$$hole until I get in.

women like high level math breh's, only Asian's understand them easily

Link me to the the thread you're talking about.

Girls with some morals are fickle like that. They will want to know your deepest secrets one second, but the first time you even try to INSINUATE you enjoy their presence, they go . Men are built from the flesh to be able to tolerate such consistent inconsistencies. The key is to never let her know you feel her until she gives you a CLEAR sign that she wants you to come get it. It's 2015 and we still have to play these games all to preserve pride and ego. If you are a handsome ass nikka like me, you can pull a chick a day. But when you find that one you really like, and she doesn't feel you back off top, it can rub your ego something real. Then you fall into the chase, and sacrifice your core principles. If you really like her, you'll keep her around somehow someway without continuing to sacrifice the principles.