I’m absolutely going thru it right now brehs

[Jerz]

If you love ya mom n grams - you shouldn't behave like that. I ignored my oldest niece for yrs because she had a smart mouth. We lost her to a car accident last October. It ain't worth being petty

 

[Dr. Acula]

I'm actually more productive working in the office than remotely. I feel that. I don't work remotely if I don't have to. When I'm in the office my mind is very much "work mode" so I find I focus better. I admit I slack off and don't feel as focused at home. Too many distractions and comforts. At work with my dual screens and being forced to be in my cubicle does make me feel better even if on paper it sounds like a drag.

Unfortunately, right now I have to. I couldn't imagine being forced to be around people in the house who you're constantly beefing with.

Folks can go out and walk around outside and be fine. As long as you minimize the distance with other people. Find a trail that is not populated much and walk or jog. Download AllTrails and you can find various trails and hikes along with their difficulty levels. If you have a bike, find somewhere secluded and go for a ride. It's not healthy to be in the house ALL THE TIME. You will go nuts. Just use common sense.

I've seen a few people gathering on sidewalks and in the street though chatting it up. Now that's dumb.

 

[Rosecrans]

Live without fear and without hatred and things will resolve themselves

 

[Womb Raider]

If you love ya mom n grams - you shouldn't behave like that. I ignored my oldest niece for yrs because she had a smart mouth. We lost her to a car accident last October. It ain't worth being petty

Y’all nikkas not even reading what I’m saying. It’s like talking to a brick wall in here.

 

[Kokoro]

People always tryna tell someone how to react or how to feel

OP you good, it’s alright to feel the way you’re feeling. Just meditate on it and don’t let it manifest in your mind. Feel how you’re feeling, let it pass over you and then be still.

Then you assess. Think logically, and figure out the next move and you can conquer this and all challenges

 

[Black_Panther_JS]

You don’t understand what I mean when I say they are toxic and that’s because you aren’t in my shoes. I’m going on 26 years old and I’ve been past my threshold for stress even without her in my life. The last thing I will do is listen to the advice of someone on the outside who considers the toxicity of family members to be “frivolous”.

I know exactly what you mean, my mom and my uncle have done or said things to me out of anger in the past way worse than something like laughing at your dad's passing. My family is also "toxic" and I haven't spoke to most of them since thanksgiving, not for petty reasons like them being toxic though. At the end of the day most things people harbor on is pointless. Someone could say they wanted me to die and I still wouldn't hate them because to me it really doesn't matter, the opinions and actions of others mean very little to me which is why i said "being toxic" is a frivolous thing to care about. You letting peoples words and actions control your mind is your problem.

 

[Womb Raider]

I know exactly what you mean, my mom and my uncle have done or said things to me out of anger in the past way worse than something like laughing at your dad's passing. My family is also "toxic" and I haven't spoke to most of them since thanksgiving, not for petty reasons like them being toxic though. At the end of the day most things people harbor on is pointless. Someone could say they wanted me to die and I still wouldn't hate them because to me it really doesn't matter, the opinions and actions of others mean very little to me which is why i said "being toxic" is a frivolous thing to care about. You letting peoples words and actions control your mind is your problem.

Toxicity isn’t “frivolous”, it’s poisonous. If someone actively makes my life stressful every time I let them back in, who’s fault is that? Mine. It isn’t happening again. You call it petty, I call it self preservation. LOL at letting people’s words and actions control my mind, my mom played her part in creating and designing my damn mind....

 

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

I know exactly what you mean, my mom and my uncle have done or said things to me out of anger in the past way worse than something like laughing at your dad's passing. My family is also "toxic" and I haven't spoke to most of them since thanksgiving, not for petty reasons like them being toxic though. At the end of the day most things people harbor on is pointless. Someone could say they wanted me to die and I still wouldn't hate them because to me it really doesn't matter, the opinions and actions of others mean very little to me which is why i said "being toxic" is a frivolous thing to care about. You letting peoples words and actions control your mind is your problem.

In other words, you’re a doormat

 

[The Fade]

Y’all nikkas not even reading what I’m saying. It’s like talking to a brick wall in here.

Sometimes blood is not thicker and these nikkas don’t get it


I had to cut my brother off

 

[Black_Panther_JS]

In other words, you’re a doormat

Not in any sense of the word

 

[Abstract83]

Toxicity isn’t “frivolous”, it’s poisonous. If someone actively makes my life stressful every time I let them back in, who’s fault is that? Mine. It isn’t happening again. You call it petty, I call it self preservation. LOL at letting people’s words and actions control my mind, my mom played her part in creating and designing my damn mind....

I'd say keep your distance for awhile. Clear your mind and get your thoughts together. Write somethings's down like someone said. And to be honest with u i dont care if its family or friends. If its toxic people in your life that's causing u stress. U have to do what's best for u. I'm not gonna say disown ur family. But I'd say monitor how u communicate with them. A lot of that shyt is unhealthy for u mentally. And it can take a toll on how u feel about yourself and how u may treat others. Set some boundaries in your life. If u are a caring person be careful with who u let in. And what u will tolerate. This is your life u have to take control of it. Cause honestly a lot of people dont give a shyt. So you have to. Your self worth is important breh.

 

[Mtt]

I know we all are going thru shyt and I hope each and every last one of us gets thru these days of Rona


Since the year began I’ve felt more comfortable at work than home...and now with this Rona shyt even at work I feel like

being home with untrustworthy people, reminding me that we’re in the end phase of our friendship makes me feel inside Then I gotta go to work and literally put my well-being at risk until further notice

haven’t spoken to my mother since she cut my phone off last year and calls me on the daily (I don’t answer, she’s toxic)

Grandmom keep reaching out to me on fb (I don’t answer, she’s toxic)

At the same time I’m worried sick about the people that I care and love for

I try to keep it all together inside but some days I just don’t know man praying for everyone including myself

Perhaps create a lil strategy that those who you don't really want to talk to you can lump them together to call you on say, 'tuesdays and Sundays at around 3pm" so that way you can alleviate unwanted family calls.
But the nitty gritty of what your going thru I'm glad you at least recognize your depressed frustrated etc and not trying to drown your issues with drugs vices....
It's sucks you not comfortable in your environment. Maybe you can lose your self learning a skill, or new language, something to occupy your time and that can enable you to interact with potential friends offline down the road joining groups online.

 

[GoAggieGo.]

Can’t say I know what you’re going through, but I can say that I’m going to keep you in my prayers. If you can, go talk to a counselor or therapist breh. It’ll do you some good to get all that out. It would be good if you can hash it out with ya moms and grams as well. Life here on this earth is short for us all

 

[Biscayne]

Just know, they'll get on you for calling your mom and grandmother toxic. I wish you all the best.

 

[Womb Raider]

Perhaps create a lil strategy that those who you don't really want to talk to you can lump them together to call you on say, 'tuesdays and Sundays at around 3pm" so that way you can alleviate unwanted family calls.
But the nitty gritty of what your going thru I'm glad you at least recognize your depressed frustrated etc and not trying to drown your issues with drugs vices....
It's sucks you not comfortable in your environment. Maybe you can lose your self learning a skill, or new language, something to occupy your time and that can enable you to interact with potential friends offline down the road joining groups online.

Thanks fam. I will try. These next 4 months are going to be pretty stressful for all of us, I pray we all make it thru.