I'm a 35-year-old virgin and I won't have sex before marriage. The 9 men I've dated so far have been jerks about it.

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Cracking me up how same dudes slamming hos for hoing are slamming a virgin for not hoing
Came to say the same.

There was a female poster on here a few years ago that admitted to being a virgin with a similar stance as the chick in the op and you had dudes getting butthurt....but continued complaining about loose women in other threads :pachaha:
 
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Probably had a traditional dad who made sure she was taken care of, but didn’t make sure another man (husband) came in to handle that responsibility. My family is kinda like that to be honest. Older single people, people with kids can still call home for help. Lol
Nah, her father had some good licks lined up ready to take her and she didnt trust her father judgement. It says so right in article. That lets you know where her head is at, she not really "traditional" how she tryna portray. How you half way traditional? Either you trust the process or you dont. Daddy had doctors and Lawyers ready and able, he did his part but she wouldnt even meet up with them. Aint no such thing as half way crooks.
 
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I've found that the people who stick to waiting, men and women, either a) have weird intimacy issues, sometimes because of past trauma (like being sexually assaulted or such) or b) have low sex drives.

I would guess that she's one of these. Maybe not, but probably, it's one of these.

No need to make it part of your identity, though. That's a bad way to cope.
 
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I've found that the people who stick to waiting, men and women, either a) have weird intimacy issues, sometimes because of past trauma (like being sexually assaulted or such) or b) have low sex drives.

I would guess that she's one of these. Maybe not, but probably, it's one of these.

No need to make it part of your identity, though. That's a bad way to cope.
Most of the time it's religious reasons. Given her traditional Hindu background, probably the same for the woman in the story. As you mentioned the problem lies with it becoming part of one's identity. Many women and men from that 90s and early 2000s' "Purity Movement" got married, started fuqing, then struggled to cope with a major part of their identity missing. It lead to a lot of sexless marriages.
I grew up in the church and know tons of women who saved themselves for marriage and got married. So the idea that when she was 25, no dudes shooting their shot were willing to wait for sex is ludicrous. She just didn't like her options. Unfortunately, we don't choose our own value, the marketplace does.
 
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Most of the time it's religious reasons. Given her traditional Hindu background, probably the same for the woman in the story. As you mentioned the problem lies with it becoming part of one's identity. Many women and men from that 90s and early 2000s' "Purity Movement" got married, started fuqing, then struggled to cope with a major part of their identity missing. It lead to a lot of sexless marriages.
I grew up in the church and know tons of women who saved themselves for marriage and got married. So the idea that when she was 25, no dudes shooting their shot were willing to wait for sex is ludicrous. She just didn't like her options. Unfortunately, we don't choose our own value, the marketplace does.
Different religion, but I will say that I knew a lot of devout Christians who started having sex in relationships. I think even considering religion, people will do what they need to if they have that drive. I think a lot of people with low sex drives hide behind their religion because it's a more socially acceptable way to refuse sex than just saying you have low sex drive.

I have known some religious couples who broke up because one got married to the other expecting regular sex and not realizing that their partner wasn't really into putting out within a marriage, either.
 
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Different religion, but I will say that I knew a lot of devout Christians who started having sex in relationships. I think even considering religion, people will do what they need to if they have that drive. I think a lot of people with low sex drives hide behind their religion because it's a more socially acceptable way to refuse sex than just saying you have low sex drive.

I have known some religious couples who broke up because one got married to the other expecting regular sex and not realizing that their partner wasn't really into putting out within a marriage, either.
I believe a lot the people hiding their low sex drive with religion are men. Nearly half of the people online complaining about their sexless relationship or sexual incompatibly are actually women. The Christian virgins I referred to couldn't cope with the fact that the sexual acts they do in marriage are identical to the "Sinful & Evil" acts they shytted on before marriage.
 

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I've found that the people who stick to waiting, men and women, either a) have weird intimacy issues, sometimes because of past trauma (like being sexually assaulted or such) or b) have low sex drives.

I would guess that she's one of these. Maybe not, but probably, it's one of these.

No need to make it part of your identity, though. That's a bad way to cope.
And promiscuous ppl have no issues even tho more than half the population is clearly mentally ill and afflicted?
 

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Petty Vandross.. fukk Yall
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